By By Kirri CampbellKirri Campbell

FriendshipFriendship

FRIENDSHIPSFRIENDSHIPS

•It’s NOT about It’s NOT about fitting in!fitting in!

•It’s about It’s about being yourself, being yourself,

and people still and people still liking you.liking you.

WarningNot everyone will like you. And even your friends won’t like you all the time.

How Do We Choose How Do We Choose Our Friends?Our Friends?

What Make’s a Good What Make’s a Good Friend?Friend?

A)A) Always tells you what you want to Always tells you what you want to hear?hear?

B)B) Is super cool, that everyone thinks Is super cool, that everyone thinks your cooler just for hanging out your cooler just for hanging out with him/her?with him/her?

C)C) Always makes you feel accepted?Always makes you feel accepted?

HonestyHonesty• Being honest Being honest

means telling the means telling the truthtruth

• Often that may Often that may not be what a not be what a friend wants to friend wants to hearhear

• This man This man obviously doesn’t obviously doesn’t have a good friend have a good friend (or a mirror)(or a mirror)

“Do you think the ‘bling’ is too much for this outfit?“

Negative Comments or Criticisms……Think of them as opportunities to grow!

You’re not really a very good singer, don’t quit your day job!

Ok, thanks for that, I'll do plastic surgery instead and make millions, and hang out all day will rock stars.

Three Types Of Three Types Of CriticismsCriticisms

False

True

Nonsense

What is Bullying?What is Bullying?• Bullying can be overt (teasing, Bullying can be overt (teasing,

hitting, or stealing)hitting, or stealing)

• Bullying can covert (spreading Bullying can covert (spreading rumours or exclusion) rumours or exclusion)

• Or any sort of intimidation that Or any sort of intimidation that occurs repeatedly over timeoccurs repeatedly over time

Four Parts to Any Four Parts to Any ExperienceExperience

1.1. Event Event Any situation of which we are a part.Any situation of which we are a part.

2.2. BeliefBeliefThe interpretation we attach to the event.The interpretation we attach to the event.

3.3. Feeling/EmotionFeeling/EmotionThe feelings we experience as a result of our The feelings we experience as a result of our

interpretation about an event: happiness, interpretation about an event: happiness, sadness, anger.sadness, anger.

4.4. Behavioral ResponseBehavioral ResponseOur actions — how we respond both verbally and Our actions — how we respond both verbally and

physically when confronted with a situation, physically when confronted with a situation, based on our beliefs and feelings about it.based on our beliefs and feelings about it.

Get Some Perspective!Get Some Perspective!When a problem seems insurmountable;

Ask these questions…

MaybeMaybe ProbablProbablyy

YesYes Big Big Time!Time!

Does it affect me Does it affect me right now?right now?

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Will it affect me Will it affect me tomorrow?tomorrow?

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Will it affect me Will it affect me next week?next week?

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Will it affect me Will it affect me next year?next year?

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If I was ……….., no one would pick on me!

If you can’t beat them, join them!

Attaining Perfection!Attaining Perfection!• Have Realistic Expectations – We Have Realistic Expectations – We

expect to much from ourselves. expect to much from ourselves. • Perfection is not possible but Perfection is not possible but

bettering ourselves should be a bettering ourselves should be a lifetime goal. lifetime goal.

• We grow with models who appear We grow with models who appear to be perfect at everything. to be perfect at everything.

Self-Esteem

• It isn’t really available in a pill.• You determine how big or how small it gets.• Believe me… Some are tooooo BIG!

Self-Esteem

Which One Are You?Which One Are You?

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