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Psychologists’ Good NewsWe may be dealing in the younger grades with kids who cannot easily put themselves into the shoes of victims and who might easily sling hurtful words (and even punches) without a healthy fear of consequences. However, other studies show that kids who are taught right behaviors from wrong ones and who are prepared for situations that present themselves—these children are far more likely to use those acceptable modes of behavior, even without “feeling it” as would a mature person. Young children’s minds are generally very pliable up until around age 12. The time to teach kids anti-bullying skills is while they are young!

Why Youth Ministries Need to Take on BullyingWhile some churches might find anti-bullying curricula very normal, natural, and helpful in these times, others may pause and reflect: Sunday school used to teach kids how to behave at home. Parents translated that into how to behave in school. This feels like a weird and unsteady boundary…and what about the separation of church and state?

It is a weird boundary, if you’re looking back at the decades of relative ease before social media and before aftercare was needed for working parents. The simple truth is that parents often do not have as much time to teach kids what they used to. Lessons in ethics, values, morals and even the Lord Himself can be brief and form-fitting to tight schedules of school, extracurriculars, sports and music lessons, homework, and parents’ and children’s need to rejuvenate with a little downtime.

As well, parents are not easily versed at what happens in schools. Parents are not encouraged to visit school except for specific, sporadic activities. They have to sign in, wear a tag, and leave as soon as the activity ends.

Hence Church, being a social center for what is good, redeeming, and relevant, is now entering directly into the realm of teaching behavior that applies largely to school. We are helping parents in a vastly changed world from the one we grew up in. Talking about anti-bullying is just as God-oriented as talking about not stealing from the candy store used to be.

Why We are So Focused on Schools with Anti-BullyingWe’re all well aware that bullying often takes place in neighborhoods, at hangouts, on the Internet, in homes, and in many places away from school. However, school is at the center of the national challenge because in today’s world, most children’s group dynamics formulate and percolate there. Whether relationships are friendly or full of animosity, chances are likely that school provided the fertile ground for the cultivation of them.

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Identifying Bullying Behavior: More Important than it Sounds!One of the challenges with what current bullying policies do exist is that they ignore the elephant in the living room. Schools are not often in great positions to teach kids how to work out fights and arguments for themselves. It’s too easy for confrontations to escalate into violence and, consequently, serious injury or even death. Depending on the district’s liability insurance, injuries could be extremely costly to them, and the threat of negative media attention always looms like a Sword of Damocles.

Hence, most schools are loathe to put anything in writing as anti-bullying policy that doesn’t require mediation with an adult.

At the same time, teachers are aware that they cannot handle every ugly matter that happens among students. They could get little else accomplished, and some principals are now stating that looking into suspected cases bullying encompasses more than 90 percent of their jobs.

Teachers and administrators are well aware that the expectations put upon them are above and beyond human capacity. They have to find ways to live with it. The do rely on kids to tell them when they need to act. We feel one of our most important jobs is to teach kids the right times to yell for help.

Not all Meanness is BullyingThus, the first concept we teach kids is to identify bullying behavior and understand how it is different than plain mean behavior. All kids can get in bad moods. All can blurt things that are unpleasant, offensive, or downright rude. This does not amount to bullying (unless the victim is repetitive). If kids can distinguish between what is simply rude and offensive and what amounts to bullying, chances are they can help the teacher get into “go mode” with a bullying case and work things out for themselves at other times.

There are Safe Ways to Fight BullyingThe government has put forth some great advice on how kids can fight bullying without drawing fire on themselves, which is the biggest reason that bystanders of bullying do nothing 89% of the time. We have incorporated this advice with scriptures and faith-based concepts so that, while being in agreement with the secular experts, we are also providing the cutting edge that only our faith can deliver.

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We have a Comprehensive Package for the Six Week ClassIn the six lessons, we have included more than 30 scripture verses, all of which can stand at the center of modern day anti-bullying practices. These are used throughout the six object lessons and the crafts, games, and discussions that reinforce them. We use Biblical concepts like “shields of faith,” “wands of forgiveness,” and “the living waters” of Christ that bring forgiveness when we are wronged or do wrong.

We want younger kids to learn how to respond in bullying situations, whether they are the victim, a bystander, or a potential bully. We use repetition, group play, and activities to drive home a different sub-theme each of the six weeks.

