THEEXPERIENCIN

GOF FEELING

This chapter was first given as a talk to a meeting at Oberlin College in 1954. I was trying to pull together in more completely organized form, some of the conceptions of therapy which had been growing in me. I have revised it slightly.As in customary with me, I was trying to keep my thinking close to the grass roots of actual experience in therapeutic interviews, so I drew heavily upon recorded interviews as the source of generalizations which I make.

ABOUT MY CHAPTER

In our daily lives there are thousands and one reasons for not letting ourselves experience our attitudes fully.It seems too dangerous to experience them freely and fully.

In safety and freedom of therapeutic relationships, they can be experienced fully, clear to the limit what they are.

Experienced in a fashion I like to think of as a “pure culture”, so that for the moment the person is his fear, or he is his anger, or whatever.

DISCOVERY OF SELF

A young man, a graduate student who is deep in therapy, has been puzzling over a vague feeling which he senses

in himself.

He gradually it as a frightened feeling of some kind, a fear of failing, a fear of

not getting his Ph.D.

EXAMPLE FROM A CLIENT

INTERVIEW

Here he is, for a moment, experiencing himself as nothing but a pleading little boy, supplicating, begging, dependent.

At the moment he is nothing but his pleading, all the way through

He realizes that this has bubbled through, and for the moment he is his dependency, in a way which astonishes him.

What I have gradually learned from experiences such as this, is that the individual in such a moment, is coming to be what he is.

When a person has, throughout therapy, experienced in this fashion all the emotions which organismically arise in him, and has experienced them in this knowing and open manner ,then has experienced himself.

CONCLUSION