1.Umair Aslam

2. Salt Lake City, Utah, on October 24, 1932 He was an American educator, business consultant, motivational speaker and author of the bestselling book. B.S. in Business Administration from the University of Utah in Salt Lake City, M.B.A. in Business Administration from Harvard University Doctorate from Brigham Young University STEPHEN RICHARDS COVEY 3. STEPHEN RICHARDS COVEY His most popular book was The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. which has sold more than 25 million copies in 40 languages throughout the world. 4. Coveys Milestones In 2002, Forbes named The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People one of the top 10 most influential management books ever. Authored Principle-Centered Leadership and The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families, with sales exceeding more than one million copies each. Authored First Things First, with sales exceed more than two million copies Authored The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families, which was released in October 1997, and is the #1 best- selling hardcover book on family. Authored The 8th Habit, with sales exceeding nearly a million copies. 5. Coveys Milestones Covey received The National Fatherhood Award from the National Fatherhood Initiative. Covey was named Speaker of the Year in 1999. Covey received the International Man of Peace Award. Covey received the International Entrepreneur of the Year Award. Covey participated on the Board of Directors for the Points of Light Foundation. Covey was co-founder and vice chairman of Franklin Covey. Covey was awarded twelve honorary doctorate degrees. 6. Stephen Richards Cove Stephen R. Covey passed away peacefully on Monday July 16, 2012 , at Eastern Idaho Regional Medical Center. His legacy to the world is Principle- Centered Leadership and his many contributions will live on through the principles he loved, taught and espoused. 7. THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, was named the #1 Most Influential Business Book of the 20th Century, Which has sold more than 25 million copies worldwide in 40 languages since its first publication in 1989. The audio version became the first non- fiction audio-book in U.S. publishing history to sell more than one million copies. 8. The author - Stephen R Covey wanted to convey life changing ideas about being a more effective person in all areas of life, be it family, professional, spiritual or emotional and there by creating happiness and satisfaction, so that we can become more successful both personally and professionally The author puts across seven habits which will help us be more effective. THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE 9. The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People 10. Henry David Thoreau 1817-1862 PREAMBLE TO FIRST HABIT I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavor. 11. Self-Awareness is the ability to think about your very thought process Self awareness: the most fundamental paradigm of effectiveness. A person can develop self-paradigm and can appreciate paradigms of others. These paradigms should be based on reality or on principles. PREAMBLE TO FIRST HABIT 12. Covey exemplifies image of a person as the image reflected by a crazy mirror. This is because of a person viewing himself based on the biased opinions of others. Projections ( biased opinions) disfigure the actual reflections THE SOCIAL MIRROR THE SOCIAL MIRROR Negative Projections like You are never on time You eat like a horse You must be an artist I cant believe you won This is so simple? Why cant you understand Negative projections hurt the very ability of a human being to develop self awareness about his strengths 13. WHAT IS YOUR LOCUS OF CONTROL? I am the Master of my OWN fate ( Highly Internal) I am a pawn to my fate ( Highly External) This brings us to three important theories 1. Genetic Determinism 2. Psychic Determinism 3. Environmental Determinism Three theories define human effectiveness Each of these important theories are based on stimulus and response These theories independently or in combination determine the nature of man 14. 1. Genetic Determinism: Genes; traits from ancestors 2. Psychic Determinism: Parents upbringing, Childhood experience structures the character 3. Environmental Determinism: Environment ( surrounding people family /friends/colleagues) influences your situation 15. BETWEEN STIMULUS AND RESONSE 16. WHAT IS PROACTIVE? Proactive is to step up and do something to solve a problem before it becomes an issue. It is to take steps to avoid the problem in the first place. 17. HOW DO YOU FEEL ON DAYS LIKE THIS? Absolutely NO THATS WHY WE HAVE TO BE PROACTIVE . PROACTIVE IS THE MANTRA TO SUCCESS. TAKE AN UMBRELLA FOR THE RAINY DAY 18. PROACTIVELY DEFINED Human beings are responsible for their own behavior. Our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions. We have the initiative and responsibility to make things happen. RESPONSIBILITY: Response ability Ability to choose your response. 19. CHARACTERISTICS OF PROACTIVE PEOPLE Highly effective people take the initiative. They are proactive. They do not impose limits on themselves that prevent them from acting. They recognize that they have the freedom to determine the kind of character they will have. They may not be able to control their circumstances, but they can decide how to make the best use of those circumstances. 