None of the activities, games, or object lessons involve materials not normally found in the teacher’s supply closet or which can’t easily be found at the supermarket or dollar store.

How Each Lesson is Set UpOur lessons will encompass an hour’s time. Each is broken down into six parts:

• Lesson Capsule: The intro will give the teacher an at-a-glance capsule of what the lesson will cover and what students should learn. We’ll often provide background on anti-bully practices so the teacher is clear on why his or her lesson is important

• Top of the Lesson Attention Getter: Repetition helps kids learn. Ask everyone to repeat several times together the definition of bullying, which will be included in each lesson. Once they have put in the motions and can do it easily, it will be a definition they’ll remember for life.

• Review of Last Lesson Presented by the Teacher: This quick review of the previous lesson will help students remember the material from the lesson before and help the teacher be sure her efforts took root in the kids’ hearts. Kids who were absent will profit from this. As well, we don’t encourage using these lessons sporadically; however f teachers would like to use a lesson separately (like when a teachers is absent and there is suddenly no lesson), it will help when they pick up the next time.

• Lesson: Using either a household object or a model of the craft associated, each lesson will teach one of the six specific anti-bullying concepts mentioned above. While some require both the teacher and the assistant to keep things smooth, teachers words are presented in bold for ease of preparation and delivery.

• Craft or Discussion: All crafts help reinforce the lesson with a take-home item that is symbolic of what was taught. All contain not only clear lists of materials needed but what preparation will be required. All are easy and contain only those materials found in a teacher’s supply closet or a trip to the dollar store or supermarket.

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• Games: Most games immediately follow the lesson and serve as a reinforcement activity as to what was learned. Some are relays and traditional games, but some involve role play that relates directly to what happens in or around school.

Our Vision for Kids Concerning Bullying After this great exposure to anti-bullying themes that are Christ- driven, kids will be more prepared to recognize, neutralize and respond healthily to bullying behaviors. In situations that are out of control, they should feel not only comfortable but proud for telling the nearest teacher or grownup.

They will also learn how very relevant the Bible is and what a friend Jesus is willing to be. Kids need to learn at an early age that you do not leave Jesus at the door of school when you enter, and you do not leave him in your house when you go out to play. The presence of large crowds and bustling activity can leave kids feeling that He isn’t there.

Not true. They need to be reminded that God helped build the school. He is inside before they even get there in the morning. He is on the school bus. He is in the neighborhood, in their backyards, their living rooms, basements, tree houses and everywhere. The antics that go on--even the worst behaviors of problem kids--are not too much for Jesus’ digestive track. In fact, he is not intimidated by them at all! He is always available for wisdom, and he wants his word to go forth and take root.

Our lessons will help reinforce all these great notions. They will build faith while building protection and good character in all who use them.

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The first step to stopping bullying is to understand what it is—and what it isn’t. Not all meanies are bullies.

Here is why all of this is so important:

We are going to teach you in future lessons to report a bully and try to work things out with a meanie. If you are reporting meanies and bullies to teachers and parents all the time, you can drive them crazy. And yet, if you try to work things out with a bully, you could get injured. Jesus is the only human being whom you will not drive mad with too many tattles. You need to learn to work out some mean things out yourselves with Jesus’s help and save reporting for situations involving bullying.

So, let’s review:

Meanies are hurtful and we could all live without them. Bullies are dangerous. They can hurt people physically or make someone feel so badly about themselves that they can become depressed or mentally ill.

• Is the person just being loud, rude and demanding? That’s a meanie.

• Is the person calling names, laughing and/or making insults? That’s a bully.

• Is the person upset over something that’s affecting them and therefore being rude? That’s a meanie.

• Is the person trying to upset the victim by hurting and threatening and taunting? That’s a bully.

Next lesson, we’ll learn what to do if we see a meanie, and what to do if we see a bully. This week, we’re just trying to learn the difference, but here is what we can do:

Let’s pray for meanies and bullies. Generally, they have problems that are making them hurt, and if Jesus begins to fix them, there goes the problem sometimes.

As well, praying for people changes your heart toward them. Hold up Tyler.

Tyler prays for Ralphie and Sarah and Philippe. You want to pray with him?? Have everyone bow their heads.

