CARELINESA Quarterly Newsletter Published for the Friends & Families of Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care, Inc.

Fall 2010

Moving-in Day at the Forlines Patient Care Unit

August 12, 2010. A perfect day. Not a cloud in the sky.The move began at 8 a.m. and was finished just before 5p.m. The Caldwell County EMS team was efficient, organ-ized, and kind. Patients were transported with the utmostcare. Their families and our staff felt the energy on thisday of “firsts”: the first time these spacious rooms wouldbe occupied, the first residential patient, the first time wecould provide meals prepared on-site, and the first step inoffering inpatient care for 18 patients at two locations.

courtyard;repainted, installednew carpet in thepatient care unit,and purchased newfurniture for thepatients’ rooms.

We expect to holdour Kirkwood “open house” in January and willpublicize the date, once our staff members andpatients are “back in business” in Kirkwood’s six-bed patient care unit.

As we come to the conclusion of an eventful 2010,all of us at Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care,including the 26 new employees we’ve added thisyear, thank this community, the patients andfamilies we have served, as well as the individuals,churches, and groups who continue to support usin providing quality end-of-life care.

From the Director’s Chair: From Moving Dayto Kirkwood Renovations, Much to Tell

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Parker WilliamsonPresident

H. Houston Groome, Jr.Vice-President

Peg BroyhillSecretary

James C. Harper, Jr.Treasurer

Robert Belk, MD

Claudia Bujold

Marc Carpenter

Joseph C. Delk, III

Laura Easton

David Gray

Financial information about this organization and a copy of its license are available from the State Solicitation Licensing Branch at 919.833.4510. The license is not an endorsement by the State.

Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care Board of Directors

The Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care “to do” listhas grown and multiplied since we began planningfor the Robbins Center facilities and broke ground inNovember 2008. On August 12, 2010, we realized along-anticipated dream when we included our firstresidential patient among the hospice patientsmoving in to our state-of-the-art Forlines PatientCare Unit.

It is safe to say that everyone felt the excitementthat day, as we put our moving plans into action.Caldwell County’s EMS team was both professionallyand personally attentive to our needs, and the onlydelays occurred when ambulances were called awayto emergencies. Once we had completed the movefrom Kirkwood to the Robbins Center for ourpatients, we could focus on “small” details: helpingpatients figure out how to use the remote controlsfor their TVs, purchasing clothes hangers for theirclosets, ordering pizzas for our exhausted staffmembers, and so forth.

The big details that followed the move-out day atKirkwood focused on renovation. We’re includingbefore-and-after photos in this issue of Carelines, soyou can see what we’re doing.

The hardwood floors have been refinished. We haverefurbished the family kitchen, including newflooring and a new paint color; installed ceiling fansin all the patient rooms, along with recessed lightingand wall-mounted televisions;re-laid the brick pavers in the

Jimmy Hemphill

Rob Hinman

Inez Jones

Deborah Murray

Tamra Beach Starnes

Janet Wilson

Janet Winkler

A Moment with Dr. Robert Belk: Living Wills, Health Care Powers of Attorney

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Medical technology has advanced so quickly that,sometimes, we are not sure when or if to put itinto practice. It is common to worry about themoral and ethical outcomes of end-of-life caredecisions, especially. For as long as individuals arecompetent, decisions regarding medical treatmentare theirs to make. What happens when they losethat ability? Who decides on the treatments theywill receive and under what circumstances orconditions changes will be made, etc.?

Physicians try to educate patients and familymembers regarding treatment goals and possibleburdens that result, but individuals have their ownspecific circumstances and beliefs regarding whatan acceptable quality of life is. Do YOU have awritten plan that states the kind(s) of health caretreatments you would want (or NOT want) if youhad a sudden accident or illness that left youunable to express your decisions? Would you wantto give up your ability to participate in makingserious decisions about your own treatment? Wouldyour loved ones be comfortable with makingdecisions for you? Would they know what yourpreferences were?

If we wait as long as possible before making end-of-life decisions, we risk waiting too long. Pleasereview the following information. The CaldwellPartnership for End-of-Life Care (754.0101) orCaring Connections (www.caringinfo.org) can helpto answer your questions.

The Partnership encourages people to completeadvance directives (living wills and health carepowers of attorney). The living will is a legaldocument that allows you to express your wishesabout life-sustaining treatments, if you becomeincapacitated. The health care power ofattorney allows you to appoint a person you trustto make your health care decisions, if you cannotmake them yourself.

The Living Will (Advance Directive for a NaturalDeath) allows you to express your wishes aboutlife-sustaining treatment, should you becometerminally or irreversibly ill. In a living will, youstate that you do not want your life to beprolonged by extraordinary means if you have aterminal, incurable condition or are in a persistentvegetative state.

A living will is simple to fill out and, in NorthCarolina, it requires the signature of two witnesses(not related to you) and a notary public. A livingwill becomes effective when you can no longerdirect your health care and are not expected torecover.

The Health Care Powerof Attorney (HCPOA,or Medical Power ofAttorney, Health CareProxy or Agent, HealthCare Surrogate,Durable Power ofAttorney for HealthCare): This legal form identifies who YOU want tomake the decisions about your medical care, ONLYif you are unable to make your own medicaldecisions. Your agent can be any adult you choose,EXCEPT your health care provider.

Your agent has the same authority you would haveto hire and fire health care providers; admit ordischarge you from a health care institution;consent to or refuse tests or treatments, and more.

