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Art of Listening
Prof. Sunil Bakshi
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D efinition
Effective listening is listeningto the words of the speaker andthe meaning of the words.
Active listening is a process inwhich the listener takes activeresponsibility to understand thecontent and feeling of what isbeing said and then checkswith the speaker to see if he/she heard what the speaker intended to communicate.
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W hat Is Active Listening?
It·s a communication skill thatinvolves both the speaker and thereceiver.In active listening, the receiver tries
to understand what feelings,thoughts, & beliefs are beingcommunicated and accepts it as theperson·s own.
The active listener avoids gettingstuck in another person·s ´helplessµfeelings.
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Active Listening SkillsCommunicate both ² verbally andnonverballyRestate/ paraphrase the messagePractice ́ uninterruptedµ listening
Observe the sender·s nonverbalsignals and cues
Verify that the message has beencorrectly understood through proper feedback.Give feedback only to what theybelieve the sender·s message meant
² nothing more, nothing less.
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Active Listening Skills
Listen for the content of themessage,Listen for the feelings of thespeaker,
Listen without making judgment,Respond to the feelings of thespeakers,
Ask open-ended questions, andReflect back to the speaker whatyou think you are hearing.
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W hy Active Listening
Helps us understand others better and shows others we respect them
Allows us to receive accuratemessages
Enables us to respond appropriatelyFailure to listen brings unfortunateresults!
Human beings want to expressthemselves, to be heard.Listening can de-escalate tensesituations.
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People can hear four timesfaster than others can talk,
which gives a skilled listener time to sort matters
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Elements of ActiveListening
ContentFeelingsProcessClarification
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W e were given two ears but
only one mouth.This is because God knew
that listening was twice as
hard as talking.
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Encouragement
The purpose is to convey interestand to keep the person talking.To do this you don·t have to agree or disagree with the speaker.Use noncommittal words in apositive tone of voice.´I see«µ ´uh-huh«µ ´That·s
interestingµ ´ W hat did you saythen?µ ´ W hat did he say when yousaid that?µBe aware of your body language!
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Mirroring
Mirroring means you repeat exactlysome of the speaker·s key wordsThe purpose is to show that you arelistening and understanding.To do this, restate the other·s basicideas using his own words.´If I heard you correctly, you are
saying«µ, ´Are you stating«µBe aware of your body language!
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Restating / Paraphrasing
Paraphrasing is using your ownwords to restate the speaker·sfeelings or meaningThe purpose is to show that you are
listening and understanding.To do this, restate the other·s basicideas using your own words.´If I understand you, you aresaying«µ ´In other words, your decision is«µBe aware of your body language!
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Reflecting
The purpose is to show that you arelistening and understand what theyare feeling.To do this restate the other·s basicfeeling.´You feel that«µ ´You were prettydisturbed by this«µ
Be aware of your body language!
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Self-disclosure is showing how youfeel about what the speaker said.The purpose is to show your reactionto what the speaker is saying.´I don·t believe this«µ ´He couldnever lie to me«µBe aware of your body language!
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Self-disclosure
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Questioning / Clarifying refers toasking relevant questions to ensureunderstandingThe purpose is to show that you arelistening and need clarificationregarding some aspect of their message.´ W hat do you mean by that«µ ´I didnot get what you are hinting at by«µBe aware of your body language!
Clarifying
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W hen The Emotion IsD irected At YOU«.
Hearing the speaker out diffuses theemotionGiving positive vibes to the speaker that you are ready to listen, softenshis attitudeListening attentively will make itvery difficult for the speaker toremain angry with you.Massaging the speakers ego is animportant part of the communication
skills in highly emotional scenarios.
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Tips towards Active Listening:1 . Understand your own comm
style.
2. Be an active listener.3 . Use normal communication.4. Give Feedback
Active Listening
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People speak @ 100 to 175 W PM but
can listen intelligently @ 300 W PM.One part of human mind paysattention, so it is easy to go intomind drift.Listen with a purpose. It can be togain information, obtain directions,understand others, solve problems,share interest, see how another person feels, show support, etc.If it is difficult to concentrate thenrepeat the speaker·s words in your mind.
2. Be An Active Listener
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Smile,Gestures,Eye contact,Your posture.
3 . Use Non-verbal Comm
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Listening & Speaking
Listening takes... ² concentration and energy ² curiosity and open-mindedness ² analysis and understanding
Speaking requires... ² sharp focus ² logical thinking
² clear phrasing ² crisp delivery
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Stages of Active Listening
1 . Setting the stage ² Choose an appropriate physical
environment ² Remove distractions ² Be open and accessible ² Listen with empathy
2. Insuring mutual understanding ² Reflect feelings ² Paraphrase main ideas ² Interrupt to clarify ² Confirm next steps
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Exercise - Listening
1 . W ho are the people it·s easiest tolisten to?
2. W hat is it about these people that
makes it easier to listen to them?3 . W ho are the people you listen toleast?