Speak in Tyler’s voice:

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Lord, thanks so much for my nicey friend Ralphie. I know he is a gift from You. Lord, my mom tells me that Sarah’s mom works nights and Sarah has to go to sleep without any grownups in the house, only her two big sisters. She says Sarah now has a sleep disorder and is exhausted and it’s making her mean. Lord, please help Sarah’s mom to get a better shift. Or help Sarah to know that Psalm 121 verse 4 is true! The God who watches over you doesn’t slumber or sleep. She would be nicer if she felt better. Lord, who knows what’ s up with Philippe? But maybe it’s something worse than Sarah, considering how awful he is. If someone picked on him, please make them stop. Then maybe he’ll stop. Don’t let him get me. I trust you, I love you…Amen.

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Bully, Meanie or Nicey Statements?

1. Why don’t you go home now? I don’t like playing with you! It’s no fun!

2. We should stop playing now. I have things to do for my mom, but I’ll see

you later!

3. Go home now! Nobody likes playing with you because you’re a loser.

Second is nice; it doesn’t assume that play problems are the fault of the other person. The first is mean: A personal opinion (stated in a rude way); the third is a personal attack with name calling and therefore bullying.

1. How could you fail that test? It was easy!

2. How could you fail that test, you moron. You’re going to end up a loser like

your big brother.

3. Aw, I failed a test before! I’ll help you next time.

Third is nice; it’s not judgmental and is helpful. First is mean; it’s inconsiderately stated. Second is bullying; it contains a name and a particularly harsh insult, which implies it was meant to hurt.

1. I don’t think it’s funny when you pull my hair. Please stop, okay?

2. Leave me alone and get your grody hands off of me! Why are you so

annoying?

3. Next time you pull my hair, I’m going to punch your face! Stop it,

dumbwad!

In this set, even the nice person is annoyed. Nice people are allowed to feel annoyed! Second all three statements infer that the victim being targeted has brought on the situation. Oftentimes one kid will think something is funny when it isn’t funny to many others. Everyone has the right to tell him he’s out of line.

The first person was being very polite, even though annoyed. The second person is being mean because she’s being rude. The third person is a bully because of the threats and implication that the person is dirty.

1. Sorry, but we’re having a private conversation right now. I’ll talk to you

after, okay?

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2. Butt out while we’re talking, elephant ears, before I push you out!

3. Stop bothering us! Can’t you see we’re talking about something private?

The first person is being nice; the second one is bullying by calling names and threatening; the third person is being plain mean.

1. Why are you such a wimp? Even my little sister could have thrown that ball

farther.

2. You had to throw a ball like that when we’re losing?? That stinks.

3. I threw a ball like that last game. It’s okay.

The first person is calling a name—that’s bullying. The second person is being rude but expressing personal disappointment that they are losing—that’s mean; the third person is being nice.

1. Stop laughing or I’m telling the teacher.

2. Stop laughing or I’ll flatten your face on the floor.

3. Stop laughing. Your laugh is really ugly.

The first person is being nice; there’s nothing wrong with threatening to tell an authority if something inappropriate is happening; the second person is threatening the person’s safety—that’s bullying; the third person is being mean; it’s rude to comment about something a person can’t help like how their laugh sounds.

1. Chew with your mouth shut, pig. Gimme your sandwich, and you’re not

getting it back until you quit making me want to hurl.

2. Please don’t chew with your mouth open. I can see all your chewed food.

3. Chew with your mouth shut. Were you raised in a pig sty? Don’t you care if

you make everybody sick?

Again, the victim is doing something to bring on his or her own negative reaction—even from the nice person (nice people can be disgusted, too!)

The first person is obviously the bully due to name calling and removing property from the victim. The second person is being nice in a disgusting situation. The meanie is the third person, who is stating his opinion in a rude way. (Note: The kid chewing with his mouth opened may have a cold or stuffy nose! He could explain that to the first person, but the meanie and the bully have put him in a bad situation. Bullying and the Bible Lesson #1

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1. You cry a lot lately. Is everything all right?

2. You cry, like, three times a day! You’re giving people a headache!

3. You are such a crybaby; it gets on everyone’s nerves. How’d you like

something to cry about?

The first person is addressing a real problem in a nice way—that person is nice; the second person is being rude but expressing how the crying affects her and others—she’s mean; the third person is bullying—calling names and threatening with “something to cry about.”

