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TheLivingLegacy

Howtostartmakingadifferenceinninesteps

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Hello,

Manyofuswanttomakeadifference,butwe’renotsurewheretostart.Ifthatgoesfor

youtoo,thenhere’sawaytobecomemuchcleareraboutwhatitisyou’dliketochange…

andthentoputtogetheraplantodoit.

Wecallthisapproach‘thelivinglegacy’.It’snotalegacyinthesensealawyerwould

recognise,butit’salegacynonetheless.It’syourgifttothosearoundyou.

Thereareninesteps.Youcantakethematyourownpace.Eachsteptakesyoudeeper

andfurtheralongtheroutetomakingadifference.Youcangoroundseveraltimes,ifyou

needtogetcleareraboutwhatimpactyouwanttohave.

Thisisn’tatypical‘how-to’guide,andwe’renotgoingtogiveyouthe‘answers’.This

uniqueinteractiveworkbookgivesyouthechancetoanswerquestionsforyourself,and

typethemin,sothatyoucancomebacktoitagainandagain,tweakingandimproving

yourideaseachtime.

Restassuredthatwecan’tseeyouranswers.You’vedownloadedalocalcopy,andyou

caneditit,andshareitwithfriendsandfamily,orkeepittoyourself.

Goodluckwithit!

CharlesKingsmillandTimDrake

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TheLivingLegacy

Howtostartmakingadifferenceinninesteps

 GettingClear 4

STEP1 MyValues.Whatbeliefsandbehavioursareimportanttome? 5

STEP2 MySkills.WhichskillsandtalentswillIuse? 7

STEP3 MyDomain.InwhichareaofmylifedoIwanttofocus? 9

GettingSharp 10

STEP4 MyPurpose.WhatisthedifferenceIamgoingtomake? 11

STEP5 MyConcept.HowcanIcreateavehicletobringmyideastolife? 12

STEP6 MyStimulus.Whatisdrivingmetodothis? 13

GettingGoing 15

STEP7 Resources.WhathelpandresourceswillIneed? 16

STEP8 Myactionplan.WhatwillIdoandwhen? 17

STEP9 Makingithappen.HowcanIkeepgoing? 18

Afterword 20

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GettingClear

Thereisapathtowardsmakingadifference.Butyourpathmaybedifferentfromanyone

else’s.Beforewedecidewherethatpathwilltakeyou,let’sunderstandwhyyou’reonthe

pathinthefirstplace.Thisisyourstimulustoact.

Andlet’suncoverwhatyoubringwithyouonthatpath–whatvaluesyouhold,andwhat

skillsyoucanoffer.

Thesearethefirststeps,andtheywillhelpyoutogetmuchcleareraboutyourpath.

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Whatareyourvalues? Itseemsstraightforwardenough,butwhenyousitdowntotryandidentifyyourvalues,youarereallymappingyoursoul .Youarelisteningtoyourdeepyearnings,

anddefiningthethingsthatareimportanttoyou.Youareaddressingthemysteryofwhoyou

are.Andthat’scrucialbothforyourlifesatisfactionandforfindingyourpurpose.

Evenfiftyyearsago,thiswouldhaveseemedlikealuxury. Butasdevelopedsocietiesget

richer,wehavemoretimetothinkaboutthingsotherthanjustfindingfood,andclothing

ourselves,andsurvivingfromdaytoday.Asharedmoralpurposeisevolving,aroundintensely

worthwhilethingslikeadesireforjusticeandfairness.Oradesiretosavetheplanetfrom

environmentalcollapseandextinction.

Butwithaffluenceandfreedomcomescomplexity.Wehavetoomanychoices.Wedon’t

knowwhichavenuetofollow,orwhichcausetoespouse.Whichiswherevaluescomein.

Understandingandknowingyourvaluesisasignificantfirststep,takingyouontothepathyou

wanttotread.

Havealookatthevalueslistoverleaf.Whatyouarelookingforarethosefewvalueswhich

aresocentraltoyouthattheywilldirectyourlife.Wesuggestyouaimforbetweenthreeand

ten.Whenyou’velookedthroughthem,we’llstart.