20. PROACTIVE VS. REACTIVE PROACTIVE PEOPLE Do not Blame anyone or anything. Behavior is a product of their conscious choice, based on values. They carry their social weather with them. REACTIVE PEOPLE Blame circumstances, conditions & conditioning. Behavior is a product of their conditions, based on feelings. If social weather is good, they feel good, if it is bad, they feel bad. 21. Proactive vs Reactive Having discussed the characteristics for both proactive and reactive individuals we can extend this discussion to effective leadership. We have the example of both proactive and reactive leaders. Reactive leaders tend to lose focus. Proactive leaders never loose sight of challenges and forewarn their followers . 22. In flurry of words against opponents during several gatherings, the politicians have mistakenly damaged their cause. This time it was Pakistan Muslim League- Nawaz (PML-N) leader Shahbaz Sharif who said that he will eliminate electricity from the country. Addressing a PML-N gathering, the PML-N leader said that he will eliminate the electricity from the country in two years. REACTIVE (EXAMPLE) 23. In a slip of tongue during a party gathering , the Pakistan Tehrik-i- Insaf Chief Imran Khan said that go and vote for lion, a symbol of PTIs opponent Pakistan Muslim League-Nawaz in the upcoming elections. 24. The whole world calls Jinnah a man of words PROACTIVE EXAMPLE 25. Zulifiqar Ali Bhutto was proactive. He was a charismatic leader Real leaders are ordinary people with extra ordinary determination 26. HOW TO BE PROACTIVE? Change how you handle things. Make a choice to be positive and focus on those things that YOU can change. Make a positive difference in your family, your class, your school and the world! 27. LANGUAGE PROACTIVE VS REACTIVE 28. SELF AWARENESS TEST 1. How Proactive am I? The degree to which I take initiative to improve my current circumstances or create new ones. 2. Develop a Personal Mission Statement Develop a Philosophy or creed What you want to achieve with your beliefs and values 3. Develop Goals based on time periods Short term Intermediate Long term 29. HABIT ONE: BE PROACTIVE Individuals are responsible for their own choices and have the freedom to choose. I am responsible for my behavior and the choices I make I can expand my personal freedom and influence through being proactive Key Processes Recognize reactive tendencies & develop proactive responses Increase Circle of Influence 30. REACTIVE VS. PROACTIVE BEHAVIOR Reactive: Allow outside influences control responses Proactive: Use space between stimulus and response to make choices which best apply values Stimulus Response ResponseStimulus Space for freedom to choose according to values 31. Act or be acted upon The difference between people who exercise initiative and those who dont Development of seven habits Development of proactive muscles Each habit puts the responsibility on you to act If you wait to be acted upon, you will be acted upon 32. Reactive language Theres nothing I can do There is just the way I am They wont allow that I have to do that I cant 33. Proactive language Lets look at our alternatives I can choose a different approach I can create an effective presentation I will choose an appropriate response I choose 34. A serious problem with reactive language Self full-filling prophecy People become reinforced They feel increasingly victimized and out of control They blame outside forces- other people , circumstances 35. Proactive people make love a verb Love is something you do: the sacrifices you make If you are a parent, look at the love you have for your children you sacrificed for Proactive people subordinate feelings to values 36. ANOTHER WAY TO BECOME MORE SELF-AWARE REGARDING OUR OWN DEGREE OF PROACTIVITY IS TO LOOK AT WHERE WE FOCUS OUR TIME AND ENERGY. 37. R CIRCLE OF CONCERN NO CONCERN 38. A Circle of Concern encompasses the wide range of concerns we have, such as our health, our children, problems at work, the amount of government borrowing, or the threat of war. 39. As we look at those things within our Circle of Concern, it becomes apparent that there are some things over which we have no real control and others that we can do something about. 40. PROACTIVE FOCUS: Proactive people focus on issues within their circle of influence. They work on things they can do something about. The nature of their energy in doing this is positive, enlarging and magnifying. They increase their Circle of Influence 41. REACTIVE FOCUS 42. The reactive people focus on weakness of other people the problems in the environment . There focus results in blaming and accusing attitudes and reactive languages, and feelings of victimization .the negative energy flies in and like this they think that they little things about which they can do something about and gradually they decrease there circle of influence. 43. Because of position, wealth, role, relationship there are some circumstances in which the circle influence is larger than the circle of concern this reflects self-inflicted emotional myopia. 44. Direct Control Indirect Control No control 45. Expanding the circle of influence When we choose our response to a situation then this means that we powerfully influence our circumstances. Rather than becoming tensed about the situation we should find ways to correct situations. We should not focus on the weak points on which we dont have control but we should focus on those points which are strong and on which we have influence like this we will be able to succeed and this all means that we are increasing our circle of influence. 