personal identity & character
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PERSONAL IDENTITY & CHARACTER
ALICE IN WONDERLAND “Who are you?” said the
caterpillar. Alice replied, rather shyly, “I hardly know, Sir, just at present—at least I know who I
was when I got up this morning, but I think I must have changed
several times since then.”
PERSONAL IDENTITY Personal identity is one of the MOST
important tasks you will accomplish during your teen years.
How do we do this? Identity is partly formed by recognizing your
likes and dislikes.
Your relationships and experiences with family and friends also influence your personal identity.
LIKES AND DISLIKES read or write? indoors or outdoors? Ipod or radio? skiing or scuba diving Movie theater or redbox? chocolate or vanilla? Novel or magazine? Dine in or take out? booth or table? Chick flick or action?
LIKES DISLIKES reality tv fan or not? Lights or lamps take the picture, or have picture taken? dog or cat? socks or barefoot? salt or pepper? blonde or brunette? call or be called? bath or shower? morning or night?
LIKE DISLIKES half full or half empty? hot or cold? Mustard or ketchup? Coke or sprite
ROLE MODELS Someone whose success or behavior
serves as an example for you.
My Mother-in-law: always happy, loving, and positive; extremely productive; good at developing her talents.
My high school coach: example of the coach I want to be in every way; listens to others; great at giving advice.
PERSONALITY A complex set of Characteristics that
makes you UNIQUE
ELEMENTS OF PERSONALITY INNATE? INTERPRETATION OF LIFE?CODE OF BEHAVIOR?MYSTERY????
PERSONALITY TEST Divide into groups by color. Each group needs 1 piece of paper and
a scribe.Come up with 5 words/phrases you think
best describe your color’s personality.Describe 5 strengths of your color’s
personality & 5 weaknesses/limitations of your color.
Brainstorm 3 careers your color would be good at.
Put all names on the paper to turn in.Designate 1 spokesperson for the group
(not the scribe)
REDS: THE POWER WIELDERS Reds are the power wielders of the world.
Power is not good and it is not bad, it just is. It has to do with movement, (moving from A to B). Power sometimes carries a negative connotation but where positive characteristics of Reds are concerned, it drives them to high levels of productivity and efficiency. Reds boldly move forward with logic, vision and determination. These qualities make them natural born leaders, as they make things happen by sheer force of will. From a Red perspective, emotion has little to do with accomplishing a task.
REDS: THE POWER WIELDERS
As an individual Natural Leader Thrives on independence Highly resourceful Excels with logical
thinking
As a Goal Setter Natural goal setter Highly disciplined Makes decisions
quickly/easily
As a Child Takes charge when
parents are gone Maintains high self-
esteem Communicates
thoughts Ability to turn a poor
situation around
As a Friend Direct and quick with
suggestions Promotes group
activities Engages in conflict
comfortably and directly
Strengths:
REDS: THE POWER WIELDERS
As an individual Generally seeks to serve
self Out of touch w/own
feelings Inconsiderate of other’s
feelings Always right
As a Goal Setter Too rigid w/expectations Impatient w/self Angers easily if goals
aren’t achieved
As a Child Resists control from
parents Fights constantly
w/siblings Expects to be catered to Poor listener Manipulates parents to
get their way
As a Friend Insensitive & unemotional Impatient, stubborn,
blunt, & critical of others Denies personal
inadequacies or responsibilities
Wants to control group activities
Limitations:
Career Ideas:
REDS: THE POWER WIELDERS
Administrator
Police Officer
Military Officer
Medical Doctor
Lawyer
Politician
Entrepreneur
Realtor
Tax Accountant
REDS: THE POWER WIELDERSReds you may know…
Madonna Hillary Clinton
BLUES: THE DO-GOODERS Blues are motivated by Intimacy. Without their natural
talent to insist on quality and to provide service, our world would be a far less pleasant place. Blues want to connect and to be understood and appreciated. If they are not connecting with you, if they are not plugged into humanity, then what’s the point? They believe if you don’t have a sincere connection in life, then there really is no other value. Earning money, having the Mercedes, and being in the windowed office are nice but do not represent a purposeful life to a blue. Blues are very purposeful people who love to serve and give of themselves freely to nurture others' lives. They are loyal friends, employers and employees, and their personal code of ethics is very strong. They expect other people to live honest and committed lives as well. Blues are dependable, thoughtful, and analytical; but they can also be self-righteous, worry-prone, and moody. They hold on and never let go of something/someone once they are committed.
