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HUMAN SEXUALITY:

Premarital Sex, AnObstacle to Castit!


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"Human Sexuality : A #i$t%&' Te (irt)e o$ Castit!

*' Obstacles to #ro+in in Castit!

a' "Is Homosex)alit! O-.%b' Pornora/! an0 Prostit)tion

c' Premarital Sex

0' Arti$icial Contrace/tion


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Premarital SexYes or No?

Why?


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Arguments for & against: pre-marital sex

For:

a. Sexual experience andcompatibility is essential in

choosing a marriage partner

b. Pleasure is a good in itself

c. Tradition must be adaptedto our changing lifestyles

d. A private matter

Against:

a. Sex is a function of love,which is expressed throughmarriage.

b. Pleasure alone debases sexas an ‘animal’ act

c. amily cannot be sacri!ced

for a change in tradition.

d. Sex is not purely a privatematter because its naturalfruition is a baby.


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What is your personal view?

■ Write it in your SW notebook …as SW#1


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“common argument” in favor:

“Sex” could be done for pleasurealone. What makes it wrong is the

Church/Biblical teaching. In itselfnothing could be wrong. oing itdoesn!t make a girl/woman less ofa girl/woman.


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Final argument:

a. “sex only”• Unfair to baby• Dera!es sex "hih is inti$ate an! %ery &ersonal...it beo$es a

$ere o$$o!ity•

'oun! to hurt eah other b. “sex ( o$$it$ent )$arriae”• No baby to be unfair of *birth control +• No li$etime commitment

. “sex ( o$$it$ent ($arriae”

• ,&ens to a baby• Li$etime commitment

Unless one were

“promiscuous”…even in

very liberal societies…

related to “virtue” and

self-control/discipline

Churchsview


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Sexuality signifies an essential dimension of

the whole person:

&leasure

lo%e&ro)reation

S1 2*: Can !o) ta3e a

/iece +ito)t !o)

becomin "ba0%. 1!.


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Small roup Sharing

■ -or$ rou&s of an! o$e u&

"ith a rou& o&inion.

■ /e&ortin in 0 $inutes


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! "uy courts a "irl because he

wants to love her…not to havesex with her…so love should

come prior to sex#


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So sex for pleasure!

■ o"ers the !inity of a $an2"o$an as it

onsi!ers the hu$an &erson as a “an

instrument of sexual pleasure” "eus Caritas #st$.■ Sexuality beo$es a $ere o$$o!ity like

a tool or ob3et4 hene the hu$an bein

"hih is an i$ae of 5o! is e6uate! to a$ere tool2ob3et.■ 7t !e$eans the !inity of a $an2"o$an


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What Catechism of the Catholic Church says against “ sex

for pleasure:"

%&'().“*ust is disordered desire for or inordinateen+o,ment of sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasureis morall, disordered when sought for itself-

isolated from its procreatie and unitie purposes.”


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#ove $ commitment: w%w!o marriage?

o$$it$ent ) $arriae• 'oun! to be unfair to baby...so no baby...•

No commitment too.• "for what reasons$” sel$is moti4es.

o$$it$ent ( $arriae•

-air to the baby...if any o$es alon...• o/en to ne+ li$e an0• +it $)ll commitment'


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“If two people are truly in love, why can’t

they get married?”

“lo%e” “$arriae” “sex”

Unless they are notreally…rea!y4

so is sex ae&table

"ithout $arriae?


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“commitment ”

■ *ife itself as free for interpretation

or ambialent...on how one iews it...

" optimist/pessimist $...■ he commitment in marriage...keeps ,ou within its

bounds... and will sae the relationship...come what

ma,.

■ Without commitment...it would be natural to letgo...end the relationship...and wouldn!t someone

feel used or get hurt0


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in shorthow should love be?

lo%e

• No $arriae• No o$$it$ent

lo%e

• With $arriae• With o$$it$ent

precarious

love%

“may

hurt”###no

"uarantees&u

nsure love$

secure love%

“come what

may” &

sure love

“'f you were (od)where will you

situate sex$”


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'arriage is li(e a har)or in the stormy seas

of life*


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“to cap off”

lo%e• not 3ust

&leasur

e• beaus

e it is

%ery

inti$ate

$arriae• true

o$$it

$ent

sex• *baby

is a fruit

of lo%e• "ith

o$$it

$ent• is safe


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+atechism of the +atholic +hurch:

■ #189:. In his merc, 1od has not forsaken sinful

man2

3fter the fall- marriage helps to oercome self4

absorption- egoism- pursuit of one5s own pleasure-

and to open oneself to the other- to mutual aid andto self4giing.


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What Catechism of the Catholic Church says against “ sex

for pleasure:"

#;


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+hurch: the two!fol, function of marriage*shoul, )e

intertwine, not ta(en apart

lo4e /ro5creation


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What Catechism of the Catholic Church says against "Pre!

'arital Sex:"

#;


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“ !eus Caritas "st ”#!ec$%, $&&%'

■ Tis ne+ 4ie+ o$ lo4e, an essential no4elt! o$

Cristianit!, as not in$re6)entl! been consi0ere0 in a

com/letel! neati4e sense as te re$)sal o$ 7eros7

an0 o$ all tins cor/oreal' Alto) tere a4e been

ten0encies o$ tis nat)re, te meanin o$ tis

0e4elo/ment is 6)ite 0i$$erent'

■ 7Eros," /lace0 in te nat)re o$ man b! is Creator,

nee0s 0isci/line, /)ri$ication an0 mat)rit! in or0er not

to lose its oriinal 0init!, an0 not be 0era0e0 to tele4el o$ bein /)re 7sex,7 becomin a mere

commo0it!'

http://ppt/slides/Deus%20Caritas%20Est.dochttp://ppt/slides/Deus%20Caritas%20Est.doc


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“!eus Caritas "st”

■ >he hristian faith has al"ays onsi!ere! $an as a bein in "ho$

s&irit an! $atter are $utually intert"ine!4 !ra"in fro$ this a ne"

nobility. >he hallene of =eros= $ay be sai! to ha%e been o%ero$e

"hen $an@s bo!y an! soul are in &erfet har$ony. >hen lo%e truly

beo$es =estasy4= but not estasy in the sense of a &assin$o$ent of eu&horia4 but as a permanent departure from the +'+

closed within itself towards freedom in the "ivin" of self an!4

&reisely in this "ay4 to"ar!s the re!iso%ery of self4 or rather4

to"ar!s the !iso%ery of 5o!. 7n this "ay4 =eros= an raise the hu$an

bein =in estasy= to"ar!s the Di%ine.


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What are the - main teachings on human

sexuality?

1. Sex is $eant for lo%e an! &roreation

"hih $eans $arriae.

;. Sex for &leasure alone is a sin beause it!era!es $an to the le%el of a o$$o!ity.

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