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Seminar


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The Divine Surgeondemonstrated

compatibility by creatingAdams wife from one of

his ribs.

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility


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It is not good for the

man to be alone. I

will make a helpersuitable for him.

Genesis 2:18, NIV



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At different stagesof the life cycle,our needs aredifferent.

Big differences inage can result inthe inability of oneto satisfy theneeds of the other.

This would resultin serious maritalconflict.



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Big Differences inlevels of education

can cause acouple to do fewerthings together.

Separate activitiescan generatedifferent circles offriends.

This can causepartners to driftapart from each

other.



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Beloved, I pray thatyou may prosper in all

things and be inhealth, just as your

soul prospers.3 John 2



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In our multi-culturalworld, culture isrelevant to marital

compatibility.

Some culturaldifferences are

simple and can beeasily solved.

Others are complexand need to beexamined andresolved to facilitatemarital success.



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Negative Influence

Like mother, like daughter!You

are your mother's daughter,

loathing husband and children;and you are the sister of your

sisters, who loathed theirhusbands and children.

Ezekiel 16:44,45



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To a great extent, we are

products of the values of ourparents, for it is in the home

that, as children, we seemodels, develop concepts

and unconsciouslyassimilate standards of

behavior.



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Two are extroverts

Two are introverts

Two are people-oriented

Two are task-oriented

Try to identify your owntemperament, as well as your

partners own.

There are Four Basic Types of

Temperaments:

Th M t K t M it l C tibilit


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The SanguineStrengths:

Out-going

TalkativeCharismatic

Center of attraction

Weaknesses:Self-Centered and

egoistical

Impulsive

Restless and

Unstable


Examples:Peter and Deborah



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Strengths: Easy-going

Agreeable

Very Supportive

Pacifist

Prefers compromise

Weaknesses: Tends to preserve status

quo

Tentative

Indecisive

Procrastinating


Examples:Abraham and Ruth

The Phlegmatic



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The Melancholy Strengths: Analytical

Orderly Diligent and very

detailed

Has deep emotions

Very Creative

Weaknesses: Oversensitive

Shy and moody

Has guilt feelings

Examples:Moses and Mary



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A person may have

more than one

temperament. It isusual, however, that

one is dominant.

So, it is very likely,

that I have a primary

temperament, and atleast one secondary

one.



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So, What Do You Think?

I think that my primary

temperament

Is ______________.

I think that my partners

primary one

Is ______________.

You can compare and

discuss.



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Sanguine: Influencer Choleric: Doer

Phlegmatic: Relator Melancholy: Thinker



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If I am not yet

married

Couples completelysimilar could

experience boredom.

Couples completelydifferent could be inconstant conflict.

Couples more similarand less different couldfacilitate compatibility.


I must take in account that:



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If I am already

married

I must accept andrespect my spousesdifferences.

Place my partnersdesires above myown.

Allow my spousesstrengths tocomplement my

weaknesses.



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While there are various

keys like:

Age

EducationHealth

Culture

Family Values

Temperaments

Spiritual life is the

Master key!

If we both belong to the

Family of God,

we hold the master key

to marital compatibility!

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Nor shall you make marriages with

them. You shall not give your

daughter to their son, nor take their

daughter for your son. For they will

turn your sons away from followingMe, to serve other gods; so the

anger of the LORD will be aroused

against you and destroy yousuddenly.

Deuteronomy 7:3,4

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Do not be unequallyyoked together with

unbelievers.2 Corinthians 6:14

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Family

Of Satan

Family

Of God

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Spiritually speaking,

There are only two families



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Two Questions

Am I part of thefamily of God?

Is my partner part

of Gods family?

We are all born into

Satans family, andmust be converted into

Gods family.

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Jacob was a

thief - stole from his brother

liar - lied to his blind father

runaway - separated forever

from his loving mother

Lonely, disappointed and discouraged,

he lay on the ground and went to sleep.



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But the good news is:Our Loving God

did not forsake him!

Genesis 28: 11-13


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God was telling Jacob!

I still love you! The Master Key to Marital Compatibility


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Next morning, Jacob

journeyed to Haran.He spent 5 years, 10 years,

15 years, 20 years!He married, got a family,

got wealthy!But he experienced

no change spiritually!



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Then one day, Jacob got bad news!

Esau was coming

with 400 armed soldiers-ready for revenge!

Jacob was terrified!

He made lifes most important

decision.



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Jacobs Decision

Before I face Esau tomorrow,I must get right with God

TONIGHT! The Master Key to Marital Compatibility


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Then Jacob was left

alone; and a Man wrestledwith him until the breaking

of day.Genesis 32:24


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IT WAS MIDNIGHT!

Suddenly a hand grabbed him!

Was it Esau?

Hour after hour they wrestled!Then the Man touched his thigh.

He became paralyzed!

It wasnt a man!



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Lets listen to

their conversation

in Genesis 32:26-28



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Jesus: Let Me go,

for the day

breaks.

Jacob: I will notlet You go unless

You bless me!

Genesis 32:26



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Jesus: What is your

name?

Jacob: Jacob

(deceiver).

Jesus: Your nameshall be no longer

be called Jacob

(deceiver), but

Israel (victor)!

Genesis 32:27,28



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A MIRACLE!

Jacob was changed!

From thievery to

honesty!

From lying totruthfulness!

From deceiver to

victor!



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Create in me aclean heart, O

God, Andrenewa steadfast

spirit within

me.Psalm 51:10

I will give you anew heart and

put a new spiritwithin you.

Ezekiel 36:26

My prayer. Gods Answer.

ITS A MIRACLE!The Master Key to Marital Compatibility


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ITS A MIRACLE!

The drunkard

becomessober!

The drug-user

becomes anabstainer!

The smokerbecomes drug

free!The abuserbecomes a

care-giver!



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If anyone is in Christ,

he is a new creation;old things have passed

away; behold, all thingshave become new.

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Adultery changesto purity!

Revelry changes

to sobriety!Gambler becomes

a money-saver!

Hurter is changedto healer!


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Happy Family Bible Seminars has

been created for the glory of God

through the grace of Christ by

inspiration of the Holy Spirit

GRATITUDE

Authors:


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Authors:

Gordon & Waveney Martinborough

Producer:Centro Audiovisual Digital

Designers:

Jos Rojano, Alex Camacho

Enrique Urquijo & Federico Jay Davis

Copyright 2004 by Gordon & Waveney

Martinborough and Inter-American Division of the

General Conference of Seventh Day Adventists

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