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Behind every headline is heartache...Supporting the Military Family
Bereavement in the Military Family
About Cruse Bereavement CareCruse Bereavement Care is the leading national charity providing bereavement support services in England, Wales and Northern Ireland. Our services are provided by trained volunteers and are confidential and free.
Our website has further information on how to support your child and includes a special section for military families. Details of our services and local branches can be found on the website or by contacting our National Helpline.
www.cruse.org.uktel: 0844 477 9400 or email: [email protected]
Cruse Bereavement Care ScotlandFor details of services and local branches in Scotland please see their website or telephone their National Helpline.
www.crusescotland.org.uktel: 0845 600 2227
Hope AgainCruse has a website specially for bereaved children and young people. Your child may find it comforting to share the experiences of other bereaved children and young people.
www.hopeagain.org.uk
Cruse Central Officetel: 0208 939 9530 email: [email protected]
Cruse Northern Irelandtel: 028 9079 2419 email: [email protected]
Cruse Walestel: 029 2088 6913email: [email protected]
Cruse Bereavement Care Scotlandtel: 0845 600 2227email: [email protected]
Widows AssociationsMeeting other bereaved service parents can be very reassuring. Each service has a widows’ association for the partners of people who die in service — their details are below.
Naval & Marines Widows Associationwww.rnrmwidowsassociation.org.uk
Army Widows Associationwww.armywidows.org.uk
RAF Widows Associationwww.rafwidowsassociation.org.uk
Coping with loss There are some phrases that people often use when they’ve been bereaved. We list them below alongside what they typically mean. Understanding these phrases may help you feel that you are not completely alone or help you understand what someone who has been bereaved is going through.
‘I can’t believe it’ — it may take a long time to grasp what has happened. Some people carry on as if nothing has happened. It is hard to believe that someone important in your life is not coming back.
‘I feel nothing’ — the shock can make you feel numb. You may feel you’re in a different world.
‘Why did it have to happen?’ — death can seem cruel and unfair, especially when you feel someone has died before their time or when you had plans for the future together.
‘I feel such pain’ — you may feel physical and mental pain, which can be overwhelming and very frightening.
‘I feel so depressed. Life has no meaning. I feel I can’t go on’ — many people say there are times after a death when they feel there is nothing worth living for and they feel like ending it all.
‘One minute I’m angry and the next minute I can’t stop crying’ — people often experience extreme mood swings, which can feel very frightening.
Remember: Cruse can help you
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Understanding you Military life is obviously very different to life in ‘civvy street’ and we, at Cruse, understand that people who have lost a loved one who’s been serving in the Armed Forces may have particular issues that complicate the grieving process.
We also recognise that losing someone who was a Reservist can be especially difficult for families, as many will be less familiar with military life.
Cruse Bereavement Care is a national charity that exists to promote the well being of bereaved people and help enable those who’ve been bereaved to understand their grief and cope with their loss.
All our services are free and, as well as emotional support, we can provide information, advice, education and training.
All our volunteers have undergone formal training in bereavement support and receive regular supervision. Moreover, we have produced training material for volunteers to help improve their understanding of the needs of those affected by death in military service. We have worked with bereaved service families as well as the three services, the Ministry of Defence, the Services, Personnel and Veterans Agency and the ex-service charities to ensure we get this right.
Children and young people Just like adults, children and young people need to be given the opportunity to grieve. They need to be encouraged to talk about how they are feeling and supported to understand their emotions. However, children and young people grieve differently to adults, and will often revisit the death and review their emotions and their loss as they grow up.
Remember: Cruse is here to support you and your child at these sad and difficult times.
Cruse offers the following services specifically for children and young people:
● hopeagain.org.uk — a website developed by and for bereaved children and young people, where they can post messages, upload memories and access advice
● our freephone helpline: 0808 808 1677
● free literature
● one-to-one support through branches in England, Wales and Northern Ireland
● a DVD, Death in Service — a focus on children.
For over 50 years Cruse has, through its network of trained and skilled volunteers, helped children, families and individuals to cope with bereavement.
People we have supported tell us:
Supporting you
The Military Family section on our website covers the special circumstances that apply when there’s been a death in service. As well as offering general support about bereavement and grief, we have outlined the processes that take place following a death in service as well as the help that’s available through the military and other agencies.
People are often helped by sharing their experiences, so we have highlighted organisations offering additional support.
Also on the website, you can download useful leaflets and publications.
