A Feelings and Faces PresentationTHE HAPPY TO BE ME GROUP

•Ashley Van Dyke

•Ryan Dubicki

•Rebecca Trainor

•Palmer Fry

•Tessa Lamirande (Therapist)

My Feelings• POSITIVE (UP FEELINGS)

– SILLY– BRAVE– HAPPY– COOL– SURPRISED

• I COMMUNICATE MY FEELINGS– VERBALLY (USING MY WORDS)

– NONVERBALLY (USING BODY LANGUAGE, FACIAL EXPRESSION, AND BODY POSTURE)

• NEGATIVE (DOWN FEELINGS)

– SHY

– SCARED

– HURT

– GUILTY

– EMBARRASSED

– SAD

– ANGRY

– WORRIED

Silly Ashley

• I feel SILLY when…– My friends make me laugh– When I’m playing outside with my

friends– When I think about funny things

• (I also act silly when I am feeling anxious or guilty)

Silly Ryan• I feel SILLY when…

– I play outside with my friends

Silly Becky• I feel SILLY when…

– I play with my friends– When I am feeling

hyper

Silly Palmer• I feel SILLY when…

– People make funny comments/jokes

What a SILLY Group

Brave Ashley• I feel BRAVE when…

– I feel like a super hero (“I have Ashley Power”)

– When I think that I can take care of myself

– It is night time and I think in my head that I can fight off bad things

– When someone makes a mean face at me and I handle it appropriately

Brave Ryan• I feel BRAVE when…

– I use self-control when I am angry!

Brave Becky• I feel BRAVE when…

– I go hiking in the woods

Brave Palmer• I feel BRAVE when…

– I stand up to people who are bullies

What a BRAVE Group!

Shy Ashley• I feel SHY when…

– I am around people that are older than me…

• I actually do not get shy very often!

Shy Ryan• I feel SHY when…

– I have to perform in front of a group (e.g. doing a skit in the talent show)

– Meeting new people

Shy Becky• I feel SHY when…

– I meet new people or go to a new school

Shy Palmer• I feel SHY when…

– I talk about things that make me uncomfortable

What a SHY Group?

Scared Ashley• I feel SCARED

when…– I think that ghosts

exists– I am alone in the dark

• When I feel SCARED I know I can…– Think about something

else

Scared Ryan• I feel SCARED

when…

– I am alone in the dark

Scared Becky• I feel SCARED when…

– It is dark (e.g. going to the bathroom at night)

– People that do bad things (e.g. people you hear about on the news)

• When I feel SCARED I know I can…– Tell an adult how I feel– Think positive thoughts– Take a time off

Scared Palmer• I feel SCARED

when…

– I think about getting into trouble

Happy Ashley• These are the things that make me

HAPPY:

– My pets– My family members– My friends– My birthday– When I know that people love

me– Holidays– Having good self-esteem– My teacher and therapist at

school– When people compliment me – When people talk and listen to

me– I am myself and nothing can

change me!

Happy Ryan• These are the things

that make me HAPPY:

– People treat me with respect

– I am complimented– I earn rewards

Happy Becky• These are the things that

make me HAPPY:

– When I earn my stars on my behavior chart

– Special Olympic Bowling (trophy)

– When my friends include me– Getting along with my family– Cheerleading– When I get compliments– When I can read as long as I

want

Happy Palmer• These are the things

that make me HAPPY:

– I get to earn rewards for doing well with my contract

– Having special titles (e.g. secretary)

All Smiles!

Hurt Ashley• I feel HURT when…

– Someone calls my names and hurts my feelings

– If someone pushed me and hurts my body AND my feelings

– If I get left out (when my sisters do not want to play with me)

• When I feel HURT I can…– Tell a grown-up and TALK IT

OUT– Tell the person “I don’t like it

when you hurt my feelings or my body.”

Hurt Ryan• I feel HURT when…

– Someone calls me name

– Someone hits me– Someone lies to me

Hurt Becky• I feel HURT when…

– Someone hurts my feelings (e.g. name calling)

– Someone bullies me– If I fall down

• When I feel HURT I can…– Take a time off– Talk it out with an adult– Tell the person, “you hurt

me”

Hurt Palmer• I feel HURT when…

– I get a cut or fall down

Guilty Ashley• I feel GUILTY when I…

– Hurt my sisters– Call my friends names– When I lie– If someone gets blames for something I did

• When I feel GUILTY I should…tell the truth!

