ATTRACTION

Researchers at University College London found that feelings of love lead to a

suppression of activity in the areas of the brain controlling critical thinking.

LOVE IS BLIND

{REALTIONSHIPS}

{growth of a relationship}

STAGE 1- Getting Acquainted Conversations during classes or in the hall, glances, smiles.

STAGE 2-Friendship

Sharing common activities or friends, writing notes, friendly “shoves” or pushes, common work places or community groups

STAGE 3-Phone calls/texting

calls/texts or calls for information about a school project or another friend, occasional “prank” calls

STAGE 4-Socializing with groups

Sharing gossip, hugging, working on school activities or projects, going to the movies, malls, or to another person’s house to watch movies or eat

STAGE 5-Group Dating

Groups of 3 or more girls and 3 or more guys meeting for specific activities-movies, dinner, sports, etc.-Pairing off does not occur; group members are simply friends

STAGE 6-Double Dating

2 girls and 2 guys who have paired off go together for an activity of any kind. A romantic attraction is usually involved.

STAGE 7- Pairing/single dating

1 girl and 1 guy who have paired off go together for an activity of any kind. The couple know each other well and want to spend time alone.

I love it when/I hate it when

Write down things you love or find attractive in the opposite gender. Then write down things you hate or don’t find attractive in the opposite gender.

Keep it appropriate and no descriptions of body parts are allowed.

Start thinking beyond the “physical” and start to become aware of other attractive qualities

Select 10 characteristics of a “dateable” person. (Ex: Has a plan, on time, attractive, sense of humor, etc.)

Then, put these characteristics in order from 1-10, 1 being MOST important and 10 being LEAST important.

After ordering your list, circle the characteristics you possess YOURSELF.

Do you agree or disagree??

“You attract what you are, not what you want.”

Why do we date?

Attractions leads to DATING

Why is attraction important?

Part of growing up-time to look forward to and enjoy the experience

Helps meet people and begin selection process Introduces new social settings New experiences that you otherwise may not

have taken advantage of Give you companionship

WHEN SHOULD WE DATE?

Personal answer…But consider the following options: When you feel socially ready Parent’s permission The younger you start, the more likely you are to

move to early paring and single dating. These have concerns.

Western Washington University did a study and found that the greater number of sexual partners you have while dating, the fewer your chances of staying faithful when married.

When YOU are ready, not your friends. Everyone has a different dating time clock.

Girls are usually ready before boys therefore girls are more likely to date older boys.

WHO SHOULD YOU DATE?

Someone you’re attracted to! Physically and personality

Close to age The older the date is, the more

they may expect from you in terms of involvement, personal commitment, or physical intimacy. Beware of older person looking for a young, innocent date. Try not to increase more than 2-3 years age gap.

Someone your parents approve of Parents can be protective. Make

sure you talk things over and try to resolve any issues. Go to dinner with them-let them get to know each other

Someone with similar values and standards You both will be more comfortable

and may avoid embarrassing or dangerous situations