‘I realised that this was one time I couldn’t cope on my own and I learned to accept help’
‘When I felt I needed more than my family and friends could manage, I talked to a Cruse volunteer’
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Behind every headline is heartache...Supporting the Military Family
Bereavement in the Military Family
About Cruse Bereavement CareCruse Bereavement Care is the leading national charity providing bereavement support services in England, Wales and Northern Ireland. Our services are provided by trained volunteers and are confidential and free.
Our website has further information on how to support your child and includes a special section for military families. Details of our services and local branches can be found on the website or by contacting our National Helpline.
www.cruse.org.uktel: 0844 477 9400 or email: [email protected]
Cruse Bereavement Care ScotlandFor details of services and local branches in Scotland please see their website or telephone their National Helpline.
www.crusescotland.org.uktel: 0845 600 2227
Hope AgainCruse has a website specially for bereaved children and young people. Your child may find it comforting to share the experiences of other bereaved children and young people.
www.hopeagain.org.uk
Cruse Central Officetel: 0208 939 9530 email: [email protected]
Cruse Northern Irelandtel: 028 9079 2419 email: [email protected]
Cruse Walestel: 029 2088 6913email: [email protected]
Cruse Bereavement Care Scotlandtel: 0845 600 2227email: [email protected]
Widows AssociationsMeeting other bereaved service parents can be very reassuring. Each service has a widows’ association for the partners of people who die in service — their details are below.
Naval & Marines Widows Associationwww.rnrmwidowsassociation.org.uk
Army Widows Associationwww.armywidows.org.uk
RAF Widows Associationwww.rafwidowsassociation.org.uk
Coping with loss There are some phrases that people often use when they’ve been bereaved. We list them below alongside what they typically mean. Understanding these phrases may help you feel that you are not completely alone or help you understand what someone who has been bereaved is going through.
‘I can’t believe it’ — it may take a long time to grasp what has happened. Some people carry on as if nothing has happened. It is hard to believe that someone important in your life is not coming back.
‘I feel nothing’ — the shock can make you feel numb. You may feel you’re in a different world.
‘Why did it have to happen?’ — death can seem cruel and unfair, especially when you feel someone has died before their time or when you had plans for the future together.
‘I feel such pain’ — you may feel physical and mental pain, which can be overwhelming and very frightening.
‘I feel so depressed. Life has no meaning. I feel I can’t go on’ — many people say there are times after a death when they feel there is nothing worth living for and they feel like ending it all.
‘One minute I’m angry and the next minute I can’t stop crying’ — people often experience extreme mood swings, which can feel very frightening.
Remember: Cruse can help you
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Understanding you Military life is obviously very different to life in ‘civvy street’ and we, at Cruse, understand that people who have lost a loved one who’s been serving in the Armed Forces may have particular issues that complicate the grieving process.
We also recognise that losing someone who was a Reservist can be especially difficult for families, as many will be less familiar with military life.
Cruse Bereavement Care is a national charity that exists to promote the well being of bereaved people and help enable those who’ve been bereaved to understand their grief and cope with their loss.
All our services are free and, as well as emotional support, we can provide information, advice, education and training.
All our volunteers have undergone formal training in bereavement support and receive regular supervision. Moreover, we have produced training material for volunteers to help improve their understanding of the needs of those affected by death in military service. We have worked with bereaved service families as well as the three services, the Ministry of Defence, the Services, Personnel and Veterans Agency and the ex-service charities to ensure we get this right.
Children and young people Just like adults, children and young people need to be given the opportunity to grieve. They need to be encouraged to talk about how they are feeling and supported to understand their emotions. However, children and young people grieve differently to adults, and will often revisit the death and review their emotions and their loss as they grow up.
Remember: Cruse is here to support you and your child at these sad and difficult times.
Cruse offers the following services specifically for children and young people:
● hopeagain.org.uk — a website developed by and for bereaved children and young people, where they can post messages, upload memories and access advice
● our freephone helpline: 0808 808 1677
● free literature
● one-to-one support through branches in England, Wales and Northern Ireland
● a DVD, Death in Service — a focus on children.
For over 50 years Cruse has, through its network of trained and skilled volunteers, helped children, families and individuals to cope with bereavement.
People we have supported tell us:
Supporting you
The Military Family section on our website covers the special circumstances that apply when there’s been a death in service. As well as offering general support about bereavement and grief, we have outlined the processes that take place following a death in service as well as the help that’s available through the military and other agencies.
People are often helped by sharing their experiences, so we have highlighted organisations offering additional support.
Also on the website, you can download useful leaflets and publications.
