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Attraction and Love


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Attraction: The Force That Binds? Physical Attractiveness Is beauty in the eye of the beholder? Cultural standards for physical attractiveness exist. Can lead to taking measures to meet cultural expectations Anorexia nervosa: Potentially life-threatening eating disorder characterized by refusal to maintain ahealthy body weight; intense fear of being overweight; a distorted body image; a

nd, in females, lack of menstruation (amenorrhea). Men prefer women to be somewhat heavier than women think men do. Women prefer men to be somewhat leaner thanmen think women do.

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Attraction: The Force That Binds? Lesbians physical preferences: Prefer heavier women than men Reject excessive slenderness as attractive

Nonphysical traits Perceived beauty may be enhanced by such traits as familiarity, liking, respect,and sharing of values and goals

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Attraction: The Force That Binds? Some facial features associated with beauty appear to be the same across cultures. Gender-role expectations affect perceptions of physical attractiveness. People who act consistent with gender-role expectations typically are viewed asmore attractive.

People s names affect perceptions of attractiveness.

Matthew versus Sylvester Christine versus Gertrude4


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Symmetry of Facial Features

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Attraction: The Force That Binds? Men report valuing the physical attractiveness of prospective partners more thanwomen do. Women report valuing the earning potential of prospective partners more than men do. Although some evidence may support an evolutionary explanation for attractiveness preferences, it does not fit all the data. Both men and women report that personal characteristics (e.g., honesty) matter m

ore than physical features do when considering long-term partners. And many women also prefer physically attractive partners. Cultural influences can explain the findings, as well.6


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Attraction: The Force That Binds? Attraction-Similarity Hypothesis People tend to develop romantic relationships with people who are similar to themselves in attractiveness and other traits. Exceptions to this hypothesis happen when a lack of attractiveness is compensated for by other factors.

Matching can apply to similarity in ethnicity, age, educational level, and religion.

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Attraction: The Force That Binds? Attitudes: Do Opposites Attract or Do Birds of a Feather Flock Together ? Similarity in attitudes is an important factor in attraction. Propinquity (nearness) we tend to live near those who are similar to us in many ways Similarity ismore important to women than to men

Reciprocity

Mutual exchange People like those who they think like them.8


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What is Love?Is it Biological? Bodily changes occur when we feel love: Chemicals in the brain s pleasure system Hormones Increased nerve growth factor

Is it Psychological lodged in the individual? Is it Cultural a function of shared beliefs?

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Love and Greek Heritage Philia Friendship love Based on liking and respect rather than sexual desire

Eros The kind of love that is closest in meaning to the modernday concept of passion

Storge Loving attachment and nonsexual affection The type of love that binds parents tochildren

Agape Selfless love A kind of loving that is similar to generosity and charity10


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Romantic Love in Contemporary Western Culture Western culture idealizes the concept of romantic love. In the U.S., most people believe romantic love is a prerequisite for marriage orother kinds of long-term or permanent relationships. Romantic love involves emotional highs and lows. Women justify sexual activity with love, but men do not need to attribute love to sexual urges and behavior

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Love Vs InfatuationInfatuation A state of intense absorption in or focus on another person Usually involves sexual desire, elation, general physiological arousal or excitement; passion If relationship develops, it typically is enforced by feelings of attachment and caring. Often a passing fancy, but may develop into deeper feelings and an enduring relationship

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Contemporary Models of Love

Love as appraisal of arousal (Berscheid & Hatfield) Romantic love A kind of love characterized by feelings of passion and intimacy Physiological arousal that is attributed to feelings of love Culture that idealizes romantic love

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Styles of love (Hendrick & Hendrick) Logical love (pragma) I consider a lover s potential in life before committing myself. Possessive, excited love (mania) When my lover ignores me, I get sick allover. Selfless love (agape) My lover s needs and wishes are more important thanmy own. Romantic love (eros) My lover and I were attracted to each other immediately. Game-playing love (ludus) I get over love affairs pretty easily. Friendship (storge, philia) The best love grows out of an enduring friendship.

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Sternberg s triangular theory of love Three main components of loving relationships Intimacy Feelings of closeness, bondedness, and connectedness Desire to share one s innermost thoughts with the other Desire to give and receive emotional support

Passion

Intense romantic or sexual desire for another person, which is accompanied by physiological arousal

Commitment Commitment to maintain the relationship despite potential hardships15


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Love: The Morning and the Evening Star ? Sternberg s triangular theory of loveIntimacy

Passion

Commitment

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Love: The Morning and the Evening Star ? Sternberg s triangular theory of love Types of love Nonlove All components of love are absent.

Liking

Intimacy is present. Passion and commitment are absent.

Infatuation Love at first sight Passion is present. Intimacy and commitment are absent.17


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Sternberg s triangular theory of love Types of love Empty love Commitment is present. Passion and intimacy are absent.

Romantic love Passion and intimacy are present. Commitment is absent.

Companionate love Intimacy and commitment are present. Passion is absent.

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Sternberg s triangular theory of love Types of love Fatuous love Passion and commitment are present. Intimacy is absent.

Consummate love

Full or complete measure of love Combination of passion, intimacy, and commitment An ideal type of love Harder to maintain than to achieve

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Sternberg s triangular theory of loveLiking

Intimacy

Romantic Love

Companionate Love

PassionInfatuation

Consummate LoveFatuous Love

CommitmentEmpty Love

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Study Guide Symmetry Physical features Wealth and power Personality traits Attrity hypothesis Philia Storge Eros Agape Romantic love Pragma Mania Ludus Sternberg s Triangular Theory Intimacy Passion Committment Empty love Liking Infatuation Romantic love Fatuous love Companionate love


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