After you make your decisions and fill out thesedocuments, do NOT keep them in a safe-depositbox at your bank because you may not be able toget them in a crisis. Give copies to your doctor,your hospital (if you have a record on file), yourhealth care agent(s), your family member(s), andyourself (keep your copies in an easy-to-findplace).

Be sure to talk about your decisions with yourfamily members—especially the person who will beyour HCPOA—clearly and honestly before youdecide. Be sure that your HCPOA will do what youwant if you are unable to choose for yourself. Thebottom line is for individuals to make their owndecisions concerning end-of-life issues, expressthese wishes to their family members, and—mostimportantly—put the decisions in writing.

Often, when we talk about advance directives,people ask how a Do Not Attempt ResuscitationOrder (DNR) fits into this planning. The Do NotAttempt Resuscitation Order is a physician’s orderthat states the patient does not wish to receiveCPR. The North Carolina General Assembly hasexpanded these orders to include other life-prolonging treatments. Called MOST (MedicalOrders for Scope of Treatments), the new ordersgive patients a choice of whether or not to receiveCPR, the medical intervention they do wish toreceive, such as the wish to receive antibiotics,medically administered fluids, and nutrition. MOSTis a doctor’s order and must be reviewed annually.

Despite all the medical documents, it is extremelyimportant that your HCPOA and family membersknow exactly what your desires are for your end-of-life care, regardless of their wants and wishes foryou.

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MEMORIALSRoger W. AbernethyElaine BrooksLinda CampbellRoger AdamsNancy AdamsCarolyn AndrewsKeith & Peggy BlinsonThelma AnnasWilliam S. AnnasRuby Pearlean AustinBilly & Mary AustinMartha ClarkKeith HarrisBarbara L. BakerFirst Baptist Church,WhitnelHarling BuchananEd & Ann GeorgeMarlene HartleyErnest & Peggy JenkinsTerrie & Holli JimisonBill & Rosemary JonesEthel ParlierTony & Lisa ParlierVenessa & JohnPelliccioneAura S. StricklenRob Taylor & Vivian W.TaylorJudith L. WatersBrian & Crystal WeaverJimmy BarnesAnonymous DonorJorge Barrientos, Sr.Ernie & Brenda ClineJean BeachPeg BroyhillJoey BeanLinda CampbellNaomi BeaneGlenn & Carole IsaacsGary BenfieldMillie WestHarley Ray Bentley, Sr.Jeraldean Bentley Betty BoldinLower Creek BaptistChurch, FaithfulWorkers ClassViola BentleyCharles "Chuck"BolickMillie WestWilliam "Bill" BolickBlue Ridge PioneersLife Member ClubCaldwell CountySchools Social Cmte.Keith & Peggy BlinsonJames & Renae ClarkTim CrumpSkip & Davanna DownsClara GreeneBrian Grogan

Tom & Jane HaasJerry, Laura & MadisonHallMs. Montrose MartinMikel, Shelly, & TylerOliverDee PeelerCarolyn PenningtonMr. & Mrs. L.F. QueenAl, Alison, & AndrewReevesRonnie & AnneSimmonsWarren & Reba WaldenCecil & Peggy WardMillie WestMr. & Mrs. MackWhitesideDavy, Lois, & AmberWhittingtonDoneatte "Doe"BourdonCharles & MarianGilgoreSheila C. MillerLana BraswellLinda CampbellJames "R.V." BrownKlingspor'sWoodworking ShopMr. & Mrs. George W.ArmfieldEsther O. BlountJean McFarlandEd & Judy WatersDoug, Marie, & CarolynWinklerAgnes B. BryantLenoir Fire Dept No. 1David T. BumgarnerEmelyne WilliamsTroy BumgarnerLoretta S. AnnasOpal ClarkIrene DuncanRebecca B. GilleyBill & Judy HolderCleo JusticeLynda SheffieldLinda StarnesMozelle WoodsBilly BurginTom & Tamra StarnesRaeford ByerleyElaine BrooksVerna ByerleyElaine BrooksMartha ByerlyIrene DuncanRobert Byerly, Jr.Irene DuncanCalvin C. ByersMary WilliamsEsther CallisMildred Pennell ChildrenPrudential-Life Finance

Charles & BillieBraswellRoger & Mavis CarterPaul W. CallowayWanda G. CallowayJim CampbellLinda CampbellWalter CannonHudson ElementarySchoolWendy NewtonMr. & Mrs. L.F. QueenAlice CarltonElaine BrooksDon Alan CarltonBill & Rosemary JonesLouise CarswellRev. Kenneth & PriscillaHensleyFlossie ChurchHoward & MargaretBrownJennifer DeanEloise P. HarrenWayne & Connie KirbyJim & Judy MackieWayne & Nellie MullinaxJudith G. SimmonsCricket SmithBetty Sue ClineGaye M. FowlerGeorge & Judy SullivanCarroll CloerBud & Ross GaskinsNell RaderMillie WestPeggy B. CoffeyElaine BrooksThomas Colvard, Sr.Lee & JoAnn PhillipsGertrude CraigBaton Water Corp.Mountain Grove BaptistChurch, Ron BeaneClassKim Craig & RubyChurchParalee H. CraigJack & Debbie MasonMary K. VincentLinda WilkieAnna CrispStone MountainCommunity ChurchRex D. CritesSusan Crites & KidsGenoise DavidsonBernhardt Furniture Co.Rebecca BraswellTamela DavisMr. & Mrs. William A.HoodDeborah B. IsenhourSandra KennySusan B. KilzerDon & Janet Tribus