‘I realised that this was one time I couldn’t cope on my own and I learned to accept help’
‘When I felt I needed more than my family and friends could manage, I talked to a Cruse volunteer’
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Understanding you Military life is obviously very different to life in ‘civvy street’ and we, at Cruse, understand that people who have lost a loved one who’s been serving in the Armed Forces may have particular issues that complicate the grieving process.
We also recognise that losing someone who was a Reservist can be especially difficult for families, as many will be less familiar with military life.
Cruse Bereavement Care is a national charity that exists to promote the well being of bereaved people and help enable those who’ve been bereaved to understand their grief and cope with their loss.
All our services are free and, as well as emotional support, we can provide information, advice, education and training.
All our volunteers have undergone formal training in bereavement support and receive regular supervision. Moreover, we have produced training material for volunteers to help improve their understanding of the needs of those affected by death in military service. We have worked with bereaved service families as well as the three services, the Ministry of Defence, the Services, Personnel and Veterans Agency and the ex-service charities to ensure we get this right.
Children and young people Just like adults, children and young people need to be given the opportunity to grieve. They need to be encouraged to talk about how they are feeling and supported to understand their emotions. However, children and young people grieve differently to adults, and will often revisit the death and review their emotions and their loss as they grow up.
Remember: Cruse is here to support you and your child at these sad and difficult times.
Cruse offers the following services specifically for children and young people:
● hopeagain.org.uk — a website developed by and for bereaved children and young people, where they can post messages, upload memories and access advice
● our freephone helpline: 0808 808 1677
● free literature
● one-to-one support through branches in England, Wales and Northern Ireland
● a DVD, Death in Service — a focus on children.
For over 50 years Cruse has, through its network of trained and skilled volunteers, helped children, families and individuals to cope with bereavement.
People we have supported tell us:
Supporting you
The Military Family section on our website covers the special circumstances that apply when there’s been a death in service. As well as offering general support about bereavement and grief, we have outlined the processes that take place following a death in service as well as the help that’s available through the military and other agencies.
People are often helped by sharing their experiences, so we have highlighted organisations offering additional support.
Also on the website, you can download useful leaflets and publications.
‘I realised that this was one time I couldn’t cope on my own and I learned to accept help’
‘When I felt I needed more than my family and friends could manage, I talked to a Cruse volunteer’
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Behind every headline is heartache...Supporting the Military Family
Bereavement in the Military Family
About Cruse Bereavement CareCruse Bereavement Care is the leading national charity providing bereavement support services in England, Wales and Northern Ireland. Our services are provided by trained volunteers and are confidential and free.
Our website has further information on how to support your child and includes a special section for military families. Details of our services and local branches can be found on the website or by contacting our National Helpline.
www.cruse.org.uktel: 0844 477 9400 or email: [email protected]
Cruse Bereavement Care ScotlandFor details of services and local branches in Scotland please see their website or telephone their National Helpline.
www.crusescotland.org.uktel: 0845 600 2227
Hope AgainCruse has a website specially for bereaved children and young people. Your child may find it comforting to share the experiences of other bereaved children and young people.
www.hopeagain.org.uk
Cruse Central Officetel: 0208 939 9530 email: [email protected]
Cruse Northern Irelandtel: 028 9079 2419 email: [email protected]
Cruse Walestel: 029 2088 6913email: [email protected]
Cruse Bereavement Care Scotlandtel: 0845 600 2227email: [email protected]
Widows AssociationsMeeting other bereaved service parents can be very reassuring. Each service has a widows’ association for the partners of people who die in service — their details are below.
Naval & Marines Widows Associationwww.rnrmwidowsassociation.org.uk
Army Widows Associationwww.armywidows.org.uk
RAF Widows Associationwww.rafwidowsassociation.org.uk
Coping with loss There are some phrases that people often use when they’ve been bereaved. We list them below alongside what they typically mean. Understanding these phrases may help you feel that you are not completely alone or help you understand what someone who has been bereaved is going through.
‘I can’t believe it’ — it may take a long time to grasp what has happened. Some people carry on as if nothing has happened. It is hard to believe that someone important in your life is not coming back.
‘I feel nothing’ — the shock can make you feel numb. You may feel you’re in a different world.
‘Why did it have to happen?’ — death can seem cruel and unfair, especially when you feel someone has died before their time or when you had plans for the future together.
‘I feel such pain’ — you may feel physical and mental pain, which can be overwhelming and very frightening.
‘I feel so depressed. Life has no meaning. I feel I can’t go on’ — many people say there are times after a death when they feel there is nothing worth living for and they feel like ending it all.
‘One minute I’m angry and the next minute I can’t stop crying’ — people often experience extreme mood swings, which can feel very frightening.
Remember: Cruse can help you
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