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People Pleasing

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Functional KinesiologyTM

People PleasingGood Girl-Boy Syndrome

2. You feel responsible for how people feel

5. You can't say no

7. You enjoy praise from others

Clues that you are a people pleaser:

A people pleaser is one of the nicest and most helpful people you will know. �ey never say no. they spend a great deal of time doing things for other people.

1. You pretend to agree with everyone

3. You apologise a lot4. You feel burdened and overwhelmed

6. You feel uncomfortable if someone is angry with you

9. You don't admit to being emotionally hurt10. You fear rejection from others or being a

disappointment

8. To go to great lengths to avoid con�ict

· Start saying no, even if it's for something small

· Give yourself time, if you worry you can't say no, start with a maybe or 'can I think about it'

· Avoid toxic people who will not accept your no

· Begin self-care and self-awareness, what are you saying yes to that you don't want to

· Stop repeatedly apologising, only apologise when you really mean it

· Make requests to have your needs met

· Identify goals of what you want to say yes to

How to change people pleasing behaviour:

· Start speaking up for yourself

Where does people pleasing come from?

· Give yourself internal validation

People pleasing o�en begins in childhood when the client is taught that they will receive love for good behaviour. It can be known as the good girl / boy syndrome. Love was o�en taken away for poor behaviour, so the child learnt to act a certain way in order to receive affection.