godly homes in an ungodly world (3) an ongoing study of the home as god’s word teaches

GODLY HOMES

In an ungodly world (3)

An ongoing study of the Home as God’s Word teaches.

Divorceand remarriage (1)

Marriage is for LifeMarriage intended “till death do us part.”Gen. 2:24, Matt. 19:4-6Romans 7:2-31 Cor. 7:39Our study of marriage must respect this!

Divorce in AmericaMarriage today is not given the high respect of times past.Pew Research survey released Nov, 2010 stated that 39% of Americans believe that marriage is becoming obsolete.

Divorce in AmericaMarriage is not given the high respect of times past seen in -No fault-divorceCohabitation – choosing to say, “I don’t”Some states – no divorce statistics (why?)“Till death do us part”Removed from wedding vows

Divorce in America• Divorce rate higher than

previous decades• For every 2 marriages, there

is approx. 1 divorce in America (in a given year)IF this trend continues, the divorce rate could reach 50%

Divorce in AmericaThe negative effects of divorce:Higher probability of problems requiring professional help:“Intact” family – 90% of children in “normal range”Divorced family – 74% boys & 66% girls in “normal range”

Divorce in AmericaThe negative effects of divorce:Higher probability of problems:- Parental loss- Economic loss- More stress- Parental adjustments - Parental incompetence- Conflict between parents

The effects of divorce on children, 2009, Robert Hughes

Divorce in AmericaThe negative effects of divorce:Higher probability of problems:- Higher probability of divorce- Health problems- Higher crime rates

The Bible & Divorce• Where there is divorce, sin

is ALWAYS involved!• NEVER looked upon

favorably (tolerated under Old Law – Matt. 19:8)

• Permitted NOW for one cause – Matt. 19:9, 5:32

The Bible & Divorce• Malachi 2:13-16,

“For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates divorce, for it covers one’s garment with violence.”

The Bible & Divorce• Matthew 5:31-32,

“…But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.”

The Bible & Divorce• Matthew 19:8-9,

Similar in statement of 5:31-32, but allows provision for remarriage for the one divorcing his wife.

The Bible & Divorce• Mark 10:1-12,

Account of same occasion as Matt. 19:1-9, but he doesn’t deal with the exception. He does mention that it applies to both husband and wife.

The Bible & Divorce• 1 Cor. 7:10-16,

“…A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife”

The Bible & Divorce• 1 Cor. 7:10-16, • Vs. 10-11 The RULE

stated.• Vs. 11 – “But if she does

depart.” NOT permission (but it happens). Cf. 1 John 2:1 concerning sin.

The Bible & Divorce• 1 Cor. 7:10-16, • Vs. 11 IF she departs –

remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband.

The Bible & Divorce• 1 Cor. 7:10-16, • Vs. 12-16 Deals with

spiritually mixed marriages (believer-unbeliever).

• Vs. 12-13 NOTE that preference is NOT to divorce.

• Vs. 14 – unbeliever & children “sanctified”

The Bible & Divorce• 1 Cor. 7:10-16, • Vs. 15-16 IF the unbeliever

departs, a brother or sister is “not under bondage”. Not permission to remarry, but not bound to fulfill marriage vows (i.e. not responsible for adultery).

• NOTE who departs!

Divorce is something we ought

to seek to avoid – BEFORE we enter

into marriage!