#10 – Blended Families - Part I

In Love for Life

Building or Rebuilding a Great Marriage

Mike Mazzalongo

Blended Family - Statistics

• 48% of all first marriages end in divorce.

• 79% women & 89% men remarry• 68% of remarriages have children from previous marriages

“thebondedfamily.com”

Blended Family - Statistics

• 21 New blended families formed every day in U.S.

• Less than 12% divorced or single parents go too church because they, “…don’t feel the church cares about their broken lives.” “thebondedfamily.com”

Blended Family – Biblical Examples

• Jacob and two wives

Blended Family – Today’s Examples

• Subsequent marriages

Blended Family – Today’s Examples• Subsequent marriages

• Single parents with multi-partner children

Blended Family – Today’s Examples• Subsequent marriages• Single parents with multi-partner

children

• Grandparents raising grandchildren

Blended Family – Today’s Examples• Subsequent marriages• Single parents with multi-partner

children• Grandparents raising grandchildren

• Multigenerational– Adoptive situations– Group homes

REASONS FOR DIVORCE IN 1ST MARRIAGES

Reasons for Divorce in 1st Marriages

1. Immaturity

Reasons for Divorce in 1st Marriages

1. Immaturity2. Sex

Reasons for Divorce in 1st Marriages

1. Immaturity2. Sex3. Marriage

Preparation

Reasons for Divorce in 1st Marriages

1. Immaturity2. Sex3. Marriage

Preparation4. In-Laws

Reasons for Divorce in 1st Marriages

1. Immaturity2. Sex3. Marriage

Preparation4. In-Laws

5. Values Conflict

Reasons for Divorce in 1st Marriages

1. Immaturity2. Sex3. Marriage

Preparation4. In-Laws

5. Values Conflict6. Adjustment

Problems

Reasons for Divorce in 1st Marriages

1. Immaturity2. Sex3. Marriage

Preparation4. In-Laws

5. Values Conflict6. Adjustment

Problems7. Child Rearing

Reasons for Divorce in 1st Marriages

1. Immaturity2. Sex3. Marriage

Preparation4. In-Laws

5. Values Conflict6. Adjustment

Problems7. Child Rearing8. Finances

REASONS FOR DIVORCE IN 2nd MARRIAGES

Reasons for Divorce in 2nd Marriages

1.Child Rearing

Reasons for Divorce in 2nd Marriages

1. Child Rearing

2.Finances

Reasons for Divorce in 2nd Marriages

1. Child Rearing2. Finances

3.Relatives

Reasons for Divorce in 2nd Marriages

1. Child Rearing2. Finances3. Relatives

4.Values

Reasons for Divorce in 2nd Marriages

1. Child Rearing2. Finances3. Relatives4. Values

5.Sharing of Tasks

Phil. 3:13-14

13 Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.

How To Prepare - Phil. 3:13-14

1.Know Your Mate and Children

How To Prepare - Phil. 3:13-14

1. Know Your Mate and Children

2.Understand Children’s Needs

How To Prepare - Phil. 3:13-14

1. Know Your Mate and Children

2. Understand Children’s Needs

3.Build a New Relationship

How To Prepare - Phil. 3:13-14

1. Know Your Mate and Children

2. Understand Children’s Needs

3. Build a New Relationship

4.Include Everyone

Arriving at Unity

Arriving at Unity

1.Avoid Co-Conductor System

Arriving at Unity

1. Avoid Co-Conductor System

2.Give Up Previous Role

Arriving at Unity

1. Avoid Co-Conductor System

2. Give Up Previous Role

3.Establish Ground Rules

Ground Rules

• Courtesy

Ground Rules

• Courtesy

• Family Rules

Ground Rules

• Courtesy

• Family Rules

• Fairness

Ground Rules

• Courtesy

• Family Rules

• Fairness

• Division of Labor

Ground Rules

• Courtesy

• Family Rules

• Fairness

• Division of Labor

• Spiritual Goals

ONLY JESUS CAN MAKETWO INTO ONE