4. W hat is it about them that makes it
difficult to listen to them?
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´ W e were given two earsbut only one mouth,
because listening is twiceas hard as talking."
Make active listening ahabit«
(it takes 2 1 days to turnsomething into a habit!)
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Obstacles To ActiveListening
W andering MindTuning OutD istractionsPrejudicesToo Many Notes
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W hat Interferes W ithListening?
Sheer laziness and/or just not caringNoise and or physical discomfortTuring the speaker off and dwelling
on the plethora of internaldistractionsLetting a remark of the speaker (with which we disagree) develop a
prejudice which clouds or puts astop to any further listeningBoredom - remember, we hear four times faster that we speak
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W hat Interferes W ithListening?
D eveloping your own rebuttal or listening mainly to find an opening tostate what you have to say(competitive or combative listening) Allowing personal characteristics of the speaker or his poor delivery toprevent understanding
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Behaviors That SupportEffective Listening
² Maintaining relaxed body posture ² Leaning slightly forward if sitting ² Facing person squarely at eye level
² Maintaining an open posture ² Maintaining appropriate distance ² Offering simple acknowledgments ² Reflecting meaning (paraphrase) ² Reflecting emotions ² Using eye contact ² Providing an environment that is
non-distracting
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Behaviors That Hinder Effective Listening
² Acting distracted ² Looking here &there (No eye contact)
² Telling your own story without
acknowledging theirs first ² No response or invalid response ² Interrupting, Criticizing, Judging,
D iagnosing or Putting D own ² Giving advice/solutions ² Changing the subject ² Reassuring without acknowledgment
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Evaluating
Gather more information.D ecide whether the information isgenuine.
Evaluate the information.Communicate your evaluation.
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Responding
Learn what the speaker expects.Consider your own time and energy.
D ecide what to do.
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Specific Questions
Ask specific (or closed-ended) questions to get details:
W hoW hatW hereW henW hyW hich
� How many
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Listening Styles
ResultsResults- -stylestyle: : Interestedin the bottom line or resultof a message.
ReasonsReasons- -stylestyle: : Interestedin hearing the rationale
behind a message.
ProcessProcess- -stylestyle: : Likes to
discuss issues in detail.
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Barriers to EffectiveListening
Internal Barriers:� Hearing what you want to hear � Biased listening� ´Hot Buttonsµ or the Effects of
Emotions on Listening� Physical Barriers
� Semantic Barriers� Lack of Training
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The Keys to EffectiveListening
Keys toKeys toEffectiveEffectiveListeningListening
The BadThe BadListener Listener
The Good Listener The Good Listener
1 . Capitalizeon thought
speed
Tends todaydream
Stays with thespeaker, mentally
summarizes thespeaker, weighs
evidence, and
listens betweenthe lines
2. Listen for ideas
Listens for facts
Listens for centralor overall ideas
h ff
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The Keys to EffectiveListening
Keys toKeys toEffectiveEffectiveListeningListening
The BadThe BadListener Listener
The GoodThe GoodListener Listener
3 . Find anarea of interest
Tunes outdry
speakers or subjects
Listens for anyuseful info
4. Judgecontent,not
delivery
Tunes outdrymonotonespeakers
Assessescontent bylistening to
entire messagebefore making
judgments
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Th K Eff i
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Keys toKeys toEffectiveEffectiveListeningListening
The BadThe BadListener Listener
The GoodThe GoodListener Listener
7 . ResistD istractions
Is easilydistracted
Fightsdistractions andconcentrates on
the speaker
8 . Challengeyourself
Resistslistening to
presentationsof difficult
subject
manner
Treats complexpresentationsas exercisesfor the mind
The Keys to EffectiveListening (cont)
Th K Eff i
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The Keys to EffectiveListening (cont)
Keys toKeys toEffectiveEffectiveListeningListening
The BadThe BadListener Listener
The GoodThe GoodListener Listener
9 . Hear what is said
Shuts our or denies
unfavorableinformation
Listens to bothfavorable and
unfavorableinformation
10 . Usehandouts,
overheads,or other
visual aids
D oes not takenotes or payattention tovisual aids
Takes notesand uses
visual aids toenhance
understanding
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How To Practice ActiveListening
Physical Environment
Attending Posture: SOLER
Listening SkillsQuestioning Skills
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Physical Environment
Ensure privacy
Minimize interruptions
Eliminate barriers
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Attending Posture
Nonverbal Skill = SOLERS = squarely face personO = use open posture
L = lean toward the personE = use eye contactR = relax, keep it natural
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Active Listening
Signs of Active Listeninginclude: ² Responding with full attention.
² Focus on main ideas beingcommunicated. ² Use body language and facial
expressions to respond ² sit up
straight, lean forward, smile, or nod
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W orkplace Listening Skills
Jot down summaries in your own wordsFocus on key words and mainideas (do not try to write downeverything) Note actions you need to take
Use bullets ( Q ), asterisks (*),and arrows ( p ) to show ideasthat are related or connected
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