Shirley Davis-RicciA Bus GangHudson UnitedMethodist Church,Fidelian ClassCharles & BillieBraswellKenneth & SandyCarterDavid CloerNeil & Ernestine ConradPete & Libby CrumpMitzi Davis-Mull, Marty& Natalie DavisEloise P. HarrenMarlene HartleyWhitey & ThelmaHawkinsDarrell & Cheryl KeenerShirley KincaidPete & Mary Jo LoyzelleDavid & GeraldineMartinTom & Eloise ParsonsJames SponenbergLouise ThompsonMillie WestSara DawsonTom & Jane HaasGayle I. DeVotoGayle I. DeVoto EstateCharles H. DeVotoScott M. DeVoto

Kenneth MastDicksonJoan DicksonJoseph & Erin DicksonBill DillardElaine BrooksShirley DobsonLenoir Fire Dept No. 1Joseph W. Dyer, Jr.Chapman Law FirmHickory Park FurnitureGalleriesLA-Z-BOYRandy & Becky BastBarry & Beth DorskLorraine GrossoMr. & Mrs. James C.Harper, Jr.Shane & ElizabethNorrisCharles & Melanie ShellSteve Strange, StateFarm InsuranceMichael EakerDrury Dobbins BaptistChurchLarry & Lucia HehrPam Robbins & FamilyJeff & Vicki WhitmoyerJohn A. Forlines, Jr.American BankersAssn. Officers & Staff

Blue Ridge ElectricMembership Corp.Broyhill FamilyFoundation, Inc.Burns-Fazzi, Brock &Assoc.Cedar Rock CountryClub, Golf OperationsDept.CenturyLinkCommunities in Schoolsof Caldwell County, Inc.Hancock & MooreFurnitureInter-Continental Corp.Lenoir City CouncilNC ChamberNews-TopicPeoples Bank Directors,Officers & StaffTown of Granite FallsWashington Duke Inn &Golf ClubWynnshire Care GroupBill & Vivian ArmfieldPeggy B. BakerFred & Marty BarnesBeverly & Judy BealJohn & Josephine BeallRon & Christine BeaneRobert ChristopherBeasleyWendy Russ BeasleyRandy & Amy C. BoydThe Honorable RobertBrady & Sheila TriplettBrady

Ed & Claudia BujoldMr. & Mrs. Robert B.BumbargerMr. & Mrs. William L.Burns, Jr.Marc & BennieCarpenterJoyce CorbettJack & Jane DaileyMary Jane, Neil, & RoseDeutschCharles D. DixonJ.C. Epting, Jr.Jim & Karen FinleyLarry & BarbaraFreimanJohn & Karen GabrielForest & Sara GainesMr. & Mrs. Boyd L.GeorgeJack & JenniferGlasheenBill & Ruth GodleyKirk & Jane GoeldnerMr. & Mrs. Jack GreeneSandy & Linda GuttlerMr. & Mrs. James C.Harper, Jr.

Contributions

To all the staff...thank you for all your time, love and support these last few months. You were a blessing to me and to Mom.It always made me feel better just knowing that you would be there if I needed you.—a Caldwell Hospice family member

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ContributionsMr. & Mrs. John G.HarperWhitey & ThelmaHawkinsAnna K. HendrixKeith & Lynn JohnsonJeff & Rita JoinesA.G. Jonas, Jr.Phillip & Margaret KirkBob LinebergerSara Lynn Little, CPA, PLLCRobert F. LoweMeita "Mickey" MaynardAnyce McKeeEd McMahanSue G. MillhollandMr. & Mrs. M.L. MooreMr. & Mrs. DouglasMorrisMr. & Mrs. Drew MorrisDonald O'HairMichael & MaryPattersonKatharyn A. PortwoodThelma & Margie PrinceSara M. PutzellDr. & Mrs. CharlesScheilEd & Betty Jo SchellAgnes T. ScroggsJim ShaverCharles & Melanie ShellPauline H. ShookMrs. Mary B. ShufordCharles & CatherineSnipesBarry & Dianne SpicerRobert K. SteelKatherine G. SternAllene B. StevensSteve & Connie StrangeSuggie StyresAdelaide SullivanRebecca SullivanJohn S. TolbertNeal TriplettBrian VanderbloemenRebecca M. WalkerDavid N. WebberDon & Barbara WeillerMillie WestPeter W. Whitener, Jr.Charles & NancyWillinghamAllen & Pam WilsonFloyd WilsonBill & Vivian Wotring

Aaron LaMont ForneyLois DulaBarbara FosterBelleview ElementarySchool, Sunshine ClubMrs. Dixie Derr

Frank FoxJoseph FoxLois FoxTony V. FoxGlenn FryeSteve, Roger, & RandyFryeEmily D. GibbonsNC League ofMunicipalitiesParkway BankKeith & Peggy BlinsonRoberta BlinsonMary D. ColeSkip & Davanna DownsEd & Ann GeorgeSteve & Jennifer GreerJeff & Rita JoinesGreg & Pam PilkentonBarry & Dianne SpicerDorothy SudderthMillie WestWilla GraggDry Ponds BaptistChurch, Koinonia ClassLuther Gragg FamilyLucille ClarkRita B. DorsetDorothy M. HannonCarl & Debbie SmithMildred GreenLarry & Carolyn WoodieRobert "Buck" GreerRon & Christine BeaneClaude GriffinYadkin Baptist Church,Joy ClubShane & ElizabethNorrisFred GriffinUnion Baptist Church

