relationships in the modern day

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How  Social  Networking  has  changed  the  daIng  game.      By  Kathryn  McKay  

Social  Networking  has  redefined  the  inherent  meaning  and  nature  of  relaIonships.  

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Altering  how  relaIonships  are  formed,  

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Experienced,  

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And  lost.  

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There  is  no  longer  a  romanIcized,  unknowing  quality  of  daIng  

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But  rather,  this  new  form  of  daIng  is  situated  upon  “Facebook  stalking”  

-­‐  Allison  McCann,  How  Facebook  Ruined  Da8ng  (and  Breaking  Up  to)  

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With  the  aim  to  “reduce  some  of  the  uncertainty  in  relaIonships”  

 -­‐  Allison  McCann,  How  Facebook  Ruined  Da8ng  (and  Breaking  Up  to)  

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New,  media  constructed,  relaIonship  milestones  “represent  a  new  Ier  in  the  relaIonship  nupIals”.  

-­‐  quote  from  Jesse  Fox,  republished  by  Tom  Jacobs  in  “I  Now  Pronounce  You  FBO:  Facebook  Official    

Where  the  noIon  of  

going  steady  is  now  

represented  through  a  

technological mode    

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“For  some  couples  Facebook            acts  as  a  tool  for                relaIonship  

maintenance”                                      -­‐  quote  from  Jesse  Fox,  republished  by  

Tom  Jacobs  in  “I  Now  Pronounce  You  FBO:  Facebook  Official    

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photostream/  

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By  forcing  couples  to  have  honest,  

candid  conversaIons  about  what  

their  relaIonship  

is  

Social  Networking  

has  however  resulted  in  one  being  unable  to  truly  

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Where  “remaining  Facebook  friends  with  an  ex  delayed  emoIonal  recovery  and  led  to  greater  distress  over  the  breakup,  negaIve  feelings,  sexual  desire  and  longing  for  the  ex-­‐partner.”      -­‐  Allison  McCann,  “How  Facebook  Ruined  Da8ng  (and  

 Breaking  up  to)  

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RelaIonships  are  no  longer  innately  personal  between  two  partners  

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But  rather  “shaped  by  its  actual  and  perceived  

audience.”    -­‐  quote  from  Jesse  Fox,  republished  by  Tom  Jacobs  in  “I  Now  Pronounce  

You  FBO:  Facebook  Official    

The  persona  created  on  Social  Networking  sites  has  real,  inherent  implicaIons  on  ones  actual  life.    

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Where  “the  informaIon  we  disclose  online  mirrors  who  we  are  offline”  

     -­‐  From  bullying  to  rela8onships:  Mapping  our  online  communica8ons  

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and  “disclosing  more  about  ourselves  online  actually  lessons  inImacy  and  saIsfacIon  among  romanIc  couples”    

-­‐  From  bullying  to  rela8onships:  Mapping  our  online  communica8ons  

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This  new  technological  mode  of  social  interacIons,  

has,  intrinsically  changed  the  nature  of  

relaIonships.  

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