Bullying…What you can do about it

What is Bullying?• Bullying takes at least 2 people:

the bully and the victim. In most cases there is a third person;

the witness

Definition of Bullying

–“Bullying is when a stronger, more powerful person hurts or frightens

a smaller or weaker person on purpose and repeatedly (more than

once)”

Physical Bullying

-Physically hurting someone or

threatening to hurt them.

-Taking or damaging someone’s property

Some things you can do…

Don't walk alone Don't bring

expensive things or money to school Find an adult

Avoid unsupervised areas and places where bullying

happens.

Verbal Bullying

Using words to hurt or

embarrass someone

name callingcursing

put downsWriting a mean letter about

someone

Some things you can do…

Don't walk alone Turn a comment into a

joke Ignore the bully – Pretend

you didn’t hear them Brainstorm bully

comebacks and practice them ahead of time

Walk away

Relational Bullying

-Trying to convince others to exclude or reject

someone.-Cutting a student off from

having friends.-Using your friendship to

control someone. -Telling others not to talk or play with

another student-Spreading rumors about someone

-Clubs-Using your friendship to control

someone

Some things you can do…Don't continue a

rumor Work on making new

friends Talk to someone ahead of time to ask them to sit with you at lunch or play with

you at recess Ask for help from an

adult

Cyber Bullying

-Bullying that happens through technology— the computer or text

messages. -The programs that are used to

cyber bully:

email IM (Instant Messenger)Websites or My Space

Blogs Chat Rooms

Some things you can do…

Don’t respond to emails or messages that are mean to

you or your friends.

Don't open emails or messages from someone you

know is a bully or save or print all messages from the bully.

Show the messages to an adult you trust - like a parent

or a teacher - and ask for help.

Ways to prevent Cyber Bullying…Never give anyone your password, even

your best friend. Only your parents. Don't share personal information: secrets,

photos, or anything online that might be embarrassing if someone found out.

Set up email and IM accounts with your parents. Make sure not to put your name, age, address, or phone number in your profile.

Don't send messages when you're angry. Wait until you cool off so you don't say something you'll regret.

Be a good cyber friend-don't send emails or instant messages written by a friend to anyone else.

Survey Results What does this tell us about bullying at our school?

Mr. Shaeffer’s Class 2009

VICTIMS WITNESSESHave been bullied 66.67% Have seen others bullied 66.67%

Once in a while 58.33% Once in a while 45.83%Often 8.33% Often 20.83%

Everyday 0.00% Everyday 0.00%

Happens at...School 25.00% School 29.17%Park 0.00% Park 8.33%Home 0.00% Home 0.00%

Neighborhood 16.67% Neighborhood 33.33%Bus 12.50% Bus 20.83%

Other 16.67% Other 4.17%

Where at School? What kinds of bullying?Stairs 4.17% Teased 70.83%Halls 12.50% Called Names 45.83%

Classroom 12.50% Threatened 8.33%Playground 29.17% Joked 29.17%Lunchroom 12.50% Stole $ or things 8.33%Restroom 8.33% Damage Belongings 16.67%Specials 12.50% Physical 37.50%

The Witness…

What to do if you see someone being bullied

Witness Strategies

It is Important to know!

• There is power in numbers! The more people you have stand up to a bully…the more likely you are to be successful in changing the bully or bullying

• The WITNESS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON WHO CAN CHANGE BULLYING!

Witness Strategies

Be A FriendIf you see someone being picked on,

be a friend and walk away from the bully together.OR

If you know someone that gets picked on, ask them to play with you.

Role-Play/ discussion

You have seen a student in your class being bullied during

recess. The kids that play kickball never let him/her play and tell him/her that he/she is

terrible at kickball.

What can you Do?

What can you say?

Witness Strategies

Be A FriendIf you see someone being picked on, be a friend and walk away from the bully together.

OR

If you know someone that gets picked on, ask them to play with you before the bullying starts.

Witness StrategiesStand Up to the Bully

Tell the bully to stop. Examples: "Cut it out!", "That's not funny!",

"How'd you like it if someone did that to you?“ “Cool It”

Role-Play/ discussion

There is a kid on the bus who is always picking on other students. He/she using name calling and yelling to bully. He/she also makes kids get out

of the seat he wants.

What can you Do?

What can you say?

Witness Strategies

Stand Up to the BullyTell the bully to stop. Be calm,

say what you need to say, and walk away.

"Cut it out.“ “Leave him alone”

“Cool It”

Witness StrategiesCoach the victim

Give them some ideas on how to stop the bullying Help the victim to get help from an adult.

Role-Play/ discussion

Your friend tells you that someone has

been bullying them on the bus. You don’t

ride the same bus with them.

What can you Do?

What can you say?

Witness StrategiesCoach the victim

Give them some ideas on how to stop the bullying Help the victim to get help from an adult.

Role-Play/ discussion

Your friend tells you that someone has

been bullying them on the bus. You don’t

ride the same bus with them.

What can you Do?

What can you say?

Witness Strategies

Relational Bullying…If someone is trying to exclude

someone or hurt their reputation, YOU can…

Include that person in your group

Stop a rumor from spreadingDON’T let yourself get in the

middle…don’t be the messenger!

Witness Strategies

If your friend is the bully?(1) Talk to your friend : “Hey…leave him

alone”.(2) Distract him…”Oh look…let’s play kickball

with those kids”(3) Evaluate your friendship…

Is this the reputation you want?

Is this the kind of person you want to spend time with?

You can still be happy without being in the

“popular” group.