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This Hurts Me More Than It Hurts You?Nurturing ParentingSection 12.2GOALTo Teach Parents Alternative Methods of Behavior Encouragement and Management to Physical/Corporal Punishment

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OBJECTIVES

To Provide Parents With a Review of Strategies to Replace Physical Punishments.To Empower Parents by Brainstorming Alternatives to Hitting and Spanking.To Increase Parents’ Sense of Competence With Their Children.

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What Have We Done?

We have already learned a number of alternatives to spanking such as: praise, time-out, appropriate expectations, choices and consequences, “I statements” and “You Messages”.

Can you give me an example of each?

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Food for Thought

a. Being a good parent is hard work!b. There are no magic pills or magic

wands that will make it happen over night.

c. It takes a long dedicated effort by the parent to raise a bright, self confident, happy and successful person.

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Food for Thought (cont)

a. Have your family meetings consistently.b. Be consistent in establishing rules and

giving consequences and rewards.c. Always listen to your child and give

advise in a caring way – don’t preach.d. Be respectful of your child as a person.e. Be very patient and loving. Always give

hugs and say kind things when you have the opportunity.

f. Once again – listen to your child!

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For the next 40 minutes the group will watch a video that presents problem parent-child interactions. At the end of each segment, I will turn off the video and we will discuss what happened and what alternatives could have been used instead of spanking.

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Let’s Watch a Movie!!!

“This Hurts Me More Than it Hurts You.”