a biblical conciliatory approach to conflict resolution
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The Peacemaker. Tim Knight Manuel Prabhudas Group and Conflict Issues in Leadership LDRS 561 Azusa Pacific University January 2010. A Biblical Conciliatory Approach to Conflict Resolution. Alternative Dispute Resolution A Biblical Model Peacemakers, founded in 1982 by Ken Sande. - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
Tim KnightManuel Prabhudas
Group and Conflict Issues in LeadershipLDRS 561
Azusa Pacific University January 2010
A Biblical Conciliatory Approach to Conflict Resolution
The Peacemaker
Alternative Dispute Resolution
A Biblical ModelPeacemakers, founded in 1982 by Ken
Sande
Training individuals, businesses and organizations to pursue Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) through a specialized, conciliatory approach
Peacemaking vs. Escape/Attack Responses
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God.
Matthew 5:9
Personal Peacemaking Overlook an Offense
Reconciliation
Negotiation
Overlook an Offense
Forgiveness of an offense (Prov.19:11)
Not to talk, dwell, or grow into bitterness or anger
Reconciliation More serious to overlook and
damages the relationship Confession, loving correction,
and forgiveness Be reconciled with that person
(Matt. 5:23-24) Forgive as Christ forgave us (Col.
3:13)
Negotiation This relates to
things unlike relationship issues such as money, property, and other rights. (Phil.2:4)
Assisted Peacemaking
Mediation
Arbitration
Accountability
Mediation Mediation between two people
by an outside objective person Mediators ask questions and
give advice to guide the individuals (Matt.18:16)
Final decision is made by the individuals involved in the conflict
Arbitration One or more arbitrators to
be involved and make a binding decision to settle the conflict (1 Cor. 6:4)
Accountability Person is a Christian but does
not desire to be reconciled Accountable to Scripture for
repentance, justice, and forgiveness
Leaders in the church will lovingly intervene (Matt.18:12,17)
The PAUSE Principle of Negotiating
Phil 2:3-4; Matt. 7:12 Prepare Affirm relationships Understand interests Search for creative solutions Evaluate options objectively and
reasonably
Escape Responses
• Denial
• Flight
• Suicide
Attack Responses• Assault
• Litigation
• Murder
Reasons People Respond Negatively to Conflict• People in conflict bring to the table
all of their incompleteness• Lack of skills to deal with conflicts
makes matters worse• People view conflict negatively and
therefore respond negatively• People view conflict through the
lens of their previous negative experiences
People in conflict bring to the table all of their incompleteness
• Immaturity
• UN Secretary General’s Comments
Lack of skills to deal with conflicts makes matters worse
People view conflict negatively and therefore respond negatively
People view conflict through the lens of their previous negative experiences
• 9/11: a collective negative experience
Evaluating Organizational Peacemaking Culture• Do people show genuine respect for the
opinions, interests and reputation of others?
• When there is a disagreement, do people try to speak the truth in a loving way?
• Do people resolve disagreements constructively among themselves?
• Do people value relationships and work hard to preserve them?
• Do leaders provide a consistently positive example of resolving conflict?
• Do people show compassion toward others who are very different or difficult to love?