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Compassionate Mind Training:
The cascade of self-compassion, from
leadership to staff to pupils
Michelle CreeConsultant Clinical Psychologist
Derbyshire Childbearing and Mental Health Service
Tel: 01332 623911
In Association with Professor Paul Gilbert
www.compassionatemind.co.uk
Self-Esteem• Works through rank system-where we feel we are in
relation to others (old brain-threat system, applies to Shoebills, pupils, teachers, leaders….)
• Creates “old-brain” threat responses in those around us.
How do we manage: • if we feel we are “merely” average or below average,
when we are struggling, when we make a mistake? • Then need self-compassion-different brain system (old
brain-attachment, soothing, encouragement open, equal, learning etc)
The human brain is the product of many millions of years of The human brain is the product of many millions of years of evolutionevolution – a process of conserving, modifying and – a process of conserving, modifying and
adaptingadapting
To understand ourselves we must To understand ourselves we must understand our brainsunderstand our brains
Fight, Flight, Sex, Hunt, Territorial
Kin caring/affection, alliances, play, social communications
Symbolic thought, self-awareness, metacognition mentalizing
Frontal Cortex
Empathic brain - key for affect regulation
Evolution of strategies, motives and competencies: Evolution of strategies, motives and competencies:
The emergence of new psychologies in the worldThe emergence of new psychologies in the world
Three Types of Emotion Regulator SystemsThree Types of Emotion Regulator Systems
Incentive/resource- Incentive/resource- focusedfocused
Wanting, pursuing, achieving, consuming
Activating
Non-wanting/Non-wanting/Affiliative focusedAffiliative focused
Safeness-kindness
Soothing
Threat-focused Threat-focused
Protection andProtection andSafety-seekingSafety-seeking
Activating/inhibiting
Anger, anxiety, disgustAnger, anxiety, disgust
Drive, excite, vitalityDrive, excite, vitality Content, safe, connectedContent, safe, connected
How the three circles interact
• Baby in room
• Which circle do we use to manage our threat?- soothing or drive (achievment, eating, exercising, alcohol, drugs, shopping, computer games….)
Understanding the Threat Understanding the Threat System:System:
The World is a Dangerous The World is a Dangerous PlacePlace
Understanding the Threat System:Understanding the Threat System:The World is a Dangerous Place (cont…)The World is a Dangerous Place (cont…)
All organisms are structured for self-protection to stay alive until reproduce.
Hence a range of emotions (anger, anxiety, disgust)behaviours (fight, flight, freeze, submit)cognitive systems (as ‘better safe than sorry)physiological cognitive systems (Adrenalin system)
Dedicated to threat-defence
Fast/automatic via amygdala
Protect and Comfort: Less ‘instinctive Protect and Comfort: Less ‘instinctive brain’ – post birth learning and closeness brain’ – post birth learning and closeness
seekingseeking
Secret to Survival: Be looked afterSecret to Survival: Be looked afterSelf-Protection and AttachmentSelf-Protection and Attachment
•Also attachment between other group members.
•Co-operative and mutual support when your prosperity impacts on mine
•Seeking closeness rather than dispersion.
Threat and The Mind of OthersThreat and The Mind of Others
External shame is experiencing indifference, External shame is experiencing indifference, disengaged or negative affects in the mind of disengaged or negative affects in the mind of the otherthe other
• Immediate shift to threat focusing.
• to be cast out of group equates to
great survival risk.great survival risk.
Threat can come from Threat can come from outside of us.outside of us.
But it can also come from inside.But it can also come from inside.
Meal
SexualBully-threat
Limbic system
Stomach acid
Salvia Arousal Fearful
Depressed
Stimulus-ResponseStimulus-Response
Kind, warm and caring
SoothedSafe
Meal SexBully- threat
Compassion
Others can sooth usOthers can sooth us
And we can also sooth And we can also sooth ourselvesourselves..
So Why Do We Criticise Ourselves?
• Imagine your ability to criticise yourself could be taken away forever- what would that be like?
Working with our self-critic (Three Chairs)
• 1. Imagine your self-critic appeared in front of you (self critical chair)
• 2. How do you feel when faced with your self-critic? (submissive/attacked chair)
• 3. Now imagine moving into your compassionate “chair” or “self”
• 4. Relate to self-critic with compassion
(Which self-corrector/teacher do we intuitively want for ourselves when struggling?- critical or compassionate self-corrector?)
Three Types of Emotion Regulator SystemsThree Types of Emotion Regulator Systems
Incentive/resource- Incentive/resource- focusedfocused
Wanting, pursuing, achieving, consuming
Activating
Non-wanting/Non-wanting/Affiliative focusedAffiliative focused
Safeness-kindness
Soothing
Threat-focused Threat-focused
Protection andProtection andSafety-seekingSafety-seeking
Activating/inhibiting
Anger, anxiety, disgustAnger, anxiety, disgust
Drive, excite, vitalityDrive, excite, vitality Content, safe, connectedContent, safe, connected
Self-Critical Mind is also Threat-Self-Critical Mind is also Threat-focused Mindfocused Mind
Attention ThinkingReasoning
Behaviour
Motivation Emotions
Imagery Fantasy
Self-Critical
Compassionate MindCompassionate Mind
Attention ThinkingReasoning
Behaviour
Motivation Emotions
Imagery Fantasy Compassion
ConclusionConclusion
Compassion organises our brains in certain Compassion organises our brains in certain waysways
Compassion is linked to personal and Compassion is linked to personal and relationship happinessrelationship happiness
What Do You Wish to Be?What Do You Wish to Be?
• The wish (desire, motivation, intention) comes first, and then comes the feeling.
• Not important to get the feeling, but to get the wish.• Two Wolves: (Native American Indian story)
Grandad to Grandchild- “There are two wolves inside of me, anger and compassion.”
“Which wolf will win Grandpa?”“The one that I feed.”
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