1. That TV show is for babies. If you like it, don’t be expecting me to watch it

with you, ew!

2. I used to like that show. Now, I like other things.

3. If you really like that show, don’t ever come over to my house. I’ll have to

stick my little sister’s pacifier in your mouth.

The first person isn’t being mean, just plain rude. The second person is being nice but honest (nice people can be honest). The third person is the bully, who has twice threatened: don’t ever come over…and I’ll humiliate you beyond belief.

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Continue on [assistant’s name]. I think I see another person in a meanie mood.

Have the assistant continue on, stop in front of another student. She should whisper at him or her to say, “Do you have to butt in in the middle of our conversation? Take a hike! We’re talking!”

If the child doesn’t say it forcibly enough, yell it in the right way.

Wow, [name]. That was really harsh. Was it mean, or was it bullying? Did she/he call you names? No. Did she threaten you? No, it just sounded mean.

Guess you better forgive the person. Tomorrow YOU could say something mean…

Assistant should touch the child on either shoulder with the spatula to note forgiveness.

But are you just going to let that go?

Assistant should repeat after you: “Wow, that was mean. Can’t you just say to leave please? We’re talking in private?”

It’s always a good idea to tell the person how they could have said it. And don’t yell and insult her in response. Remember, we don’t return evil for evil. Continue down the road of life [name].

As she walks, Uh-oh. I think I see another person in a foul mood.

Have her stop in front of a child and prompt him in a whisper to yell, “I was sitting there first! Get up now!” Repeat it loudly if the student wasn’t forceful enough.

Was that meanness or bullying? You know the drill.

Assistant should say that the person didn’t call names and threaten. It’s meanness. She should take the spatula and do “forgiveness.” She should say, “Wow, that was mean. Can’t you just say, “I was sitting there first? Please get up?”

Get on your way on the road of life [assistant]. It doesn’t matter what the person says back. And by the way…what do I see ahead??

Have the assistant stop in front of a different kid. Have her whisper to the kid to say, “Get out of my seat, idiot, before I split your head opened!”

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Lesson #2 GameWands for Meanies, Shields for Bullies

With your students still standing in the circle, one at a time, let them follow the path that your assistant took in the lesson. Have three students stop the walker randomly and state some nicey/meanie/bully lines they pulled from a jar (lines are below). Have the walker decide whether to use the wand of forgiveness on a meanie, the shield on the bully, or jump up and down with joy for a nicey. Refer to these and your Meanies Versus Bullies wall sign while playing.

Materials:

• Spatula

• Trash can lid

• List of Meanie/Bully/Nicey Statements below

• Scissors

• Jar, hat or basket

Preparation:

1. Cut up the Meanie/Bully/Nicey statements below and put them in a jar, hat or basket. Let

students pick them. Prompt them not to say their lines aloud and give it away!

2. Give out all statements, even if it means some students have two.

3. Give them a chance to read their statements silently and be sure they understand what they

say and mean.

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Lesson #2 Game Supplement:

Nicey, Meanie, Bully StatementsCut up the following statements into strips, fold them and put them into a hat or jar. Students should pick one or more until the container is empty. Then they should randomly stop walkers in the walk of life and state/yell/cry them in roll play. The walker will guess whether it’s a nicey, bully, or meanie and respond to each according to the instructions and the lesson.

You can’t come over after school. You are really boring and I’m sick of it.

If you come to my house, I’ll kick you out, lame-o. Nobody wants you around!

Sorry, I can’t play after school. But you can come some other day!

Get your hands off of me and go bug somebody else!

Quit bothering me, stupid! How’d you like it if I put your head through a wall?

I’m really not in the mood for your games right now. Sorry.

That spot is taken! Go find somewhere else to sit!

That’s my seat, moron! Do you have to dirty it up with your smells? Get up!

Your breathing sounds disgusting. Go use your inhaler before I throw up.

You sound like a dead person trying to breathe. Go use your inhaler before I

puke on your face.

Your asthma sounds really bad today. Can I get you your inhaler?

My mom bakes better cookies than yours. Yours are all hard and disgusting.

Maybe my mom’s cookies are better than yours because she has a better recipe!

I can ask her for it!

Your mom’s cookies taste like she chewed them up and spit them out. She’s as

nasty as you are.

How’d you get such a great grade on that test? Did you cheat? You must have.

