PRESENTED BY: JACQUELINE L. DeVITO

The Compassionate Friends 2012 National/International ConferenceJuly 20-22, 2012 Costa Mesa, California

Do not regret growing older.

It is a privilege denied to many.

-Unknown

Agenda

• About Me• About My Sister, Jennifer• My Journey Through Grief• Why We Write During Grief• Blogging vs. Journaling• Getting Started

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• Creating Your Blog• Logging Into Your Blog• Selecting Your Theme• The Dashboard• Customizing Your Blog• Post vs. Page

Agenda

• Adding a New Post or Page• New Post Via E-Mail• Categories and Tags• Adding Images• Editing an Image• Managing Comments

Agenda

• Publicizing Your Blog Posts• What To Blog About• Site Stats• What’s Next• Learn More• Keep In Touch

About Jacqueline

• From Dutchess County, NY• Graduate of UAlbany• Sister of Alpha Xi Delta (AΞΔ)• Published in The Quill of Alpha Xi

Delta• Wanted to go to law school, but

found myself working as a Project Manager for a small start-up

• Have always been web savvy

About Jennifer

• My younger and only sister• Passed away at 18; I was 22• Loss was sudden• Beautiful, charismatic, always happy• Was a coach for The Silver Starlites,

a traveling baton twirling team• Survived by my parents, my brother

and myself

My Journey Through Grief

• Siblings are the forgotten mourners• Constantly told to stay strong for my

family• Tried two different support groups,

but did not feel they worked for me• Gave journaling a try, but spent

more time decorating it then writing in it

My Journey Through Grief

• Started my blog because I would rather type my thoughts, than write them

• Started my blog on October 1, 2012, less than two months after Jenn’s passing

• Currently have 163 posts, and 43,059all-time views

Why We Write During Grief

• There are several similarities between the writing process and the grief process. The creative element of the writing process may allow the bereaved to move on during the grief process because writing may become a tool for the expression of his or her thoughts and feelings, new insights, clarification, and reorganization. 1

Why We Write During Grief

• The benefits of writing are first and foremost associated with exploratory and expressive forms of communication. 1

• Writing is an aid to reflection, a way to explore and discover one’s own thoughts and feelings. 2, 3, 5, 6

• Writing and forming a story involve reflection on events and contribute to self-understanding and new insight. 6-8

Why We Write During Grief

• According to process-oriented writing theory, language is related to thought. Writing is described as a creative process wherein the writer may experience new thoughts, increased awareness, and knowledge. 1,2,3,4

• Writing down one’s own ideas opens a channel that allows a person to become acquainted with his or her own thinking potential. 2,3,6,7,9

Blogging vs. Journaling

• Journaling requires paper and a pen, where blogging requires a computer or smart phone

• When journaling, one must think quite precisely of what they want to write.

• Once it is written down, it is permanent.• When blogging, have the ability to

delete text, add more content, or delete entire post

Blogging vs. Journaling

• There is a danger of losing or damaging your journal; with blogging you can backup and save your posts

• More security with blogging• Have the ability to keep blog 100%

private, so only you can read it or add a secure password to share with close family and friends

Blogging vs. Journaling

• Can add images, YouTube videos, and hyperlinks into posts to enhance the content

• Ability to go back and add additional thoughts or updates to already posted blog entries

• Read comments from people who have found your blog, and how it has helped them; become a virtual mentor

Getting Started

• All you need is an e-mail address• Many free blog options, as well as paid

memberships• WordPress, Blogger, Blog.com, Blogspot,

to name a few• Ability to blog from a computer, laptop,

tablet, e-mail and smart phone

• Preferred CMS: WordPress

Creating Your Blog

• On your PC or Laptop, go to wordpress.com

• Click the orange Get started here button

• Create your blog address• Example:

coniffdence.wordpress.com• Create your username and password• Type in your e-mail address• Select your language• Select the Premium or Free version• Click the Create Blog button• Check your e-mail inbox for your

confirmation e-mail

Logging Into Your Blog

• Can access your blog from anywhere; not specific to your own computer

• Open your browser, and go to your site: http://www.blog.com

• At the end of your URL, add: http://www.blog.com/wp-admin

Logging Into Your Blog

• Type in your email address or username

• Type in your password• It is case sensitive!• If you forget your password, click

theLost Your password? link and it will be reset for you

• Only click Remember Me from your home computer

Selecting Your Theme

• Your theme is the design to your new blog

• Choose a theme that fits your style• Can always change it• Some themes are free, while others

are Premium and require a purchase• Click Activate for the theme you

want

The Dashboard

• Overview of your entire blog• Left sidebar allows you to configure

settings for your blog• Quickly access areas where you

create posts, pages, manage comments, check stats and change your blog’s appearance