Ellen L. HammVFW Ladies’ Auxillary,Post 5381Elaine BrooksLinda CampbellJohn HarrisBeverly & Judy BealJoyce A. HarrisonBrady Company Hendrick Construction,Inc.Roger & BarbaraCranfordJim Patton: P.B.I. Music& Games; Patton Bros.,Inc.Marvin EugeneHartleyOpal, Ann, & DinellClarkPeggy HawnAutumn Care of DrexelRehab Staff

Granite Falls SwimTeamLynda HendersonLaurel Fork BaptistChurchMartha TrivetteChloe HodgesHudson UnitedMethodist Church,Fidelian ClassAlta HolderEverett & Betty BarlowWarren HolderEverett & Betty BarlowClarence HolmanMountain Grove BaptistChurch, Ron BeaneClassRon & Christine BeaneAndrea CallowayRuby T. ChurchEstelle HolmanWalter & Pat HolmanLawrence & HelenJonesFred & Hazel McGeeDonald B. PetersBrenda RichardsonLarry & Carolyn WoodieFaye HoodMerita H. BarkerFlorine HuffmanSt. Andrews LutheranChurch, Prime TimersSt. Andrews LutheranChurch, Lena KeiserClassEarlene CarrierWilma H. HuffmanDennis Huffman &BrendaDavid Huffman &DorothyDiane Seitz & Bill

Thelma HuffmanMedical CenterPharmacy, Inc.St. Andrews LutheranChurch, Lena KeiserClassWilma Huffman FamilyEarlene CarrierFlorine HuffmanFuad & Kathy RihaniJack M. IcenhourChris & Lisa EvansBasil IngleSteve & Judy DealLydia JacksonPansy Carlton & FamilyJ.B. & Patty CoffeyJulia "Wylmoth"JenkinsCaroline S. Bradshaw

Myrna JenkinsCollettsville RuritanClubDavid & Kathy CloerBill & Sandy PuetteOscar & Anne SmithBarbara E. WhippleMyrtle JohnsonLenoir Fire Dept. No. 1James JusticeCleo JusticeEdward KanuppLeona R. BryantEarl KincaidSandy Coffey & TimBozemanShirley KincaidVanda M. KincaidLouise B. CorpeningMillie WestRichard KirbyCaldwell County PublicLibrary StaffMyrtle Beach Cultural &Leisure Admin.Western CarolinaElectrical SupplyMillie BrookshireJanet ConwayWilliam & JeanetteHollarGay KirbyDarrell & CarolynSigmonBrian & RobertaWhittington

Ruby KirbyMerita H. BarkerDock S. LackeyElaine BrooksLinda CampbellMerance LaFlammeJanet StevensonPerry "Pete" LailBennie & Patty BrittainKatie LandPat BelkWade McLeodDan & Harriet Onstott;Ann, Danny, & EdJohn & Shirley TylerBill F. LaneyHoward V. GraggBob LennartzAllen & Gail J. StewartLois LimpertBob & Carol StofkoRuth LindsayCasar MethodistChurch, Joy ClassJames & Renae ClarkMillie WestMary W. LinebackMichael Carr

Tom LingleMerita H. BarkerDavid CloerBobby FulmerJimmy & NancyHemphillCharles & Linda HoodJeff & Rita JoinesAnn SpradlinHarriet LodgeVinHart Assoc., LLCWexford VillageHomeowners’ Assn.Cleo JusticeAlyce WaltonKansas JeanetteLowmanCross Memorial BaptistChurchPhil & Sheila BurnsStuart MaltbaBHV Sheet MetalFabricators, Inc.McGee's Crating, Inc.Keith & Peggy BlinsonDavid CloerGrace CloerGretchen JacksonMargaret LivingstonMarilyn McCleanJerry & Virginia MyersFrances StoryMillie WestSherry WhealleyMarie McCarsonHigh Point FoursquareChurchNell GreeneAlan & Cathy NicholsMildred B. NicholsMr. & Mrs. L.F. QueenEthel McCraryJean McFarlandLockie D. McCroskeyKyle, Jane, Robert, &Hannah ClontzCharles McFarlandJean McFarlandKemp McRaryJerry & LindaPrestwoodColeen MillerOpal, Ann, & DinellClarkJames M. MooreVestel & Betty BrittianMary C. CrewsMr. & Mrs. M.L. MooreMax & Mary PadgettPaul MooreThomasville Furniture,Hickory Plant #8EmployeesJames P. MorrowJeff & Rita Joines

Thanks to all of you for the time you shared with our mother. Although it was only for a short while, she truly appreciated allyou did and for the visits....Your continued support and prayers are greatly appreciated.—a Caldwell Hospice family member

Contributions

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James P. Morrow, Jr.Nola SootsErwin MorweiserMr. & Mrs. Steve V.HodgesMs. Montrose MartinDick & Jean SchmittAllen & Gail J. StewartElise M. WelchMassie Mullinax, Jr.Opal, Ann, & DinellClarkCharles "Chuck"MullisBlanche ReidStanley EugeneNelsonMarc & BennieCarpenterDennis & Bessie FarrMr. & Mrs. John H.WarrenMichael NeroBaker Realty of Lenoir,Inc.Lenoir Building Supply,Inc.Viola BentleyLillian H. BraswellTom & Jane HaasGeorge & Carole AnnKeatingSusan B. KilzerEdmond & Carol RaadElizabeth A. SherrillJanet WilsonThomas & MarilynWinklerDudley A. WittW. F. "Pete" NicholsMildred B. NicholsRaymond JosephOsborneHappy Valley HighSchool Class of 1955Dudley D. PennellMildred Pennell ChildrenLewis PennellHenry & Janet PennellKathy StewartMildred T. PennellMildred Pennell ChildrenNancy GreerCarl & Shirley WestSharon B. PennellRon & Christine BeaneHelen PinsonReg & Carol PinsonPatsy PittsElaine BrooksVernon R. PoplinBryan, Thomas, & PatsyJohnson

