Boost Your Bounce!

Rising to ResilienceDeborah Gilboa, MD

WHAT’S HAPPENING?• Nurturing

– Children, partners, parents, siblings, friends

• Working– Jobs, volunteering, continuing education

• Reacting– Illness, injury, deadlines, the UNEXPECTED

• Exploring– Relationships, finances, communities, opportunities

Striving… for balance

coffee

Talking exercisefriends

art time out

Date night Facebook vacation spa

TV winesex orgasm

STRESS IS THE POISONWHAT’S THE ANTIDOTE?

STRESS IS THE POISONWHAT’S THE ANTIDOTE?

What do we need?

1. Communication

2. Respect

3. Health

4. Opportunity

5. RESILIENCE

The ability to RECOVER from ADVERSITY!• What do we know?– Bad things happen.– There are always choices to be made.– Feelings change over time.– Recovery requires tools and experience.

• What do people need?

PRACTICE.

WHAT IS RESILIENCE?

Who needs it?Adults!• When we are…– Hurt– Angry– Scared– Overwhelmed– Stressed!

Kids!• When they are…– Hurt– Angry– Scared– Overwhelmed– Stressed!

What do we all need?

Practice

How does it make us healthier?

Resilience makes the difference!• What do we know?–Many factors impact health.– Being healthy requires perseverance.– Illness and injury happen.– Recovery requires resilience.

How can we get it?

Perspective – Control what you can control

Strategies• Clear goals • Accessible, safe stress relievers• Manageable commitments• Well-developed support network• Resources we’re willing to use

HOW TO GET COMMUNICATION

1.Don’t expect anyone to be psychic.

2.Don’t try to be psychic yourself.3.Don’t just imagine the

conversation – have it.4.Figure out what you need,

then ask for it!5.Write it down

HOW TO GET RESPECT

1. Expectations – Accessibility – Priorities

2. How are you called?– Title– Name– Nicknames

3. Tone of voice– What do you

answer to?– What is an

“emergency?”• Change others by

changing yourself.• Write it down

HOW TO GET HEALTHYAt home:• Sleep• Nutrition• Careful with

substances!• Exercise• Stress reducers• Orgasm

At the doctor’s:• A doctor you trust• A doctor you SEE• Health screenings

– Every visit– Yearly– Certain ages

• Vaccines• A doctor to tell the

truth

HOW TO GET OPPORTUNITIES• Figure out what you need.• Collect resources.• Figure out who you know.• Ask for help.• Accept help when it’s offered.• Collect people who believe in

you!

• If you were stuck on a desert island and could only take one thing…

• Can be learned• Takes practice• Within your control

RESILIENCE

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