46. THE HAVE AND THE BES Haves one way to determine which circle our concern is in is to distinguish between the haves and the be's. The Circle of Concern is filled with the have's :- "I'll be happy when I have my house paid off." "If I had more obedient kids." "If I had my degree." "If I could just have more time to myself." Bes The Circle of Influence is filled with the be's:- I can be more patient be wise be loving. It's the character focus. 47. Anytime we think the problem is "out there," that thought is the problem. We empower what's out there to control us. The change model is "outside -in" -- what's out there has to change before we can change. The proactive approach is to change from the Inside-Out: to be different, and by being different, to effect positive change in what's out there : - I can be more resourceful I can be more diligent I can be more creative I can be more cooperative 48. It is so much easier to blame other people, conditioning, or conditions for our own stagnant situation. But we are responsible -- "response-able" -- to control our lives and to powerfully influence our circumstances by working on be. Situation: If I have a problem in my marriage, what do I really gain by continually confessing my wife's sins? By saying I'm not responsible, I make myself a powerless victim; I immobilize myself in a negative situation. If I really want to improve my situation, I can work on the one thing over which I have control -- myself. I can stop trying to shape up my wife and work on my own weaknesses. I can focus on being a great marriage partner, a source of unconditional love and support. Hopefully, my wife will feel the power of proactive example and respond in kind. 49. There are so many ways to work in the Circle of Influence to be a better listener to be a more loving marriage partner to be a better student to be a more cooperative dedicated employee Sometimes the most proactive thing we can do is to be happy, just to genuinely smile. Happiness, like unhappiness, is a proactive choice. There are things, like the weather, that our Circle of Influence will never include. But as proactive people, we can carry our own physical or social weather with us. We can be happy and accept those things that at present we can't control, while we focus our efforts on the things that we can. 50. THE OTHER END OF THE STICK Before we totally shift our life focus to our Circle of Influence, we need to consider two things in our Circle of Concern that merit deeper thought :- consequences mistakes. 51. Consequences:- While we are free to choose our actions, we are not free to choose the consequences of those actions. Consequences are governed by natural law. They are out in the Circle of Concern. We can decide to step in front of a fast- moving train, but we cannot decide what will happen when the train hits us. our behavior is governed by principles. Living in harmony with them brings positive consequences; violating them brings negative consequences. We are free to choose our response in any situation, but in doing so, we choose the attendant consequence. "When we pick up one end of the stick, we pick up the other." 52. MISTAKES:- Undoubtedly, there have been times in each of our lives when we have picked up what we later felt was the wrong stick. Our choices have brought consequences we would rather have lived without. If we had the choice to make over again, we would make it differently. We call these choices mistakes, and they are the second thing that merits our deeper thought. Our response to any mistake affects the quality of the next moment. It is important to immediately admit and correct our mistakes so that they have no power over that next moment and we are empowered again. 53. Making and Keeping Commitments At the very heart of our Circle of Influence is our ability to make and keep commitments and promises. The commitments we make to ourselves and to others, and our integrity to those commitments, is the essence and clearest manifestation of our proactivity. It is here that we find two ways to put ourselves in control of our lives immediately. We can make a promise -- and keep it. Or we can set a goal -- and work to achieve it. As we make and keep commitments, even small commitments, we begin to establish an inner integrity that gives us the awareness of self-control and the courage and strength to accept more of the responsibility for our own lives. By making and keeping promises to ourselves and others, little by little, our honor becomes greater than our moods. The power to make and keep commitments to ourselves is the essence of developing the basic habits of effectiveness. 54. Proactivity: The 30-Day Test We don't have to go through the death camp experience to recognize and develop our own proactivity. It is in the ordinary events of every day that we develop the proactive capacity to handle the extraordinary pressures of life. It's how we make and keep commitments, how we handle a traffic jam, how we respond to an irate customer or a disobedient child. It's how we view our problems and where we focus our energies. It's the language we use. I would challenge you to test the principle of proactivity for 30 days. Simply try it and see what happens. For 30 days work only in your Circle of Influence. Make small commitments and keep them. Be a light, not a judge. Be a model, not a critic. Be part of the solution, not part of the problem. Try it in your marriage, in your family, in your job. Don't argue for other people's weaknesses. Don't argue for your own. When you make a mistake, admit it, correct it, and learn from it -- immediately. Don't get into a blaming, accusing mode. Work on things you have control over. Work on you. On be.