BLUES: THE DO-GOODERS
As an individual Stable & Dependable Sincere & emotionally
deep High achiever Deep sense of purpose
As a Goal Setter Highly disciplined Receptive to other
suggestions Plans well & follows
through
As a Child Proper & behaved Easily disciplined verbally Sensitive about other
family members Loyal to parents &
siblings Seeks learning
opportunities
As a Friend Loyal within friendships Genuine concern for
others Remembers special
holidays Willing to commit time in
relationships
Strengths:
BLUES: THE DO-GOODERS
As an individual Highly emotional Smug & self-righteous Envious of others’ success
when too easily obtained Verbally self-abusive
As a Goal Setter Sets unrealistically high goals Easily discouraged Easily frustrated by lack of
team cooperation Expects others to make their
goals a priority
As a Child Moody and emotional Withholds affection if angered Self-esteem is dependent on
outside influences Criticizes unacceptable
suggestions from parents & siblings
Martyr-like & complains about life
As a Friend Feels rejected easily Expects friends to be loyal Rarely playful & spontaneous Insecure about other’s
acceptance & approval
Limitations:
Career Ideas:
BLUES: THE DO-GOODERS
Musician
Homemaker
Engineer
Journalist
Teacher
Banker
Psychotherapist
Nurse
Architect
BLUES: THE DO-GOODERSBlues you may know…
Abraham Lincoln
Princess Diana
Walt Disney
WHITES: THE PEACEKEEPERS
Motivated by Peace, Whites will do almost anything to avoid confrontation and to create tranquility. They have a remarkable ability to understand and draw objective conclusions—they are the voice of reason, and this is their gift to us. Whites truly believe that with patience all things come to those who wait. The problem is that they are sometimes too content with sitting around waiting. They seek contentment more than power, money or, for that matter, more than friends. They are happy having one or two good friends and one or two hobbies. In fact, they tend to have only one hobby at a time. Instead of trying to carry on with two hobbies, they will drop one to take on another. Having two is too much effort. Their only demands from life are the things that make them feel comfortable. That feeling fosters their need to feel good inside.
WHITES: THE PEACEKEEPERS
As an Individual Quiet, reflective, & peaceful Appears to accept life
comfortably Patient with self and others Compatible with others Blends into all situations
As a Goal Setter Receptive to suggestions Recognizes the value of goal
setting Trusts self to succeed in many
different environments
As a Child Very agreeable to established
traditions and boundaries Non-demanding Willing to accommodate
siblings and parents Plays well by self
As a Friend Patient and enduring Supportive and accepting Listens with empathy Relaxed in most situations Likes most people & is liked
by most people Enjoys observing others
Strengths:
WHITES: THE PEACEKEEPERS
As an individual Takes passive approach to life Bashful and unsure of self Often lazy & unwilling to take
responsibility for self Resists making commitments Refuses to take a stand on
issues
As a Goal Setter Takes a “wait & see” attitude Lacks consistency in goal setting Waits for others to set goals for
them
As a Child Resents being pressured to do
things Doesn’t contribute much to
conversations Indifferent to family dilemmas Uninvolved in family action Doesn’t complete tasks
As a Friend Easily led by others’ opinions Passive Easily hurt and defeated Lacks creativity to make
suggestions Requires extra protection &
support
Limitations::
Career Ideas:
WHITES: THE PEACEKEEPERS
Researcher
Computer programmer
Military Officer
Preschool teacher
Dentist
Veterinarian
Homemaker
FBI agent
Lawyer
Engineer
WHITES: THE PEACEKEEPERSWhites you may know…
Albert Einstein Michael Jackson
YELLOWS: THE FUN LOVERS
Yellows are motivated by Fun. Without their natural talents of enthusiasm and optimism, the world would be a boring place for all. They are here to have a great time. Yellows have an innate ability to be happy. They believe it is okay to play and people who don’t understand this have limited minds. They are the people who get up in the morning and sing to the Bon Jovi tune, “Until I’m six feet under, baby I don’t need a bed. Gonna live while I’m alive–—I’ll sleep when I’m dead.” Yellows love to enjoy life. They have a mental attitude that allows them to appreciate what they have rather than be miserable over what they don’t . They spend much of their time charming everyone in an entertaining way. Robin Williams is a good example. Can you imagine growing up as his child? What a fun dad. He has that child-like innocence and a hope that inspires the masses.