Startbyselectingtheoneswhichplay–orcouldplay-amajorpartinhowyoulive. Be

honestwithyourself.Thequestionisnot“doesthisappealtome”or“wouldthismakemefeelgoodaboutmyself”or“shouldn’tIbedoingsomethingaboutthis?”Thequestionis:“doesthis

mattersodeeplytomethatIamalreadylivingbyit,orpreparedtolivebyit?”

Don’tworryaboutdroppingidealsfromyourlistifthey’renotreallyvalues. Ifyouthinkthat

PhysicalExerciseisimportant,butyoudon’tactuallyexerciseorwanttoexercise,thenthat’s

anideal,notavalue.Itshouldn’tbeonyourlist.Andthat’sfine.Therearenorightorwrong

values.Youareprioritisingwhatisgenuinely,deepdown,importanttoyou.

Thisisn’tanexhaustivelist,soaddinavalueifwe’vemissedit.

Havingtroublegettingdowntoamanageablenumber? IfavalueisimportanttoyouANDyou’relivingthatvalue,keepitonthelist.Ifyou’renotlivingit,andnotpreparedtotake

immediatestepstoliveit,de-selectit.Forexample,ifoneofyourvaluesis honesty,butyou

arekeepingsecretsfromalovedone,orworkinginadishonestindustry,youshouldtakeitoff

yourlist.

Whenyou’vegotdowntoamanageablenumber(tenorfewer),expandontheindividual

words.Writedownasentenceortwoabouteachone,todescribewhatitmeanstoyou.

(Freedom,forexample,meansverydifferentthingstodifferentpeople.)Thiswillhelpyouto

buildupamuchclearerpictureofwhoyouare,andwhatyoustandfor.

Allthismaywelltaketime. Itisnotaquickprocesstoexplorevaluesthathaveeitherlain

dormantorbeensuppressedoveraperiodofpossiblyyears.Butit’sworthdoing,becauseyour

listandyourwordswillremindyouofwhoyouare,andwhoyouarecommittedtobeing.

STEP1:MYVALUESWhatbeliefsandbehavioursareimportanttome?

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THEVALUESLIST

Accountability Fidelity Reliability

Achievement FinancialSecurity Religion

Acknowledgement Forgiveness Respect

Advancement Frankness Safety

Adventure Freedom Security

Affection Friendship Self-Control

Autonomy Fulfilment Self-Esteem

Balance(Home/Work) FutureGenerations Self-Expression

Balance(Physical/Emotional/Mental/Spiritual)

Giving Service

BeingRight Goodness ServingTheCommunity

BeingTheBest Happiness SimplicityBusinessBuilding Harmony SocialResponsibility

Caring Health Spirituality

Challenge HelpingEachOther Spontaneity

Change HelpingTheEnvironment Status

Charity Honesty Strength

Competence Humour TheArts

Competing Iconoclasm TheFuture

ConnectingWithPeople Inclusiveness ThePast

Conservation Independence ThePresent

Control Integrity Trust

Control Intimacy Truth

Cooperation Justice Vitality

Courage Leadership Wealth

Creativity Learning Winning

Culture Love Wisdom

Dignity Loyalty

Egalitarianism Mastery

Elegance Meaning

Empowerment Mercy

Enlightenment Order

Enterprise Peace

Enthusiasm Perseverance

Excellence PersonalDevelopment

Excitement PhysicalFitness

Experience Pleasure

Experiences Privacy

Fame Quality

Family Recognition

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Yourskillsmatter,anditmattersthatyouuseyourskills. Ifyou’reapoorlistener,don’tbecomeatherapist.Ifyou’reclumsy,don’tbecomeasurgeon.Yourpatientswouldn’tthank

you.Ifyou’regoingtomakeadifference,youneedtoputyourskillsandnaturalaptitudesto

work.

Whatskillsandtalentsdoyouhave,andwhichofthemindemand? Thisisamuchmoreopen

exercisethanfindingyourvalues.Howcanwematchupwhattheworldneedswiththeskills

youbring?

Here’sanexercisetohelpyoudojustthat. Compilethesetwolists.

TenthingsI’mgoodatare…

TenthingsIenjoydoingare…

STEP2:MYSKILLSWhichskillandtalentswillIuse?

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Nowfindthethingsincommon .Theremaybeten,theremaybeonlyacouple,buttherearebound

tobesome.Foreachofthem,askyourselfhowotherpeoplecouldfindthemuseful.

