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Page 1: 9/19/2015 Makin’ It Work Lesson 5: Stop & Think Module II: Keeping Self-Control © 2008 by Steve Parese, Ed.D. Transitioning from Corrections to Community

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Makin’ It Makin’ It WorkWork

Lesson 5:Lesson 5:

Stop & ThinkStop & Think

Module II: Keeping Self-ControlModule II: Keeping Self-Control © 2008 by Steve Parese, Ed.D.© 2008 by Steve Parese, Ed.D.

Transitioning from Corrections Transitioning from Corrections to Community and the World of to Community and the World of WorkWork

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Words of Words of WisdomWisdom

“True power lies in SELF-control.”

What do you get out of this? How does it apply

to you?

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1. Read new story about Nick

2. Learn three steps to Stop & Think

3. Practice using steps in mock situations

4. Review & MiniQuiz

Today’s Today’s LessonLessonToday’s lesson will teach us how

to stop & think in difficult work situations, before we react impulsively and face negative consequences.

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Nick’s Story Nick’s Story 22Let’s read along on page 28.

““Nick was sitting in his Nick was sitting in his employment counselor’s employment counselor’s office…”office…”

Questions after reading:Nick could have handed this situation much better.

Use the story to find the answers to the questions on page 29.

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About Stop & Think

The third rule of self-control is to stop and think.

It doesn’t solve the problem, but it keeps it from getting worse until we can think more clearly.

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Stop & Think 3-StepStop & Think 3-StepStep 1: Be Quiet (Mouth) Slow down verbally. To keep self-

control, you first have to stop talking.

Step 2: Calm Down (Body)Slow down physically. Give yourself some time and space to calm down.Step 3: Think Positive (Mind)Finally, slow down mentally. Interrupt negative thinkng that makes you upset.

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Nick’s Stop & ThinkNick’s Stop & Think

Step #1: “Be Step #1: “Be Quiet”Quiet” Nick could have ___________

Nick’s “moment of truth” came when he was confronted by his employment counselor. He should have calmed down instead of walking out the door. What exactly could he have done to

use these steps?

Step #2: “Calm Step #2: “Calm Down”Down” Nick could have __________Step #3: “Think Step #3: “Think Positive”Positive” Nick could have __________

Fill in the blanks on page 29.

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Stop & Think ExamplesStop & Think Examples

High Risk Situation #1:You are interviewing for a job you KNOW You are interviewing for a job you KNOW you are qualified for. The interviewer you are qualified for. The interviewer looks at your application and notices the looks at your application and notices the section about felony arrests. He closes section about felony arrests. He closes the folder and looks away.the folder and looks away.

To use Step 1: Be Quiet: ____________________

To use Step 2: Calm Down: __________________

To use Step 3: Think Positive: _______________

Complete the chart on page 31

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Stop & Think ExamplesStop & Think Examples

High Risk Situation #2:You are working a new job, trying to keep to You are working a new job, trying to keep to yourself and stay out of trouble. You walk into yourself and stay out of trouble. You walk into the kitchen one day to get a cup of coffee the kitchen one day to get a cup of coffee before your shift starts. The room suddenly before your shift starts. The room suddenly gets quiet, and you notice that everyone gets quiet, and you notice that everyone seems to be looking at you.seems to be looking at you.

To use Step 1: Be Quiet: ____________________

To use Step 2: Calm Down: __________________

To use Step 3: Think Positive: _______________

Complete the chart on page 25

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Stop & Think ExamplesStop & Think Examples

High Risk Situation #3:You are working as a clerk in a convenience You are working as a clerk in a convenience store. You are trying to stock the cooler in store. You are trying to stock the cooler in between customers, and don’t notice the 16-between customers, and don’t notice the 16-year-old kid waiting at the counter. He yells year-old kid waiting at the counter. He yells out, “Hey! What’s wrong with you? Are you out, “Hey! What’s wrong with you? Are you blind?”blind?”

To use Step 1: Be Quiet: ____________________

To use Step 2: Calm Down: __________________

To use Step 3: Think Positive: _______________

Complete the chart on page 25

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Group Skit Activity

How will you Stop & Think?How will you Stop & Think?

_______________________________________

Prepare small group skits to role play your stressful work situation and your calm professional response to it. Do not try to solve the problem for now. Just show us how you could stay calm and get through it.

Think about a hot spot situation at work:

How can you How can you Be QuietBe Quiet (mouth)? (mouth)?

How can you How can you Calm DownCalm Down (body)? (body)?

How can you How can you Think PositiveThink Positive (mind)? (mind)?

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KEY POINT #1KEY POINT #1Stop & Think has three steps:

Be Quiet (mouth); Calm Down (body); and Think Positive (mind).

It takes a serious effort to use these steps in high risk situations.

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KEY POINT KEY POINT #2#2

Stop & Think is like putting the brakes on. It doesn’t solve the problem, but it

helps us slow down and get back in control so that we

can think straight again.

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MiniQuiz #5MiniQuiz #5Let’s complete the

MiniQuiz in the workbook and review

it as a group.

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Today’s Words of Today’s Words of Wisdom:Wisdom:

“True power lies in SELF-control.”

How does this fit in with our lesson?

What is ONE THING you learned in this class that you will remember after

leaving?