Guilty Ryan• I feel GUILTY when I…

– I hurt my friends feelings when I am angry– I call my mother a name– When I lie

Guilty Becky• I feel GUILTY when

– I act dishonest or sneaky

• When I feel GUILTY I should– Tell the truth and take

responsibility

Guilty Palmer• I feel GUILTY when I…

– Know that someone broke a rule or didn’t follow a direction

Sad Ashley• I feel SAD when…

– People tease me or make fun of what I say/do

– I argue with my sisters– I think of scary things (e.g.

ghosts)– I get left out of a game

• When I feel SAD I can…– Tell a grown-up– Tell the person to “Please

stop”

Sad Ryan• I feel SAD when…

– I hurt my mother’s feelings

Sad Becky• I feel SAD when…

– People hurt my feelings– I do not earn my

rewards/privileges– My friends leave me out

• When I feel SAD I can…– Talk it out– Time off– STOP…THINK…ACT

Sad Palmer• I feel SAD when…

– I ask someone to play and they refuse

Angry Ashley• I get ANGRY when…

– My sisters tease me, leave me out, come in my room– People call me names

When I get When I get ANGRYANGRY I can: I can:

• Tell a grown-upTell a grown-up• Work in my anger workbookWork in my anger workbook• Take time offTake time off• Walk away from the problem Walk away from the problem • STOP…THINK…ACTSTOP…THINK…ACT• USE MY WORDS (do not use my USE MY WORDS (do not use my hands for hitting)hands for hitting)• Relaxation (stress balls, deep Relaxation (stress balls, deep breaths, count to 13)breaths, count to 13)

Angry Ryan• I get ANGRY when…

– My brother yells at me– My brother “antagonizes” me

When I get When I get ANGRYANGRY I can: I can:

• Work in my anger workbookWork in my anger workbook• Take time offTake time off• STOP…THINK…ACTSTOP…THINK…ACT• USE MY WORDSUSE MY WORDS• Count to 20Count to 20

Angry Becky• I get ANGRY when…

– People act like bullies– I argue with my sister and brother– People lie

When I get When I get ANGRYANGRY I I can:can:

•Time off (calm down)Time off (calm down)•STOP…THINK…ACTSTOP…THINK…ACT•Talk it outTalk it out•Ignore and walk awayIgnore and walk away

Angry Palmer• I get ANGRY when…

– I trust a friend with a secret I have never told anyone except family and they tell

What an ANGRY Group!

Embarrassed Ashley• I feel

EMBARRASSED when:– I trip or fall– I make a mistake

• When I am EMBARRASSED I can…– TALK IT OUT

Embarrassed Ryan• I feel

EMBARRASSED when:

– New people come over– I make a mistake

Embarrassed Becky• I feel

EMBARRASSED when:

– I do something wrong

• When I am EMBARRASSED I can…

– Take a time off

Embarrassed Palmer• I feel

EMBARRASSED when:

– People talk about inappropriate topics

Cool Ashley • I feel COOL when…

– I have a lot of friends– I earn my stars– When people like to

talk to me– People compliment me– When I earn special

rewards

Cool Ryan• I feel COOL when…

– I drink a cold drink

Cool Becky• I feel COOL when…

– I earn all my stars

Cool Palmer• I feel COOL when…

– People compliment me on my progress

Surprised Ashley• I feel SURPRISED

when…

– It is my birthday

Surprised Ryan

• I feel SURPRISED when…

– I come home and there is a babysitter

Surprised Becky

• I feel SURPRISED when…

– Someone gives me a bonus token

Surprised Palmer

• I feel SURPRISED when…

– My family came home from a vacation early to spend time with me

Surprise!

Worried Ashley• I feel WORRIED

when…– I think about ghosts

and zombies– I flush the toilet (I

think a zombie will come out)

– I go to girl scouts that the kids do not like me

• When I feel WORRIED I can…– Time off– Think about positive

things– Use distraction– Talking to an adult

Worried Ryan• I feel WORRIED

when…

– Someone blames me for something I did not do

– I am close to earning an RD

Worried Becky• I feel WORRIED

when…

– I do not earn my stars

Worried Palmer• I feel WORRIED

when…

– I am kept in suspense about something I obsess about (e.g. status 4)

• WE HOPE YOU HAVE ENJOYED THE SHOW!