60 ways to keep your husband

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60 Ways to Keep Your Husband's Love

1. Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a femalea man doesn't want a

man for his wife!

2. Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a home-maker, don't stay in your

sleeping suit all day.

3. Smell good!

4. Don't lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him

a little mental break.

5. Don't keep asking him, "what are you thinking?"

6. Stop nagging non-stop before Allah ta'ala gives you something really to complainabout.

7. Absolutely no talking about your spousal problems to anyone you meet, not evenunder the pretense of seeking help! If you think you want to solve legitimate marital

issues, then go seek counseling with the right person who can give advice in either:

8. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be

kind to your own mother.

9. Learn all the rights and obligations of each other in Islam. Focus on fulfilling yourobligations, not demanding your rights

10. Race to the door when he comes home, as if you were waiting for him. Smile and

hug him.

11. Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.

12. Compliment him on the things you know he's not so confident about (looks,intelligence, etc.) This will build his self-esteem.

13. Tell him he's the best husband ever.

14. Call his family often.

15. Give him a simple task to do at home and then thank him when he does it. This

will encourage him to do more.

16. When he's talking about something boring, listen and nod your head. Even askquestions to make it seem like you're interested.

17. Encourage him to do good deeds.

18. If he's in a bad mood, give him some space. He'll get over it, inshaAllah.

19. Thank him sincerely for providing you with food and shelter. It's a big deal.

20. If he's angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while you're quiet.You


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will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when he's calm, you can tell him yourside of the story and how you want him to change something.

21. When you're mad at him, don't say "YOU make me furious", rather, "This action

makes me upset". Direct your anger to the action and circumstance rather than athim.

22. Remember that your husband has feelings, so take them into consideration.

23. Let him chill with his friends without guilt, especially if they're good guys.

Encourage him to go out, so he doesn't feel "cooped up" at home.

24. If your husband is annoyed over a little thing you do (and you can control it),then stop doing it. Really

25. Learn how to tell him what you expect without him having to guess all the time.

Learn to communicate your feelings.

26. Don't get mad over small things. It's not worth it.

27. Make jokes. If you're not naturally funny, go on the internet and read somejokes, and then tell them to him.

28. Tell him you're the best wife ever and compliment yourself on certain things you

know you're good at.

29. Learn to make his favorite dish.

30. Don't ever, EVER talk bad about him with friends or family unnecessarily. If theyend up agreeing with you, you will see that it hits you back in the face because you

get more depressed that you have a bad husbandand other people also think you

have a bad husband.

31. Use your time wisely and get things accomplished. If you're a home-maker, takeonline classes and get active in your community. This will make you happy and a

secondary bonus is that it impresses your husband.

32. Do all of the above fee sabeelillah and you will see Allah put barakah in

everything you do.

33. Husband and wife should discuss and communicate with wisdom with each otherto convey what they like and dislike of each other to do or not to do. Do NOT give

commands or instructions like he's your servant. "They are garment to each other"[Surah Baqarah, 2:187]

34. Tell your husband you love him, many, many times. Aisha ( ) narratedthat the Prophet ( ) used to ask her how strong her love for him, she saidlike "a knot." And the next time he would ask her, "How is that knot?" He also used

to reply to her saying, "Jazzakillah, O Aishah, wallahi, you have not rejoiced in me asI have rejoiced in you."

35. Have a race with your husband and let him win, even if you are much fitter and

stronger than him.


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36. Keep fit and take care of your health so you will remain a strong mother, wife,

cook and housekeeper, inshaAllah you will not get FAT and frumpy.

37. Refine and cultivate good mannerisms i.e do not whine, don't laugh or talk tooloud or walk like an elephant.

38. Do not leave the house without his permission and certainly not without hisknowledge.

39. Make sure all his clothes are clean and pressed so he is always looking fresh andcrisp.

40. Don't discuss important/controver sial matters with him when he is tired or

sleepy. Find right time for right discussion.

41. The way to a man's heart is through his stomach.

42. Always let him know that you appreciate him working and bringing home the

"dough". It makes it easier for him to go to work.

43. Make sure you ALWAYS have something for dinner.

44. Brush your hair, everyday.

45. Don't forget to do laundry.

46. Surprise him with gifts. Even necessities, such as new shoes, can be gifts.

47. Listen to him. (Even when he talks about extremely boring things like basketball

or computers.)

48. Try (hard as it might be) to take interest in his hobbies

49. Try not to go shopping too much and spend all his money.

50. Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with him.

51. Learn tricks and "techniques" to please your husband in intimacy. (Of coursegoes both ways.)

52. Prepare for special evenings with him with special dinner and exclusive time (no

children permitted).

53. Take care of your skin, especially your face. The face is center of attraction.

54. If you not satisfied intimately, talk to him and tell him. Help him or provideresources, don't wait until matters become worse.

55. Ask Allah to strengthen and preserve the bonds of compassion and love between

the two of you, every day, every prayer. Ask him to protect that bond fromShaytaan. When a lesser devil destroys the love between spouses, he is the most

beloved of Shaytaan. Nothing works like du'ah, and love only exists between spouses


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where Allah instills it.

56. Don't EVER compare your husbands to other husbands! For example don't say,"well her husband doesn't do that, why do you " (thats a killer!)

57. Be happy with what you have because no one is perfect. If you want perfection,

wait until you enter Jannah together inshaAllahand of course, vice versa!

58. Strive for Allah's love first and foremost! if all wives try to seek Allah's love and

pleasure, surely, they can keep their husbands love too. And rememberif Allah

loves you, the angels will love you, and the entire creation will love you.

59. If you pack a lunch for your husband to take to work, from time to timesneak in a little love note or sweet poem. If he doesn't take a lunch, leave the note

somewhere else for him to find, like in his briefcase, or wallet or on the car steering-wheel

60. Wake him up for Qiyam ul-Layl (in the last third of the night) and ask him to

pray with you.

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