How’d you get such a great grade on that test, stupid? You’re a cheater on top

of everything else.

Great job on that test! Doesn’t it feel good to get that high a grade?

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• Tape “3 Easy Ways to Be a Good Bystander” to the wall.

LessonWhen you are bullied or even if you see bullying, the feelings can be very awful. If you’re seeing bullying, you may want to disappear so that nothing similar happens to you. If you are bullied, you may want to disappear because you’re so scared or embarrassed.

In some verses in the Bible, God is compared to a beautiful, giant, powerful bird with wings. He wants us to feel as though we are hiding in his wings. Psalm 91:4 says God “will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart.”

Wrap the bed sheet around yourself and flutter it as if it’s wings.

When you see bullying, you can help a victim feel some of God’s love. You can help that person feel like they’re in a comfortable and safe spot under God’s wings!

How do you do that? Let’s talk about that. This doesn’t involve facing down a bully or “warning the disruptive” as Apostle Paul says.

Who has been bullied in this room? Pick one of the kids who raises his hand. Have him stand up.

Prompt him to say, “Help! Help! I’m being bullied!”

Who wants to help? Take a volunteer.

Way #1 that you can help: Include a victim in a game later or ask them to sit with you at lunch.

Prompt the bystander to repeat after you, “Wanna play a game?” or “Wanna sit with me at lunch?” Have the bystander push the victim up to you so you can cover him with your wings. Say, “Hooray! Welcome to the love of God’s wings! You’re here because somebody helped you! ”

A kindness has the power to erase a meanness in a victim’s heart. You can make that person feel safe in God’s love without even mentioning the bullying.

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Flap the wings so kids can see the victim. Who else has been bullied?

Pick one of the kids who raises his hand. Have him stand up. Prompt him to say, “Help! Help! I’m being bullied!”

Who wants to help this victim? Take another volunteer.

Way #2 that you can help: Say something to the person later, that you saw what happened and you didn’t think it was nice at all.

Prompt the bystander to repeat after you, “I saw what happened to you. That was really horrible. I hope you’re okay.”

Have the bystander push the victim up to you so you can cover him with your wings. Say, “Hooray! Welcome to the love of God’s wings! You’re here because somebody helped you!”

Flap the wings so kids can see the two victims. Who else has been bullied?

Pick one of the kids who raises his hand. Have him stand up. Prompt him to repeat after you, “Help! Help! I’m being bullied!”

Who wants to help? Take another volunteer.

Way #3: You can offer to go with the victim to talk to a trusted adult.

Prompt the bystander to say, “I’ll go with you to tell the teacher if you want. Come on, let’s go!”

Have the bystander push the victim up to you so you can cover him with your wings. Say, “Hooray! Welcome to the love of God’s wings! You’re here because somebody helped you!”

All of these things HELP THE WEAK, not that a victim is a weak person. A victim is in a weak condition after being bullied. But these are three ways you can help without jeopardizing yourself.

Let’s go over them again.

You can…Have the first victim say what the helpful bystander did for him…then he can sit back down

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Lesson #3 Reinforcement Game“Easy Bystander” Role Play

It’s easy to be a good bystander if you remember the three ways taught in the object lesson to help victims without putting yourself in danger. This game will enable students to try being comforting and help a victim to God’s wings while you or your assistant play the bully.

Object

For students to think up creative ways to use the three helps taught in the object lesson for helping bullying victims: (1) Include a victim in a game or at lunch; (2) Tell the victim you saw what happened and thought it was wrong; (3) Offer to go with the victim to tell a trusted adult. The object is to follow challenging instructions all the way through.

Instructions

Tape the Three Easy Ways to Be a Great Bystander to the wall where all can see. Line all your students up. Go down the line, reciting bullying lines to them one at a time. The victim must say, “Help me, God! I’m being bullied!”

The person next to him must reply with one of the three options above, acted out in their own words.

The person being the helpful bystander must not use the method of the person before him. In other words, if the last helpful bystander used (1) include a victim in a game or at lunch, this bystander must use either (2) or (3).

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Hold up your torch. We’re calling this a torch of love. It symbolizes the love that is in your heart. We pass love on to someone who will cherish it. Hold torch out to a student. We do not pass it on to someone who will break it. Pretend to hold it out to another student, then suddenly hug it to your chest instead.