YELLOWS: THE FUN LOVERS
As an Individual Highly optimistic Likes self & accepts others Loves to volunteer Sees life as an experience
to be enjoyed Adventurous & daring
As a Goal Setter Lives for the present Gives priority to playtime Accepts guidance from
others Very flexible
As a Child Fun to have around Strong visual learner Loves physical contact Pliable—willing to bend in order
to please Curious and inquisitive Easy to talk to
As a Friend Vulnerable, innocent and trusting Forgiving of self and others Willing to free up schedule in
order to play Lively and entertaining
Strengths:
YELLOWS: THE FUN LOVERS
As an Individual Needs to look good socially Irresponsible and unreliable Self-centered, undisciplined,
loud/obnoxious in public places Superficial & mostly interested
in a good time Unable to confront or face issues
As a Goal Setter Undisciplined in committing to
goals Feels no need to prepare for the
future Disorganized & scattered in too
many directions
As a Child Sassy & demanding Defiant of authority Forgetful of assignments &
parental expectations Teases siblings constantly Prefers to take the easy road Places friends before family
As a Friend Spends most of time discussing
own life Shows up at his/her convenience Ditches plans for better/more fun
opportunities
Limitations:
Career Ideas:
YELLOWS: THE FUN LOVERS
Beautician
Circus Performer
Travel Agent
Recreation Leader
Retail Sales
Entertainer
Firefighter
Secretary
Lifeguard
Tour Guide
YELLOWS: THE FUN LOVERSYellows you may know…
Bill Clinton Elvis Presley
IT IS WHAT YOU DO THAT DEFINES YOU!
CHARACTER PLAYS A SIGNIFICANT ROLE IN YOUR
DECISIONS, ACTIONS, AND BEHAVIOR
The distinctive qualities that describe how a person thinks, feels, and behaves.
TRAITS OF GOOD CHARACTER
Trustworthiness
Respect
Responsibility
Fairness
Caring
Citizenship
TRUSTWORTHINESS Be honest • Don’t deceive, cheat, or
steal • Be reliable — do what you say you’ll do • Have the courage to do the right thing • Build a good reputation • Be loyal — stand by your family, friends, and country
RESPECT Treat others with respect; follow the
Golden Rule • Be tolerant and accepting of differences • Use good manners, not bad language • Be considerate of the feelings of others • Don’t threaten, hit or hurt anyone • Deal peacefully with anger, insults, and disagreements
RESPONSIBILITY Do what you are supposed to do • Plan
ahead • Persevere: keep on trying! • Always do your best • Use self-control • Be self-disciplined • Think before you act — consider the consequences • Be accountable for your words, actions, and attitudes • Set a good example for others
FAIRNESS Play by the rules • Take turns and share
• Be open-minded; listen to others • Don’t take advantage of others • Don’t blame others carelessly • Treat all people fairly
CARING Be kind • Be compassionate and show
you care • Express gratitude • Forgive others • Help people in need
CITIZENSHIP Do your share to make your school and
community better • Cooperate • Get involved in community affairs • Stay informed; vote • Be a good neighbor • Obey laws and rules • Respect authority • Protect the environment • Volunteer
TIPS FOR HEALTHY IDENTITY List your skills and strengths
Surround yourself with positive supportivepeople
Find something you love and DO IT!
Stop making life a contest
Help others…..SERVICE
WORDS OF SUESS WISDOM “Be who you are and say what you feel
because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.”
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