Meenaxi PrasadAnonymous DonorThomas "Jack"RobbinsWhitey & ThelmaHawkinsEarl C. SandersCharles & BillieBraswellRebecca SaundersChris & Lisa Evans,Evans Funeral Service& CrematoryArmand "Jack"SchmearBecky HickokMary SetzerVaughn & IsabelleBlake & FamilyLinda CampbellClarence SmithJoan M. BoltonDarrell & Dottie LloydCaroll & Amy TuttleMike & Robin WinglerCloyde V. SmithMargaret VonRosenLola Faye SmithBernhardt Furniture Co.Betty SpenglerSharon Childers

David Stamey, Sr.Granite Contracting,LLCHudson Middle School,Faculty & StaffMt. Zion BaptistChurch, Adult II ClassTown of Sawmills:Mayor, Council, & StaffSkip & Davanna DownsJudy C. HollarsMark & Betty LarrabeeVerna McCallDoug & Terry TaylorJean TownsendMartha StapletonWorship Point BaptistChurch, Women'sSunday School ClassMaxine StoryOpal ClarkMichael StoryKeith & Peggy BlinsonCharles & BillieBraswellNovella MitchamStrongOliver W. StrongDent SullivanSteve Strange, StateFarm Insurance

Earl H. TateGinger ComptonDonald J. TaylorDoug & Terry TaylorRuby TaylorLinda CampbellJ. Wayne TeagueVicky T. SherrillWilbert "Bud" TheeDoug & Kathy TheeCharles TownsendOpal ClarkLena Faye TownsendOpal ClarkFaye VanoverRodney TaylorBillie WalkerCollier's UnitedMethodist Church,Morning CircleBradley WalkerLinda CampbellMarvin E. WalshHelen WalshFrederick H. WatersJudith L. WatersMary WatsonGeorge & Eleanor KirbyMary WatsonClover Baptist ChurchKoinonia II CouncilSkip & Davanna DownsRuth WatsonElaine BrooksThomas "Hill"WatsonLuther & Maxine SmithMillie WestMozelle Woods

Darrell WattsErica BrownLori L. WhisenantRon & Christine BeaneMike & Cheryl BowmanKeith HarrisSara M. PutzellBob WhisnantRita BalesMildred B. NicholsLuther & Maxine SmithAnn WhisenantMozelle WoodsSusan Dawn WhiteKeith & Peggy BlinsonSylvia "Jean"WinklerRita D. CheekJ.C. WrightBoyd Coffey & SonsNurseries, Inc.John's River BaptistChurch

Sand Mountain BaptistChurchShirley M. BolickTroy & Carol GraggBill & Sandy PuetteJay & Lela RupardMillie WestRebecca WrightThomas V. WrightBoyd Coffey & SonsNurseries, Inc.Pamela HouckBill & Sandy PuetteJay & Lela RupardBetty YarberMyrtle HolmesHettie YoderPaul & Sybil HagertyHelen YountSteve & Judy DealJames "Jim" YountLinda CagleSkip & Davanna DownsKeith & Susan DudleyChristine H. TeagueMillie WestPete & Millicent Yount

HONORSReba BarlowElaine BrooksNancy CampbellDennis & Mary GreeneRev. Randy ChurchWest Caldwell HighSchool Senior ClassMaggie DavisMichelle TroutmanDonald & PhyllisGrantDarrell & Dottie Lloyd

Don HollifieldMurleen G. Buchanan,P.G. Class of 1960David & DianeMcKinney, P.G. Class of1960Kelly JohnsonLenoir Fire Dept. No. 1Todd LawsLenoir Fire Dept. No. 1Dottie MetzgerElaine BrooksDeborah MurrayMike & Anita BroachJenni S. PattersonElaine BrooksRonnie & FrankieRossLou McRaryMaxine SmithLouise Thompson

John WalkerCollier's UnitedMethodist Church,Morning CircleOlan WhisnantLinda CampbellLesa WidenerWarren & Reba WaldenMary YountJudy Y. Deal

IN-KINDAbigail’s Gifts, CynthiaHicks American Legion Aux.#29Anything OfficeBerea Christian Advent,WHFMSBethel Advent ChristianChurch, WHFMCamelot Manor Nursing& Rehab. FacilityDry Ponds BaptistChurchFirst Baptist Church,Mamie Carroll GroupGrandview Park BaptistChurchHardee'sHibriten Tree CareHudson UnitedMethodist, WMUJBA Benefits, Inc.Mt. Zion BaptistChurch, WMU BibleStudy GroupPhiladelphia LutheranChurch WELCASouth Lenoir Church ofGodWC NC CESALarry Whitlock, NCHealth Horizons, LLC

Chase BannerBrittany BonnGregory BryantJoetta BumgarnerJuanita CarltonLorraine R. CloerMaggie DavisRufus EllerGladys FergusonMr. & Mrs. James C.Harper, Jr.Roger ParkerMartha ParlierMary PennellWendy PhillipsSara M. PutzellEdie SuddrethAlda Triplett

When our loved one was admitted to your facility, we could never have imagined the genuine compassion, care, and lovehe would receive from each of you during the final weeks of his life. We love you for all you gave and will never forget howyou made this experience easier to bear. —a Caldwell Hospice family member

Caldwell Hospice Recognizes Above & Beyond Recipients

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Holly Starnes, a CNA and medication technicianat Camelot Manor Nursing and Rehab Facility,was named by Caldwell Hospice and PalliativeCare as its Second Quarter 2010 Above &Beyond recipient.

