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Shepherd of the Hills Church

Lesson Fourteen:Lesson Fourteen: Lesson Fourteen:Lesson Fourteen: Christian MarriageChristian Marriage

and Familyand Family

Lesson Fourteen: Christian Marriage and Lesson Fourteen: Christian Marriage and FamilyFamily

God has always wanted stability for humanity. When He first created the universe and people, He created with the intent that there would be stability. He accomplished this by creating the male and female gender and establishing the basic building block of every society, marriage and the family that springs from it.

Nothing has been so misused, abused and misunderstood as the marriage and family. The destruction of family life is a consequence of sin. Let’s look at God’s plan for marriage and family, and see how God wants to help sinners have the stable life He intended.


The creation account shows how God created men to correspond to women. He has needs that only she can meet. She has needs that only he can meet. God’s design for marriage is Genesis 2:24:

What is God’s design for marriage?What is God’s design for marriage?

Genesis 2:18-24:

““That is why a man will That is why a man will leave his father and leave his father and

mother and will be united mother and will be united with his wife, and they will with his wife, and they will

become one flesh.”become one flesh.”


From this verse we learn the three From this verse we learn the three ingredients that make a marriage valid:ingredients that make a marriage valid:

““That is why a man will leave his father That is why a man will leave his father and mother and will be united with his and mother and will be united with his wife, and they will become one flesh.”wife, and they will become one flesh.”

1. One ______ and one ___________. man woman(From the beginning God intended marriage to be heterosexual.)

2. “A man will ________ his father and mother”: leaveGod intends that both the man and the woman are of age to establish a home independent of their parents. He intends that they be free to marry (not illegally divorced, not still married to someone else).NOTE: The fourth commandment requires us to ask our parents’ blessings for the marriage.


From this verse we learn the three From this verse we learn the three ingredients that make a marriage valid:ingredients that make a marriage valid:

““That is why a man will leave his father That is why a man will leave his father and mother and will be united with his and mother and will be united with his wife, and they will become one flesh.”wife, and they will become one flesh.”

Marriage is the public promises couples make to each other to keep their

marriage vows until death separates them.

3. “Be united to his ________, and they will become ____________.

COMMITMENTCOMMITMENT is the glue of marriage.

wifeone flesh


Mutual CompanionshipMutual Companionship

What needs does marriage address?What needs does marriage address?

1. Genesis 2:18-24: • God designed them to need each God designed them to need each

other.other.

1. She is soft where he is rough.1. She is soft where he is rough.2. She is emotional where he is 2. She is emotional where he is

logical.logical.3. He is strong where she is 3. He is strong where she is

weak.weak.• God gave us perfectly God gave us perfectly

coordinated genders to meet coordinated genders to meet those needs.those needs.

• God designed them to meet each God designed them to meet each other’s other’s needs.needs.


Sexual SatisfactionSexual Satisfaction


2. Genesis 2:24c and 1 Corinthians 7:3-4:

• Sex is giving as much as it is Sex is giving as much as it is getting.getting.

• Marriage is a gift that God Marriage is a gift that God designed as the right way to designed as the right way to satisfy our sexual needs.satisfy our sexual needs.


ChildrenChildren


3. Genesis 1:28 and Malachi 2:15:

• Children are a blessing.Children are a blessing.(Psalm 127 & 128)(Psalm 127 & 128)

• Children are an asset.Children are an asset.(Psalm 127 & 128)(Psalm 127 & 128)• Children are a Children are a responsibility that God responsibility that God may give.may give.


God Hates DivorceGod Hates Divorce

Does God allow a ChristianDoes God allow a Christianto get a divorce?to get a divorce?

Malachi 2:16:However, God allows divorce if a spouse has destroyed the essence of marriage. A marriage is not ruined unless one of the partners destroys its essence. This is important to remember, especially when a marriage is falling far short of what God intended. God allows a spouse to divorce if the other has already destroyed the essence of marriage. God doesn’t permit divorce just because the marriage is falling short of what God intended.


God permits divorce if a spouse has committed _________.

Does God allow a ChristianDoes God allow a Christianto get a divorce?to get a divorce?

Matthew 19:3-9:adultery

God permits divorce if a spouse ___________ the marriage.

1 Corinthians 7:12-16:deserts


____________ is the key to a happy marriage.

For a happy marriage and for helpFor a happy marriage and for helpovercoming marriage troubles, God gives:overcoming marriage troubles, God gives:

Ephesians 4:32: forgiveness

__________ to hang in there when times are tough.

1 Peter 4:12-19 & 1 Peter 5:7-11:strength

_________ ________ give encouragement to support us when we are struggling.

Hebrews 10:23-25: Christianfriends


___________ guides you to be the right kind of role model as a husband or wife.

For a happy marriage and for helpFor a happy marriage and for helpovercoming trouble in marriage God gives:overcoming trouble in marriage God gives:

Ephesians 5:22-33 & 1 Peter 3:1-7:God’s Word

A.Husbands are the lead role model for Jesus’ loving service and sacrifice in the family.(Ephesians 5:25)

B.Wives role model Jesus’ serving and submitting example.(Ephesians 5:22)


Men and women enjoy equal status in their re-established relationship with God. He promotes them to identical positions in His family of believers.

Additional Comments on the Additional Comments on the Roles of Men and Women:Roles of Men and Women:

1. Galatians 3:26-29:

2. Genesis 2:7,18,22:God established the roles for men and women in a perfect world.

3. 1 Corinthians 11:2-16 1 Timothy 2:12,13

These roles also apply as we do God’s Work in church groups.

Lesson Fourteen: Christian Marriage and Lesson Fourteen: Christian Marriage and FamilyFamilyJesus wants to be the head of the house. Jesus wants to be the head of the house.

He is the invisible third party in Christian marriage. He is the invisible third party in Christian marriage. It is a healthy marriage when He gets top priority.It is a healthy marriage when He gets top priority.

The closer we get to JesusThe closer we get to Jesusthe closer we get to each other.the closer we get to each other.


Homework:Homework:Read 1 Corinthians 13 (the entire chapter). Be ready to tell how you would answer a

friend who said she was divorcing her husband

because she didn’t love him anymore.

bible 101 dean biebert, pastor shepherd of the hills church

Documents

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marriage address

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glue of marriage

marriage vows

family god

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