Appearedinbothlists Howotherpeoplemightfindthemuseful…

Theanswerswilltellyouwhichskillstothinkaboutusingasyoupursueyourgoalof

makingadifference.

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Asanintroductiontodecidingonyourpurpose, itwillhelptodecideonwhichareaofyourlifeisgoingtobethedomaininwhichyouchoosetomakeadifference.

Domainisn’tacommonwordinthiscontext,soherearesomeexamples. Makeyourown

choice,anddon’tworryifit’snotinthislist–thisisjusttogiveyouanideaofwhat’savailable.

Artistic–willitinvolveyourlifeasapainter/musician/dancer/photographer/sculptor/

engraver/collector/director/cook/flowerarranger/designer/decoratororwhateveris

yourchosenmediumofartisticexpression?

Work–willitinvolveyourworkasadirector/manager/fullorparttimeworker/leader/

tradeunionist/entrepreneurorwhateverroleyoudo,orwish,tofulfilatwork?

Home/Family–willitinvolveyourhusband/wife/partner/child/parent/relative/step

relative,orsomeoneyoucareaboutwhoneedsyourhelporguidanceorsupport?

Spiritual–willitinvolveyourmeditation/religion/faith/personalgodorwhateveryour

higherlevelofbeingthattouchesyoursoul?

Social-willitinvolveyourvolunteering/communitywork/socialserviceorwhateverformof

serviceyoufeelitisimportanttoengagein?

Sport/Games–willitinvolveyourperformance,oryoursupportforyoursupportforyoursport/gameorfitnessactivity?

PhysicalHealth–willyoubeseekingtoimprove/transformyourhealth,inordertobenefit

yourselfandyourlovedones?

MentalHealth–willitinvolveahealthierlifestyle/personaldevelopment/escapefromtoxic

friendsorassociates?

There’sawidechoice ,andfocusingwillhelpyouchooseyourpurpose.

Mydomainwillbe…

STEP3:DOMAINInwhichareaofmylifedoIwanttofocus?

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GettingSharp

Withthesefirstthreestepsbehindyou,youwillalreadybeclearer.Cleareraboutwhy

you’reonthispath,cleareraboutwhatyoucareabout,andcleareraboutwhatskillsand

talentsyoucanbring.Takesometimetolookbackatyouranswers.Updatethemifyou

wish.

Thenextthreestepswillhelpyoutogetsharp.You’llgetclearaboutthedomainofyour

lifeinwhichyouwanttomakeadifference.You’llbedecidingonyourpurpose.And,sothat

youcanarticulateyourplanstootherpeople,we’llencourageyoutofindawaytoturnyour

ideasintoaconcept.

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Thisistheheartofthematter. It’stimetodecideonthedifferenceyou’regoingtomake.

Herearesomeexamplesofpurpose thatmayhelptocrystalliseyourthinking:

Tohelpotherstolearn

Tohelpotherstofeedthemselves

Tohelpotherstoreadandwrite

Tobringlaughterintopeople’slives

Totakeyourgameorsporttoanewlevel

Tobuildanewbusinessparadigmcombiningprofitwithcompassion

Tosaveyoungboysandgirlsfromsexualexploitation

Topaintpictureswhichmovepeople

Totouchpeople’sheartsthroughsong

Topioneeranewcategoryofbioscience

Tobeagreatsurgeontosaveandimprovelives

Tonursepeoplewithcompassionandjoy

Togiveadyingpartnerthehappiestandmostfulfillinglastmonthspossible

Togettraffic-calmingmeasuresatalocalaccidentblackspot

Tohelpex-prisonerslivehappyandusefullivesbackinsociety

Togiveyourchildrenthebestpossiblestart

Andsoon.

Thecrucialthingistodefineapurposethatworksforyou .

Iamgoingto…

Haveagoatwritingdownapurposeforyourself. Livewithitforafewhours,ordays,and

comebacktoitifyouneedto.Yourfirstattempttoarticulateyourpurposeisunlikelytobeyour

last.Ifyou’relucky,you’llhaveaburningclaritythatdominatesyourthinkingandfeelingsfrom

earlyonintheprocessofdecidinghowyou’llmakeadifference.If,liketherestofus,your

purposeisslowtorevealitself,it’slikelythatitwilldevelopandchangeovertime.Itdoesn’t

havetoberightfirsttime.Writedownsomething,thenyoucanimproveonit.

