building resilience in your child
DESCRIPTION
This powerpoint was used in a recent presentation to parents at a school by Clinical Psychologist Renee Mill. This topic was requested as parents today want to equip their children to cope better with school and other pressures.TRANSCRIPT
BUILDING RESILIENCE IN YOUR CHILD
1www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Resilience
• Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity.
• Adaptability is the ability to cope well with change.
2www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Resilience vs Fragility
Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall
Humpty Dumpty had a great fall
All the kings horses & all the kings men
Couldn’t put Humpty together again!
3www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Adequate Reslience
4www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Ideal Reslience
5www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Lifestyle Matters
• Lifestyle choices influence resilience.
6www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Lifestyle Matters
• Exercise: releases hormones which relax you.
7www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Lifestyle Matters
• Sleep: have sufficient, high quality sleep. Work with social and biological rhythms.
8www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Lifestyle Matters
• Diet: eat nutritious meals, low GI.
9www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
NO!
Lifestyle Matters
• Relationships: offer support when needed.
10www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Lifestyle Matters
• Secure family relationships give support.
11www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Lifestyle Matters
• Socialise: having friends assists resilience.
12www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Psychological Tools
• Focus on the present moment with MINDFULNESS.
13www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Psychological Tools
• Learn optimism with the 3 P’s:
Pessimism
1. Permanent
2. Personal
3. Pervasive
14www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Optimism
1. Temporary
2. Not Personal
3. Total view is positive
Psychological Tools
• Live life according to your authentic self.
15www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Psychological Tools
• Be realistic. Things often go wrong.
16www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Psychological Tools
• You cannot protect your child from falling but you can teach your child:
– How to fall
– How to get up
– And what to do with the scratch
17www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Psychological Tools
• Focus on character rather than personality (Steven Covey).
– Self-discipline
– Responsibility
– Courage
– Reliability
– Fair play
– Honesty
– Kindness
18www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Psychological Tools
• Embrace challenges. Encourage mastery.
19www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Psychological Tools
• Screen what your children watch, read and hear. Protect them from real threats.
– Too much too soon
– Inappropriate stimuli
– Predators on the net
20www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Psychological Tools
• Focus on strengths rather than social values. Bring out the best in your child.
21www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Psychological Tools
• Be flexible.
22www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Psychological Tools
• Meaning: Fill your day with meaning.
23www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Psychological Tools
• Provide wisdom.
24www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Look for the blessings and express Gratitude.
The Blessing of Unanswered PrayersUnknown Confederate soldier
I asked for strength that I might achieve;
I was made weak that I might learn humbly to obey.
25www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Look for the blessings and express Gratitude.
I asked for health that I might do greater things;
I was given infirmity that I might do better things.
26www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Look for the blessings and express Gratitude.
I asked for riches that I might be happy;
I was given poverty that I might be wise.
27www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Look for the blessings and express Gratitude.
I asked for power that I might have the praise of men;
I was given weakness that I might feel the need of God.
28www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Look for the blessings and express Gratitude.
I asked for all things that I might enjoy life;
I was given life that I might enjoy all things.
29www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Look for the blessings and express Gratitude.
I got nothing that I asked for,
But everything that I had hoped for.
30www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Look for the blessings and express Gratitude.
Almost despite myself my unspoken prayers were answered;
I am, among all men, most richly blessed.
31www.anxietysolutionscbt.com
Questions & Answers
• Ask Renee any questions you may have
• Alternatively you can email them to
• For ongoing updates, please make sure
you’ve provided us with your email
address.
32www.anxietysolutionscbt.com