“I treat our residents like I would want myfamily to be treated,” said Ms. Starnes, whohas worked at Camelot Manor for the pastthree years.

Pictured (L to R): Amy Umsted, CaldwellHospice facilities medical social worker; MaryBrittain, RN, Ms. Starnes’ supervisor at CamelotManor; A&B recipient Holly Starnes, and JudyBaire, CHPC A&B committee chairperson.

CNA and medical aide Shéri Stevens isCaldwell Hospice and Palliative Care’s ThirdQuarter 2010 Above & Beyond recipient.

“Shéri gets to know each patient/residentand family member,” wrote the CaldwellHospice staff member who nominated herfor the honor. “She makes sure eachpatient/resident gets one-on-one time.”

Pictured (L to R): Mirana Lambert, LenoirHealthCare director of nursing; ShériStevens, CNA and medical aide, and AmyUmsted, Caldwell Hospice facilities medicalsocial worker.

The 2010 Memorial Service: Remembering Patients Who Died between August 1, 2009, and July 31, 2010

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A New Caldwell Hospice Volunteer Program and More

Caldwell Hospice Volunteer Coordinator DawnCannon and Caldwell County Veterans Honor Guard(CCVHG) commanding officer Bob Scherer, who alsoserves as a Caldwell Hospice volunteer, worked fornearly six months to develop a meaningful way torecognize our patients who are veterans of militaryservice.

The new program, Veterans Honoring Veterans, wasintroduced to Caldwell Hospice staff and volunteersat a Robbins Center breakfast in early October. Theprogram included a “presentation of colors,” theplaying of “Taps,” and an explanation of how therecognition service will be presented to patients.

When patients are admitted to Caldwell Hospice,their social workers will ask them or their primarycaregiver about military service, including branch ofservice. A military veteran volunteer will beassigned, if available. Service information will beincluded in those patients’ charts, etc.

Volunteer Coordinator Dawn Cannon will arrangewith the veterans group, the patients, and theirfamilies a time to meet—it can be informal or theycan invite their families to be present, if they wish.They will receive a certificate identifying theirservice branch, an American flag lapel pin, and asmall American flag.

Caldwell Hospice maintain a strong connection withthe area churches. At the Ambassador volunteers’quarterly lunch meeting, Tony Deal and MikeBenson provided the music. Caldwell HospiceChaplain Nancy Campbell, Volunteer CoordinatorDawn Cannon, and Volunteer Support SpecialistCrystal Burch provided assignments for the nextquarter, and everyone enjoyed a delicious meal.

Pictured below are our October adult volunteertraining workshops participants (standing, L to R): Martha June, Judy Kilby, David Vance,Shana Kilby, Alice Whisnant, Lois Hunt, AnneBartlett, Jean Plunk, Beth Nichols, Bruce Cornett,Gail Barlow, Greg Craig, Wayne Roper, and CarlaMcGinnis; (seated, L to R) Kesha Dula, CrystalKirby, Michelle Crisp, Karen Brown, Jeanie Ahrens,Sally Lindsay, and Sherri Austin. Not pictured areTammy Wilson and Becky Wilson. Our next trainingworkshops have been scheduled for February2011.

Pictured above (standing, L to R): David Bentley, Jimmy Rader, EddieSummerlin, and Wayne Bumgardner, representing the Caldwell CountyVeterans Honor Guard; Caldwell Hospice veteran volunteers LarryRichardson, Ray Hammerick, and Donald Sanders; (kneeling, L to R)Caldwell Hospice veteran volunteers Bob Scherer, Bud Brown, and BudFaw.

Ambassador volunteers serve as liaisons betweentheir churches and Caldwell Hospice. They gothrough a special volunteer training program, meetwith us quarterly, and inform their congregationsabout upcoming programs (I Just Want to Help,etc.), special events (our annual memorial service,for example), and special needs (Wish List items,etc.). These volunteers are instrumental in helping

Clockwise (from top right):Ambassadors enjoy fellowship withlunch; Tony Deal and Mike Bensonoffer music and stories; CHPCChaplain Nancy Campbell talks withAmbassadors; volunteer BarbaraJones serves lunch for the group.

The Art Cart. Caldwell Hospice received a specialdonation from Shirley Story and the Brush &Palette Club recently. The art cart, given inmemory of Shirley's mother, contains a widevariety of arts and crafts supplies for the use ofour patients, their families, and their children.

Trained volunteers in the Forlines Patient Care Unitat the Robbins Center wheel the art cart intopatients’ rooms when they visit with patients andfamilies. Responses have been positive. During thefirst week, a patient mentioned her desire for asketch pad and pencil. When the volunteerreturned with a pad and pencil, the patientproclaimed it "the best day ever!"

“I just love taking the art cart to patients,” saysCaldwell Hospice volunteer Linda Watson. “Patientsenjoy it, whether they are creating crafts orinstructing me in making crafts for them.” Lindahas helped patients make bracelets, necklaces, andgift cards. They seem especially interested in the“letter beads,” she says. “Patients like having theirnames on the crafts they make” for themselves or

for their loved ones.

The Brush & Palette Club will keep the art cartstocked with arts and crafts supplies.