STEP4:MYPURPOSEWhatisthedifferenceIamgoingtomake?

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It’stimetoengagetheoutsideworld. It’sallverywellhavingthedesiretomakeadifference,butthenextchallengeistosharewhat’sinyourheartandwhat’sinyourhead.Youneeda

vehicleforyourideas,andthat’swherehavingaconceptcomesin.

Thewaytostartisbywritingdownyourpurpose,andthentowritedownyourbestideafor

tacklingtheproblem.Soforexample:

•  Mypurposeistohelpotherswhoaresufferingfromthesamediseasethatmysisterhad…

…soIwillsetupacharitytohelpthem.

•  MypurposeistomakethecompanyIworkformoreenvironmentallyfriendly...

…soIwillputtogethera‘greencommittee’inmyworkplace.

•  Mypurposeistohelpboredlocalkids…

…soIwillhireamusicalvenueandhelpthemformbands,choirsorrapgroups.

Andthenjustturnitround:

•  I’llsetupacharitytohelpotherpeoplewithsuch-and-suchadisease.

•  I’llforma‘greencommittee’atworktofindwaysofmakingtheorganisationmore

sustainable.

•  I’llprovidemusicalopportunitiesforlocalkidswhoneedmorecreativeoutletsfortheir

energies.

Thiscanbeeasy,oritcanbehard. Someconceptsarefairlyself-evident,butothersdemand

profoundreflection–coupledwithsomeimagination–toprovideasolution.Youmaywantto

lookforradical,innovativeconceptsthatwillcreatesufficientnewvaluetochangethings.Oryou

maydecidetoworkwithexistingcharitiesororganisationsworkingtowardsthesamepurpose.

Thisismypurpose,andalsomybestideafortacklingtheproblem…

Somyconceptis…

STEP5:MYCONCEPTHowcanIcreateavehicletobringmyideastolife?

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Areyounotyetclearaboutwhatsortofdifferenceyouwanttomake? Thenlet’sbeginbyfindingaseedwiththepotentialtobecomesomethingmuchlarger.We’regoingtoencourage

youtoidentifyyourstimulus.

Astimulusisanysituationorfactoranecdotewhichstirsyouintowantingtoact.

Thestimuluscansometimesprovideyourpurpose.

•  Havingsomeoneclosetoyoudiecanbethestimulustoraisefundstohelpprevent

similardeaths,ortochannelthecompassioncreatedbythetragedyintosomenew,life-

enhancingproject.

•  Seeingpicturesofanaturaldisasterlikeanearthquakeoratsunamicanstiryour

compassionwithanintensitythatmakesyoufeelthatyouhavetodosomethingpositive

asahumanbeingtohelpthesituation.

•  Orseeingwastefuldestructionofwildlife,orenvironments,maystiryouranger,soyou

feelanurgentneedtodosomethingtoimprovethesituation.

Findasituationwhichyoufeelisunresolved,andwhichstirsyou.Maybeyou’reangry,orupset,

orsaddened.Youhavetofindsomesortofresonantcompassionwithinyourself.Ifyou’renot

stirred,lookelsewhere.Ifyou’restruggling,tryreadingJessicaWilliams’book“50FactsthatShouldChangetheWorld”.Then,justhaveago.

Mystimulusis…

Ifyoufeelyou’reintherightarea,butyouhaven’tquitenailedit,trytoenhanceyourstimulus.

Dosomeactiveresearchtopinpointtheexactareaofthechallengeyoufindmostengaging.This

islikelytheareayouwillfindmostrewardingwhenyousetaboutmakingthedifference.You

willthereforebemoreenergised,andmorecapableofrisingtothechallengeswhichwillinevitablycomeonthejourney.

STEP6:MYSTIMULUSWhatisdrivingmetodothis?