The Dashboard

Customizing Your Blog

• To set your blog’s title go toSettings > General and enter your new Site Title

• Can also set your Tagline, Time Zone, and date and time formats

• Always click the blue Save Changes button

Post vs. Page

• A Post is comprised of the day-to-day thoughts that make up a blog; allows for comments and sharing

• Example: Surviving Our First Holiday Season

• A Page is static content where you supply information to your readers

• Example: About Me• Both support images, links and videos

Post vs. Page

• Suggest first creating only a few pages

• Will act as a preface to your blog, and outline your individual experience

• After, create posts as often as you like/need to fill your blog

• No set schedule; blog when you want

Adding a New Post or Page

• On the left sidebar, click on Posts or Pages

• When you hover over the tab, select Add New

• With WordPress, there are multiple ways to create a new post or page

• Find which way works best for you

Adding a New Post or Page

• If you can send an e-mail, you can create a page and a post

• Ability to use the Visual setting, or HTML code (depending on your preference)

• Can start a blog post, save your work, and continue at a later time

• Always have the ability to edit your post, even if you published it to your blog

Add New Post or Page

• Add your post’s title• Add the content of your blog post• Click Preview to see what your post

would look like, without publishing it• When you are ready to share your

post with the world, click the blue Publish button

New Post Via E-mail

• Can send an e-mail to your blog, which will create a new post and update your blog

• Helpful for situations where you can’t access your blog, but can still send ane-mail

• From the Dashboard, click on My Blogs

New Post Via E-mail

• Under Post by Email click on the Enable button

New Post Via E-mail

• Now, under Post by Email will be a random email address

• Take note of this email address• Send an email to that address, and it

will update your blog• The e-mail subject will become the

subject of your post

Categories and Tags

• Used for your posts• Way to organize your posts for

manageability• Example: If you were blogging about

your first holiday season, your Category may be “Family Milestones” and the Tags could be: holiday, Christmas, Chanukah, family dinner, spirit

Adding Images

• I always try to add an image into my posts

• Easy to add, and great way to enrich the blog

• Helpful when sharing posts on Facebook; image will appear in friends’ timelines.

• Can add images into both posts and pages

Adding Images

• Above the toolbar, click on the camera and music note icon to the right of Upload/Insert

• When you hover over it, it will say Add Media

• Browse your local computer for the image you want to add

• Allowed file types: jpg, jpeg, png, gif, pdf, doc, ppt, odt, pptx, docx, pps, ppsx, xls, xlsx.

Adding Images

• After your image finishes uploading, you can edit the image information as much or as little as you like

• Give your image a title, alternative text, caption and description

• Pick your alignment, and select the perfect size

• Make sure you click Insert Into Post

Editing an Image

• After you have added your image to your page or post, you have the ability to edit or delete it

• While editing your post, click on the image you added

• Two small thumbnail images will appear in the top right corner of the image

Editing an Image

• Click on left thumbnail to edit the image• Click on the right thumbnail to delete the

image• When you click to edit the image, a pop

up window will appear• Can scale the image bigger or smaller,

change alignment, title, and edit the image’s link

• When you are satisfied with your changes, click the Update button

Editing an Image

Managing Comments

• Can accept comments on pages and posts, but traditionally used just on posts

• Can moderate comments before they are shared on your site

• Click Comments on the left sidebar of your dashboard

Managing Comments

• When you approve a comment, it will appear at the bottom of your blog for others to read

• Can reply to comments• Ability to trash comments, or mark as

spam• Can edit comments to remove private

or personal information you don’t want to share

Publicizing Your Blog Posts

• Share your blog with friends and family

• Can automatically publish your new blog posts to Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, Tumblr, and Yahoo

• On the left sidebar, go to Settings > Sharing

• Under each social media outlet, click the green Connect to link

Publicizing Your Blog Posts

• When you publicize, have the option to add your own introduction before posting

• With Facebook, when you share your post and use an image, it will be featured in your update

• Increase chances people will click link, versus no image and just text

What To Blog About

• Anything you want; no right or wrong answer

• Be cautious of using overly personal information

• Write what you feel; not what you think people want to read

What To Blog About

• A particularly difficult day and what may have caused it

• Milestones in your life (birthdays, weddings) and how you handled them

• Memories that popped into your head

• Grief surveys• Lost dreams• A letter to your loved one

Site Stats

• Keep track of how many people view your blog

• See where visitors are coming from• View what search terms people use

to find your blog• Determine how most people find you• On the left sidebar, click on Site

Stats

What’s Next?

• August 17th will be two years since Jenn’s passing

• Would enjoy writing a book that shares my personal grief story from the point of view of a sibling

• Share my journey in hopes that readers identifying with me, and apply feelings and emotions to their own journey

Learn More

My Blogwww.jacquelinedevito.wordpress.com

WordPresswww.wordpress.com

Keep In Touch

Facebookwww.facebook.com/Coniffdence

Twitterwww.twitter.com/Coniffdence

E-mailJacqueline.DeVito@gmail.com

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