what is bullying? it’s with less hurting someone and repeatedly purposely power
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What is Bullying?
It’s
with lesshurting someoneand
repeatedlypurposely
power.
• Bullying is aggressive behavior or intentional “harm doing” by one person or group
– It can be verbal (insults and/or threats)
– It can be psychological (spreading rumors and/or shunning the target/victim)
– It can be physical (knocking down and/or hitting the target/victim)
• It is carried out repeatedly and over time.
• It is targeted towards someone less powerful.
• Boys are most often overt bullies (i.e., teasing, hitting, or stealing)
• Girls are most often covert bullies (i.e., spreading rumors or exclusion)
What’s the difference?
Bullying vs.
having a conflict
Bullying is EVERYONE’S problem.
FACT: It’s violence.FACT: It has lasting effects.FACT: It’s common.
Bullying is just part of being a kid.
• academic problems
• social isolation• mental health problems
Being bullied toughens children up.FACT: Being bullied can cause
Being a bully has long-term consequences, too.
Bullies are at higher risk for:
• academic problems
• social isolation
• violence and crime
All bullying is physical.
FACT: Bullying can also be:
• indirect (relational)• verbal
For the bully, it’s all about
Who Are Bullies?
• People who bully typically demonstrate a strong sense of self -esteem. They may demonstrate this but in reality a bully has low self esteem which is why they choose to pick on other people.
Who Are Bullies? (continued)
• Bullies like to f eel powerful and in control
• They pick on others to make them feel better about themselves.
Anyone can be bullied.• aggressive targets• passive targets
The power of bystanders
The silent majority – people who stand by and watch are just as
guilty. They have power to stop it!
• Bullies target others to feel more powerful.
• Bullying has long-term consequences for everyone.
• Bullies, targets and bystanders all play a role in bullying.
Check in - Review
Assertiveness
• standing up for yourself without using violence
• respecting the rights of others
Assertive body language
• Stand tall.
• Make eye contact.
• Speak firmly.
Managing emotions
Strategies for managing anger
• Recognize it.
• Calm down.
• Find healthy emotional outlets.
Resolving conflicts…PEACEFULLY
• changes in behavior
• avoiding school
• drop in grades
• missing belongings
• headaches and stomachaches
Two common responses to bullying—and why they don’t work.• “Just ignore it.” (Ignoring a bully may
be seen as a passive response, which will invite more bullying)
• “Fight back!” (Violence usually leads to more violence, and bullying is no exception. Remember that bullies want to get a reaction out of their victims - so fighting back may only provoke the bully more)
Advice
• Stay calm.
• Be assertive.
• Get help.
Staying calm and confident
• visualization
• looking confident
• self-talk
Defusing a bully
• Agree with the facts.
• Make a joke.
• Reframe it.
Safety first
• Avoid the bully until the conflict gets resolved.
• Think safety in numbers.
• Get away and get help.
Friendship is the best protection.
• overcome shyness
• improve social skills.
• join in
Give positive alternatives.
• Encourage healthy interests.
• Turn strength into leadership.
• Get connected to the community.
Know when to seek help.
Empathy
• prevents bullying behavior
• makes bullying unacceptable
• “I” message:
I (feel this way) when (this happens). I need (this to happen).
• “You” message: (not an appropriate response)
YOU thief! I can’t believe YOU took my book without asking me. If YOU do it again, YOU’LL be sorry.”
Assertive-speak
Which is assertive?
“Stop it! You’re hurting my feelings!”
b. “I don’t like you calling me names. I want you to stop now.”
a.
Practice makes perfect.
• Role play.
• Practice decision making.
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