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Supposeyourstimuluscameaboutwhenyousawadocumentaryaboutstarvation. Areyouup

forsomeresearch?(Ifnot,youneedadifferenttopic.)ResearchthesubjectontheInternet,see

whatcharitiesarealreadyinvolvedintryingtohelp.Talktooneortwoofthem,andifpossible,

talktopeopleoperatinginthefield–engagingwiththeproblematfirsthand.Ifyoucan,makea

triptotheregionthatinterestsyoumost,andexperiencethesituationinperson.Watch

fundraisingeventsstagedbysomeoftheTVchannels.Celebritiesoftengoouttowitnessevents

atfirsthand,andyoucanseetheimportanceofwhattheyaredoingmovefromtheirheadsto

theirhearts.Youcanseetheyaremovedbywhattheyareseeing,andtheirfundraisingefforts

aremuchmorepowerfulasaresult.

Revisitingyourstimuluskeepsyourintentiontomakeadifferencepowerfullyinyourheart ,

andpreventsitslippingbackintoyourhead.Itkeepsyourcourageandmotivationstrong,and

remindsyouwhyyouarestrivingtocreatevaluetobringaboutapositivedifference.Andit

givesyoufreshenergy.

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GetGoing

You’resixstepsalongthepath. You’vesharpenedyoururgetomakeadifferenceintoaspecific

purpose.Andyouhaveaconceptoravehicle,tobringittolife.Reviewwhereyou’vegottoso

far.Amendyouranswers,asmanytimesasyouwish,aslongasyougenuinelyfeelyou’regettingclosertothepurposeandconceptthatyou’regoingtodevoteyourselfto.

Thenextthreestepswilltakeyourideasfromthepagetotherealworld. You’llbegathering

helpandresources,followinganactionplan,andmakingthingshappen.

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Armedwithyourconcept,youcanaskforhelp. You’reclearnowaboutwhatyou’retryingtodo,andwhyyou’retryingtodoit.Canyoudoitalone?Maybe,maybenot.Butyourpurposeis

rootedinanoblecause,sowhynotaskforhelpandresources?

Helpcantakemanyforms: time,money,ideas,hardwork,expertise,introductions,physical

resources…anddon’tforgetmoralsupport.Whatyouneed,andwhoyoucanask,iscompletely

dependentonyourconcept.Butit’sworthwritingitalldown,becauseyourplanswillbeheavily

affectedbywhetherornotyougetthoseresources.

ThisisthehelpIneed AndthisiswhoIwillask

STEP7:RESOURCES WhathelpandresourceswillIneed?

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Planshelpyoutobridgethegapbetweenyourintentionsandactually doingsomething.Thisisaseriousquestthatyou’reinvolvedwith,anditdeservesproperplanning.Trytocapturethe

majorstepsandadddatestothem.Theywillbemilestonesalongthepath.

Action# Whatwillbedone? Who’lldoit?Deadline

STEP8:MYACTIONPLAN WhatwillIdoandwhen?

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Younowhaveaplan.But… anyplanorintentionisonlyasgoodasourabilityandwillingnessto

implementit.There'softenadisconnectbetweenwhatweplanandwhatwedo.Somepeople

runaheadanddothingswithverylittleplanning.Othersplanandplanbutneveractontheir

plans.

MakingadifferenceismuchharderthanNOTmakingone! So,herearesomeideasforwhen

youfeelstuckordauntedordispirited.

Ifyoufaceseeminglyoverwhelmingchallenges…

•  Startfromapositionofoptimism. Ithelpsfromapsychologicalpointofviewbutalsoa

practicalone.Youwillachievemore,andpeoplewilllistentoyoumore,ifyouhaveacan-doapproach.FocusingonwhatweCANdoisinfinitelymoreproductivethan

focusingonwhatwecan'tdo.

•  Findsomelike-mindedpeopleandorganisationswhoareactive-orwhocouldbeactive-inyourareaofconcern.Mastermindgroupscanbeextremelyeffectiveindeveloping

thinking,andmakingthingshappen.

Ifyoufindyourselfprocrastinating…

•  Developamindsetof“positivefailure”. Gettingoutofyourcomfortzonetodothebig

stufftomakeadifferencewillinevitablybringsomefailures.Acceptthefailuresasproof

youaremakingprogress.Seethemasabadgeofcourage.Keepfailingpositivelyuntil

youstarttosucceed.

•  Makethingssmaller -onethingadaytogetyouclosertoyourgoal.Eventwominutes.

AcoachcalledCherylMillercallsthis'microbursts'-veryshortburstsofenergyaimedat

aparticularproblem.Takebitesizedchunks–atspeed.