The Activities Cart. Patients who may notconsider themselves to be “crafty” will have thebenefit of another recent gift for Caldwell Hospice.The "activities cart" is stocked to overflowing withgames, puzzles, etc., including Dominoes, Monoply,Scrabble, checkers, playing cards, crosswordpuzzles, and Sudoko.

Volunteers are happy to take the activities cart topatients' rooms, the family living room, and thesun rooms in the Forlines PCU.

The cart was stocked and donated by volunteerBarbara Jones in memory of her husband, BillJones, who died on the PCU at Kirkwood.

"Bill was a loving, caring person," Barbara says,"and he would be tickled to know that families,during hard emotional times, can find relief andenjoyment” when a Caldwell Hospice volunteerwheels the activities cart their way.

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Snack foods (ind.-size cakes,cookies, etc.) for patients’familiesInd.-size cereals & soupsApplesauceArtificial sweetener (Equal, etc.)Dishwashing clothsPaper towelsNapkinsAluminum foilStorage bags (quart & gallonsizes)

Coffee (cans, regular & decaf)Styrofoam coffee cups (8-oz.)Solo cups (16-oz. for soft drinks,tea, etc.)Paper plates and bowlsPlastic spoons and forksLarge boxes tissuesBaby wipes, unscented (refillpacks)Liquid soap (8-oz. bottles, etc.)Lotion (personal size)Deodorant (personal size)

Toothpaste (travel size)MouthwashNail clippersDisposable camerasHair brushes Bath towels (white only)Batteries: AA, AAA, and 9-volt Amazon.com gift cards forteen/children grief books, music,& resourcesMusic CDs (instrumental, gospel,inspirational, meditation, etc.)

2010 Wish List

Introducing Caldwell Hospice’s Art and Activities Carts

Pictured (L to R): The Brush & Palette Club has donated an “art cart” in memory of Connie O’Neill; close-up view of assorted games andpuzzles stored on the “activities cart,” donated in memory of Bill Jones, a Caldwell Hospice patient; Forlines PCU resident/patient Mack Wallplays cards with volunTEEN Caroline Haas.

Notes from Ashewood Grief and Counseling Services:Planning for the Holidays after a Loss

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Getting through theholiday season can bedifficult for manypeople, but for thosewho are living with theloss of a loved one, itcan be especially hard.

For many families, theholidays call attentionto the absence of theperson they have lostor someone who willnot be with them nextyear. Finding a copingstrategy before theholiday season canhelp. The followingsuggestions cannottake away all the grief, but during a time of theyear when everyone around you is full of holidaycheer, you may find some solace in them:

Be patient and realistic. Plan ahead so that youare not overwhelmed by responsibilities at the lastmoment. When you are grieving, it is difficult tomake decisions, so make lists. Set priorities.Decide what is important to you this holidayseason.

Acknowledge your limits. Become aware of yourneeds and express them to family and friends.

Have a family meeting. Decide together what'simportant to each of you, what you want to do thisyear, what you can let go of, and what you can dodifferently.

Remember: it is okay to say “no.” Don’t feelobligated to accept every invitation that comesyour way. Do what you can this holiday season,and let that be enough. Don’t try to tackle all thedecorations, entertaining, and cooking.

Incorporate your loved one into the holidays.Keep traditions alive in ways that bring comfort.Encourage the family members to share memoriesof how the person who died contributed to makingthe holidays special, while creating an atmospherethat welcomes discussion and supports thememories of what made that person so special.

Help others. Caring for and giving to others willnourish you, sustain you, and help you to feelbetter about yourself.

• Take a meal to a homebound couple. • Volunteer in a shelter or soup kitchen. • "Adopt" a family and buy presents or food for.

You may be facing the holidays with dread, but ifyou can plan and allow time for the grief andshared memories, you might find joy and laughterin the midst of sadness and tears.

Remember, too, that the staff of Ashewood Griefand Counseling Services is available to help youduring the holidays and throughout the year:754.0101.

Caldwell Hospice ishappy to introduce ournew counselor, JessicaHatton. She left herhometown of Winston-Salem, NC, to completeher undergraduatestudies at AppalachianState University,earning a Bachelor ofScience degree inSociology and Religion.

During Jessica’s sopho-more year at ASU, an introductory Sociologycourse and the professor who taught it inspired herinterest in counseling as a career choice. Throughcounseling, she says, she can help people duringtimes of crisis and the turning points in their lives.

After graduating from ASU, Jessica moved toDallas, TX. She lived there for four years andearned her Master’s degree in Counseling fromDallas Theological Seminary. The young man shehad begun dating at ASU moved to Texas to workon his Master’s degree, as well. They married whilein graduate school and returned to North Carolina.

Jessica’s professional experience includes workingin churches and in private practices, with specialattention to anxiety and depression, women'sissues, and marriage counseling. She has hadaddiction training, as well.

Free time for Jessica includes reading, learning newthings, gardening, cooking, watching football,working out, and spending time outdoors.

Please join us in welcoming Jessica and hercounseling skills to Caldwell Hospice.

We wish you the peace which passeth all understanding.

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Volunteer Spotlight: Marc Carpenter

The first things many people notice when theymeet Marc Carpenter are his kind smile and gentledemeanor. These are desirable traits in a personwho has spent 30 years in human resources atBroyhill Furniture Industries and who has served asa Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care boardmember for more than 18 years.

Marc Carpenter was invited to join CaldwellHospice’s board when Tony Deal, who was on theboard at that time and who Marc knew fromCCC&TI, explained that the board would benefit,when making personnel decisions, from someonewith human resources experience. Marc knew verylittle about hospice programs, but what he hadheard about Caldwell Hospice was positive. He wasflattered to be considered, he says.

