8/10/2019 A Word for Parents

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P a r e n t s A t t a c h m e n t T o C h i l d r e n

Swami Parthasarathy dren lose direction and purpose in life. It cor-

rodes and ruins their lives.Neither parents nor

hildren are victims of the intense at- kidsanticipatethenegativeeffectsof suchindul-

tachment exhibited by their parents.gence, that it couldleadto a state whenoneloses

The lovethat parents bear fortheir chil- the pleasure and joy derivedfromsense objects.

dren has metamorphosed intoa dreadful form And then one develops boredom which could

of attachment. This is happening universally. drive oneto commit serious blunders, even sui:

because of the selfish trait in parents. The cide.Nevertheless,well-meaningparents contin-

parental attachment totheir belovedones has ue topamper their children with sensualluxuri-

turned into a deadly virus now sweeping the esnotrealisingtheimpendingdamagetothem.

entire world. Few can claim to be free from With regards to the second manifestation,

the parents compulsive attachment to their parents possessiveness fixes their .kids in an

children. Howeverwell-meaning they may be, \ iron casket.They are shackledbyforcefuldirec-

their attachment turns the parent-child rela- tions.and instructions. And when the parents

tionship sour and destructive. constantly dictatetheir doctrinesanddogmasto

Constantconfrontationbetweenpar- . kids, they can take no more and buckle

ents and children invariably ends in under the pressure. Then one of two

separation, causing families trauma. dreadful consequences follows. Chil-

Theparents beinginnocenthaveno.cluedren become a vegetable or a rebel In

of the effects accruing from what they the first casethekid turns inert and lnac-

claimasloveandcare fortheir dear ones. tive, hardly responding to the external

Blissfullyunawareof consequences,. tHE world.Thekid reaches this state ifhis

theydoteontheir belovedones. nature is passive and submissive and

Parents attachmenttotheirchil- SPE KING succumbs to the continuous on-

-dren manifests in twodistinct ways: slaughts of his parents dictations. If,

1. Opulent parents pamper TREE however,the kid is vocaland aggres-

their children by showering money and ap- sive,hebecomesarebel. Hewouldargue, swear,

pliances, amenities and facilities limitlessly counter the unsolicited advices showeredupon

upon them. The youngare thus saturated with him.Hecouldeventurn violent,orleavehome.

luxuries, only to lose theirjoy. - In either case, oppressive attachment of

2.Another Glassof parents manifest their parents towards their children is a source of

attachment through possessiveness towards trauma to children even though such parents

their children. They virtually pester them are well-wishing, well-meaning, caring par-

with constant instructions and directions. ents Parents ought torealise the blunder that

They pound them with dos and donts, doc- their love and care lacks the support of a

trines and dogmas. And their-directives in- str:ongintellect. And their rigid controls flow

variably fall short of reason orjudgment. from their emotional attachment rather than

In the first manifestation, the parents indis- a discerning intellect. They must visualise

criminately let loosemoneyand sensual objects the damage done and the dire necessity of de-

of all sorts upon the kids without restriction. veloping the intellect in themselves and their

-Thepampering starts with toys, tricycles and children. From the newly released book, The

bicycles,later with Ferraris, yachts,jets and the Holocaust of Attachment.

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