Ifyoucan’tstartuntilit’sperfect…

•  Forgetperfect.Attheheartofthis,there'saworryaboutbeingcriticised.Thelessonhereisthatunlessyou'reMozart,there'snosuchthingasperfect.Afteryougetto98%

you'regoingbackwards.You'reprobablyfillingupyourmindwithirrelevantdetailthat

hasnoplaceintheoutsideworld.Soletgoalittleandseewhathappens.

•  Valuelearningfrommistakes. Wedon'tlikemakingmistakesorbeingridiculed.And

that'squiteunderstandable.Butexperience-includingmistakes-isagreatteacher.

Mostsuccessfulpeoplehaveastringofmistakesbehindthem.Rememberyourstrengths

-tapintoyourpassion-takeyourcourageinbothhands-andtry.

STEP9:MAKINGITHAPPEN HowcanIkeepgoing?

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Ifyou’rejusttoobusy…

•  Askyourself:iswhateverI’mdoingagooduseofmytimerightnow? Havingapurpose,beingclearaboutyourvalues-bothhelpyoutofigureoutwhat'simportant.Butitalso

meansdroppingwhat'strivial.

Ifyou’refeelingstressed…

•  Beawarethatgoingthroughalltheseexercisesisawayoffindingalifewithmuchlessstress.Evenifwearetryingdoachievesomethingwhichisverydifficult.Ifyouare

alignedwithyourpurposeandyourvaluesthenyouwillbemoreenergetic,morealert,

moreatpeacewithyourself.More'inthezone'asathletessay.Positivestressgives

energy.Negativestressarisesbecausewefollowpathswhichareatoddswithourvalues

andtalents.

•  Anticipatethatyouwillhavesetbacks. Realisethatit'snotaboutyou.Ultimately,allexperienceisuseful…

•  Rememberthatdistressisdifferentfromstress. Ifyou'reworkingwithseriouslyillordamagedpeople,youmaywellfindyourworkdistressing.Youwouldnotbefullyhuman

ifyoudidn’t.Butexhaustingasitis,itwillbeultimatelypositive.Youwon'tberipping

yourselfapartifthatiswhatyouhavechoseninthelightofyourpurposeandvalues.

Otherwaystogetthingsmoving…

•  Involveotherpeople.Onewayofachievingresultsthroughothersislearningtoinfluencethem.Todothis,youmuststepintotheirshoes,toshowthatyouunderstand

theirissues,andappealtotheirvaluesandfinerfeelings.Beingpassionateisagreat

persuader.

•  Learntodelegate -ifyouhavepeopletodelegateto.

•  Makepubliccommitments.Ifyoumakeacommitmentinfrontofotherpeople,they

canactasyourconscienceandholdyoutoaccount.

•  Ifyou’vedonealltheexerciseswell,thenyouwillhavebrokendownmanyofthebarrierstopurposefulaction. Theexercisesareintenselypersonal,andwhenyouidentifythingslikepurposeandvaluesthatareveryrelevanttoyou,theycanbeahuge

sourceofinspirationandenergy.

•  Referbacktoyourpurposeandvaluesandcommitmentsregularly. Theymaychange

overtime,oryoumayredefineorrefinewhat'simportanttoyou.Butkeepthemalive.

Postthemsomewherewhereyoucanseethem.

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Afterword

You’vebeguntomakeadifference.

Youknowit’sgoingtogettough,ifithasn’talready. Theremaybetimeswhenyou’llwishyou

neverstarted.Butyou’veactedonyourstimulus.You’veworkedoutwhatyouwanttodo.

You’recommitted.You’regoingtoneedcourage.

Solet’sreviewsomeofthebenefitsofthepathyou’retaking.

Youarebuildingyourcharacter. You’reclearaboutyourpurposeandyourvalues.

Youareinspiringothers. Values,confidence,enthusiasm,passion–theyallenthuse

otherpeople.

You’retakingresponsibility. You’renotpassingthebuck.

You’reactingaccordingtoyourconscience. Thelightbywhichyoujudgeyouractions

burnsbrightly.

Yourlifehasmeaning.Youractionssaymorethanwordsevercould.Eventhewordsin

thisworkbook!

Aboveallelse,otherpeople’slivesarericherforyourpresence.

Sostandtall,differencemaker,andbeproudofyourLivingLegacy.