Over the past 18 years, Marc has enjoyed partici-pating on the personnel committee, seeing CaldwellHospice’s growth, and contributing to this specialorganization. He says it has never felt burdensomebecause what he gives is more than balanced bywhat he gets: “If I can contribute something, I’mglad to do it.”

Marc identifies the most exciting part of his boardexperience so far as the board’s decision topurchase land and expand Caldwell Hospice’s facili-ties to include the 12-bed patient care unit at theRobbins Center. He says the board looked closely atthe figures, as the census for Kirkwood’s six-bedpatient care unit increased from 5.5 to 6.1, whichmeant that as soon as a bed became available, itwas filled. “Are we not meeting the community’sneeds any more?” was the big question thatneeded to be answered.

With the additional facility in Hudson, Marc saysthe board is confident that “we serve the countybetter.”

Marc is a Caldwell County native. He grew up on asmall farm on Collettsville Road, attended LenoirHigh School, and CCC&TI, where he met his wife,the former Bennie Wilson from Hudson, whosefather Boyd ran the hardware store in Hudson.

Marc earned a bachelor’s degree in businessadministration and marketing from AppalachianState University, and he served in the NorthCarolina National Guard/US Army Reserve, havinggraduated as a commissioned second lieutenantfrom the NC Military Academy.

Another volunteer commitment close to Marc’sheart is the Community in Schools program. Hebelieves firmly that the genuine encouragementoffered by a caring adult can be the difference foran at-risk young person.

In his spare time, Marc enjoys yardwork, frommowing to working in flower beds to pruningduring winter months. He reads everything: HarryPotter books, a biography of Stonewall Jackson,books related to his job, classics such as TheInvisible Man and Moby Dick, John Grisham novels,and The Hobbit. It is not surprising that Marcenjoys woodworking, given his years in the furni-ture industry. He has made a few pieces of furni-ture and does projects around the house, includingtrays that slide out of cabinets.

Marc’s essential rule is that “I will not lie to anyemployee.” Believing in integrity, he has tried to behonest and sincere in dealing with people for threedecades, with employees at Broyhill, with theteenagers in Sunday school classes he has taught,and in conversations with his daughters, both ofwhom are now grown and successful in theirprofessional and personal lives.

This is Marc Carpenter.

Pictured (L to R): With Caldwell Hospice Executive Director Cathy Swanson and wife Bennie Carpenter at Robbins Center open house, July 2010; Marcat work; with fellow board member Janet Wilson at Caldwell Hospice’s 25th anniversary celebration in 2007.

Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care, Inc.Companions for the Journey902 Kirkwood Street, NWLenoir, NC 28645www.caldwellhospice.org

NONPROFITORGANIZATIONUS POSTAGE PAIDPERMIT NO. 272LENOIR, NC

In This IssueMove-in Day at Forlines PCU......1

From the Director’s Chair:Renovation Update.....................2

A Moment with Dr. Belk: Living Wills, etc..........................3

Contributions..........................4-7

Above & Beyond Awards.............9

News from Our Volunteer

Program....................................10

Wish List...................................11

Planning for the Holidays after a

Loss..........................................12

Board Spotlight:

Marc Carpenter.........................13

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IN-KINDMEMORIALSWilliam AnnasPriscilla AnnasVertie AustinPatricia ChurchJorge Barrientos, Sr.Jorge Barrientos FamilyJorge Barrientos, Jr.Harley Ray Bentley, Sr.Jeraldean BentleyFlossie ChurchDawn ColeBeatrice H. CrouchRev. Horace MintonGenoise DavidsonSandra KennyAlma HornDavid & Mary RuthHornMerance LaFlammeJanet StevensonStuart MaltbaJeanette MaltbaMarie McCarsonJohn McCarsonLockie D. McCroskeyTony McCroskey

Judy RobertsAdam NicholsGladys SaylorJimmy SaylorDarrell WattsSusan SkinnerLori L. WhisenantP.J. Spencer

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Contributions

Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care,Inc., gratefully acknowledgesmemorials and contributions receivedbetween 01 May and 31 July 2010.Please notify us if we have omitted adonation from this listing.Contributions received after 31 July2010 will be listed in our Winter 2010issue.

Newsletter mailing list policy.Carelines is published four times ayear. Each person who makes a contri-bution to our hospice during the sixmonths prior to a mailing will receivethe next two issues. Individuals mayask to be placed on our “do notremove” mailing list; in that case, theywill continue to receive the newsletterevery quarter.

We offer a special thank-you to the people listed below who designated their Burke County United Way contributions for Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care:

Sheila CannonKathy LevittJulia McAbee

Randall PresnellDebra WoodardVernon Yount

The Concerned BikersAssociation, in conjunc-tion with Tommy’s SportsBar & Grill in Lenoir, heldits first annual Ride forCaldwell Hospice andPalliative Care. Inaddition to the Ride, thegroup held a bake saleand auction and donatedall the proceeds—over$3,000 at the September2010 event—to CaldwellHospice. Plans for nextyear’s Ride are underway.

Local Group Raises $3,000 for Caldwell Hospice

Kirkwood Renovation Looks Like This

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Not a square foot of space has been leftuntouched at Kirkwood, as our renovationcontinues: new paint colors, furniture, andequipment; reroofing, better drainage,improved decks, and new steps to theCarriage House; reconfigured office spacesand a refurbished patient care unit teamcenter—a beautiful and more functionalKirkwood facility.