7 ways to communicate better with your partner

8/12/2019 7 Ways to Communicate Better With Your Partner http://slidepdf.com/reader/full/7-ways-to-communicate-better-with-your-partner 1/2 7 ways to communicate better with your partner ABS-CBNnews.com Posted at 02/06/2014 9:38 PM | Updated as of 02/07/2014 12:10 PM MANILA – Communication can either make or break most relationships. In an interview on the radio dzMM program “Sakto” on Thursday, family and relationship expert Joji Racelis shared seven tips on how partners can more effectively connect with each other. 1. Keep your voice soft Talking to your partner in a softer voice – as opposed to shouting or sounding sarcastic – will help a lot in getting your point across without the unnecessary drama, said Racelis. “Nakakatulong siya kasi kapag malakas ang boses mo, it can be really threatening [for some] lalo na kung sensitive „yung pinag-uusapan. Tapos „pag pagalit „yung dating, magiging defensive „yung usapan so they put up their walls,” she said. “Kapag mas malambing „yung boses, mas madaling [makipag-usap], hindi nakakatakot,” she added. “So don‟t yell [at your partner] o mabagsik ang dating.” Racelis said the key is to make your voice sound “natural with very mild modifications.” “You have to regulate it pero natural pa rin. Kasi kung „yung natural mo hindi naman malambing tapos bigla kang naging malambing, para ka namang plastic . So it‟s best to really adhere to your personality with very mild modifications,” she said. 2. Always make him/her feel important Competition between partners is common, especially if they belong to the same field of work. Men, for instance, tend to feel insecure about themselves if their wives or girlfriends have a higher income, noted Racelis. Given this, she said partners must be more sensitive and make it a point to highlight each other‟s talents and skills. “Look for areas where your partner excels. So maybe in terms of earnings hindi masyado, but he or she makes them feel safe or he or she is very good with the children,” she said. “Affirmation sa pareho ay important.” 3. Don’t make accusations, just say what you feel There is a huge difference between saying what you feel and making an accusation, said Racelis, who stressed that the former can cause a lot of harm to a relationship. “Never make accusations because that is painful,” she said. When asked to suggest a way to better express your feelings without hurting your partner unnecessarily, Racelis said: “Like when you say, „you don‟t love me,‟ naga-accuse ka. But if you say, „I feel like you don‟t love me‟ or „I feel like you don‟t respect me,‟ malaking kaibahan „yun kasi hindi mo dine-declare that it‟s a fact.” 4. Make sure actions are consistent with intentions It‟s one thing to want the best for your partner, and it‟s another thing for you to give it to him or her, said Racelis. She said some people do not realize that they are becoming too harsh to their partners because they are blinded by their good intentions. “For example, my intention is to correct you para „di ka mapahiya sa iba, so I have good intentions. Pero minsan ang dating sa partner ay naminintas ka lang. E di nasasayang „yung good intention,” she said. 5. Leave your stress at the door Do not turn your partner into a stress ball when your day did not go well, said Racelis, who stressed that loved ones should be treated with respect.

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7 ways to communicate better with your partner ABS-CBNnews.comPosted at 02/06/2014 9:38 PM | Updated as of 02/07/2014 12:10 PM

MANILA – Communication can either make or break most relationships.In an interview on the radio dzMM program “Sakto” on Thursday, family and relationship expert Joji Racelis shared

seven tips on how partners can more effectively connect with each other.

1. Keep your voice soft

Talking to your partner in a softer voice – as opposed to shouting or sounding sarcastic – will help a lot in getting yourpoint across without the unnecessary drama, said Racelis.

“Nakakatulong siya kasi kapag malakas ang boses mo, it can be really threatening [for some] lalo na kung sensitive„yung pinag-uusapan. Tapos „pag pagalit „yung dating, magiging defensive „yung usapan so they put up their walls,”she said.

“Kapag mas malambing „yung boses, mas madaling [makipag-usap], hindi nakakatakot,” she added. “So don‟t yell [atyour partner] o mabagsik ang dating.”

Racelis said the key is to make your voice sound “natural with very mild modifications.”

“You have to regulate it pero natural pa rin. Kasi kung „yung natural mo hindi naman malambing tapos bigla kangnaging malambing, para ka namang plastic. So it‟s best to really adhere to your personality with very mildmodifications,” she said.

2. Always make him/her feel important

Competition between partners is common, especially if they belong to the same field of work. Men, for instance, tendto feel insecure about themselves if their wives or girlfriends have a higher income, noted Racelis.

Given this, she said partners must be more sensitive and make it a point to highlight each other‟s talents and skills.

“Look for areas where your partner excels. So maybe in terms of earnings hindi masyado, but he or she makes themfeel safe or he or she is very good with the children,” she said. “Affirmation sa pareho ay important.”

3. Don’t make accusations, just say what you feel

There is a huge difference between saying what you feel and making an accusation, said Racelis, who stressed thatthe former can cause a lot of harm to a relationship.

“Never make accusations because that is painful,” she said.

When asked to suggest a way to better express your feelings without hurting your partner unnecessarily, Racelissaid: “Like when you say, „you don‟t love me,‟ naga-accuse ka. But if you say, „I feel like you don‟t love me‟ or „I feellike you don‟t respect me,‟ malaking kaibahan „yun kasi hindi mo dine-declare that it‟s a fact.”

4. Make sure actions are consistent with intentions

It‟s one thing to want the best for your partner, and it‟s another thing for you to give it to him or her, said Racelis.

She said some people do not realize that they are becoming too harsh to their partners because they are blinded bytheir good intentions.

“For example, my intention is to correct you para „di ka mapahiya sa iba, so I have good intentions. Pero minsan angdating sa partner ay naminintas ka lang. E di nasasayang „yung good intention,” she said.

5. Leave your stress at the door

Do not turn your partner into a stress ball when your day did not go well, said Racelis, who stressed that loved onesshould be treated with respect.