As Christians, we want to warn people who are hurting others because we are actually helping them to be nicer. We’re also helping the victims. Here are some ways to warn a person who is bullying without using your mouth:

Hang up your wall sheet, 8 Courageous Ways to Warn a Bully. Refer to it as you go along.

First. Do not reward a bully with your friendship. Hug the torch close to your chest. To play with someone who has just been bullying is to tell him that that is okay. Jesus thinks it’s not okay. When you see bullying, leave quickly. Do not speak to that person, even if spoken to.

Second, do not stare at the bully or the victim. To watch or listen gives a bullying person a great sense of power. It’s like saying….hold out your torch….it’s okay! Be a bully! It’s funny when you make others cry!

Third, when you see bullying and you can’t leave, like in class or on a bus…turn around and ignore it as quickly as possible.

Fourth, never, ever laugh and give a bullying person power. Hug the torch to your chest.

Fifth, tell a grownup as soon as possible! Extend the torch out again. That way, you’re actually helping the bully. Teachers are becoming experts at handling bullying. Parents can call teachers if they are stumped.

Finally, there are times when people who have bullied in the past are not bullying. There are times when they can actually be kind of nice. Have you ever noticed that? Yes.

A bully one day can be a nicey the next day. If a bully asks you to play in a nice way…what do you do? Pretend for a moment you’re confused about holding the torch of love to your chest or extending it. Finally shake your head and don’t extend it.

Here is a time where you can correct a bully—when they’re being a nicey. You can say, “I saw you bullying yesterday. You called Jana a name, and you threatened her. I can’t play with you. Not unless you go be nice to her first.” Shakily hold out your torch.

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Lesson #4 Reinforcement GamePass/Don’t Pass: Learning When to

Extend Your Heart

This game reinforces the object lesson on being a good bystander and knowing what to do when you see someone bullying. Students are presented with situations, and they have to decide whether to extend their torch (heart) or hug it to their chests.

Object:

Everyone will get a chance to extend the torch of their heart in bullying situations, either by talking to a bully when he’s being a nicey, or to tell a teacher. The object is to get the most answers correct by extending the torch at the right times and by doing and saying the right things.

Introduction:

In this game, I’m going to be the bully or the meanie. First, you’re going to decide if I’m being a bully or a meanie.

• If I’m a meanie, you are going to say, “Wow, that was mean. Why can’t you

just say…” and fill in with a nice way of saying something.

• If I’m a bully, you are going to walk away immediately—no staring, no

laughing—and find a grownup to tell.

• If I’m a bully who’s suddenly being a nicey, you’re going to try to tell me you

can’t play with me until I go up to the victim and be nice.

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Lesson #5 GameHeads up Seven-Up Beam of Protection

This game reinforces the object lesson on being a good bystander and knowing what to do when you see someone bullying. Students are presented with situations, and they have to decide whether to extend their torch (heart) or hug it to their chests.

Object:

Flaslight

Instructions:

• Have all students put their heads down on the table and not look.

• Hide the flashlight.

• When you say, “Bully Alert!” they must jump up and start hunting.

• The first person to find the flashlight and shine the beam on himself wins the round.

Introduction

We don’t hear the voice of the Lord out loud, and we can’t touch or see God’s person. Hence, it is challenging sometimes to sense his voice. We often have to seek him. However, Matthew 7:7 says, “Seek and ye shall find!” Finding the flashlight and beaming God’s protection on you will feel a lot like seeking and finding his advice and counsel. Seek and you will find!

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I want everyone to think of a time when they called another person a name. Let them think. Let volunteers share.

As you can see, anyone is capable of bullying, even though some do it far more often than others.

Let’s all take in a long drink of Jesus’ love and peace and guidance. Hand out their water bottles.

As I say each of these really important scriptures about bullying, think about it…then take a long drink:

Romans 12:9 Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord.

Psalm 37:8 Stop being angry! Turn from your rage! Do not lose your temper--it only leads to harm.

Psalm 37:1-3 Do not fret because of evil men or be envious of those who do wrong; 2for like the grass they will soon wither, like green plants they will soon die away.

Psalm 37:3-4 Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture. Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart.

For those who have water left, think of someone who is making you really angry or has in the past. Drink the rest of the love of God’s goodness and commit that person to the Lord. See what happens!

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