attitude khera

8/3/2019 Attitude Khera

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08/24/11 Dr. Radha Parikh 1

It's all about Attitude

From Shiv Khera


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You can win!

Winners dont do different things

They do things Differently

Confidence, Passion, Innovation,Determination, goal setting (futureoriented), dedicated, positive thinking &attitude, time management, learn frommistakes, disciplined, hard-working,persevering, cooperative , helpful,


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Factors that determine attitude

Home, School &Work: Positive orotherwiseenvironment

Environment alongwith Experiencebuilds our attitude

The formal orinformal educationwe have adds to it

Attitude

Environment Experience

Education


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High self-esteem doesnot mean big ego

Understand yourself

Know yourself

Value yourself

Know yourself

Wants

Predispositions

Ambitions

Desires

Responsibility

Discipline

LoveValue yourself

Confidence 2

Rights

Duty

Understand yourself

Values

Beliefs

Whys


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Eight Steps to Attitude Change

Change focus: Look forthe positive

Build a positive self-esteem

Make a habit of doing

it now

Stay away from

negative influencesDevelop an attitude ofgratitude

Learn to like the thingsthat need to be done

Get into a continuouseducation program

Start your day withsomething positive


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Success

Success is progressive realization of a worthygoal (Earl Nightingale)

Success is measured by knowing we have

done a job well and achieved our objective It is not measured by our position in life but

by the obstacles we overcame to get there

Lifes battles dont always go to the stronger

and faster man, But sooner or later the manwho wins is the man who thinks he can


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Our Strengths (for success)

PreparePrepare PlanPlanBe disciplinedBe disciplined


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Motivation

External (Money, incentives, societalapproval, fame, fear)

Internal (Pride, sense of achievement,responsibility, belief)

How does it work? Which one is moreimportant?


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Different types of Self-esteem

HighTalk about ideas

Caring attitude

Humility

Respects others

Courage of convictionConfidence

Concerned about character

Assertive

Accepts responsibility

OptimisticSensitive (willing to learn)

Discuss

LowTalk about people

Critical attitude

Arrogance

Rebels against authority

Goes along to get alongConfusion

Concerned about reputation

Aggressive

Blames the whole world

FatalisticTouchy know it all

Argue


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To cope with anger:

Distance yourself; dont take others angerpersonally

Understand cause of anger by listening andobserving carefully

Say little or nothing until anger has dieddown

After calm achieved, demonstrateunderstanding by acknowledging others

viewpoint (not same as agreeing) Negotiate a way forward or walk away

(Dena Michelli, 2007)


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Contrast between:

Negative behaviors

Ego, Arrogance,

Conceit Selfishness

Jealousy

Aggressiveness

Close-minded

Irresponsible

Positive behaviors

Pride

Self-interest

Envy

AssertivenessOpen-minded

Responsible


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Giving Critical feedback

Be considerate & private

Have confidence in what you want tosay

Take responsibility for the feedback

Make sure feedback is based onbehavior you want to see changed

Use positive body language



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& Receiving Critical feedback

Attend carefully to what is being said

Judge for yourself if it is valid; if not,

disregard it and move on

Do not argue you will only drawattention to your vulnerabilities



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Creating a positive first impression

Pay attention to the email/letter ortelephone which is the first contact andwhen you meet, take care of:

Appearance Mobility

Handshake

Body language

Voice, accent, speech pattern, tone


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And lastly, Be kind to yourself


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Bibliography

Khera, S. (2002). You can Win. NewDelhi, India: McMillan.

Michelli, D. (2007). Assertiveness in aweek. London, UK: Hodder &Stoughton

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