Ever think that if you hear yourself say, “No!” or “Don’t!” one more time, your nerves might truly fry? The truth is, every parent, grandpar-ent, guardian, teacher, and coach faces that same frustration at some point. If you sense your attempts at positive dis-cipline aren’t working or you just need to ramp up your discipline approach, try this perspective makeover.

Rather than focusing on the verbal “do’s” and “don’ts” inherent in disci-pline, focus on the

greater impact you’ll have in modeling the kind of behavior you’d like to see from your kids. Think of how Jesus instructed his disciples. Sometimes he gave ver-bal direction, but most importantly, he lived the way he wanted the disci-ples to live. He gave them compelling exam-ples to follow, and he willingly talked them through why he was do-ing what he was. Exam-ine the nonverbal mes-sages you send your kids about their behavior choices, and ask your-self whether those mes-

sages line up with your words. Aligning the two will make a big differ-ence.

The Disciple in Discipline

“The words discipline and discipleship both come from the Latin word discere meaning ‘to learn.’ When you provide calm, inten-tional discipline you create a space where kids can dive into learning. But even better, you model God’s patient love and disciple children to know, love, and follow Jesus.”

Special points of

interest:

* Children’s Musical June 9

∗ VBS June 23-27

∗ Upward Soccer Evalua-

tions August 3,8,10

∗ Upward begins Aug. 19

∗ JAM begins Sept. 22

Lunch (or Dinner) and a Movie June 15

Make plans for

your child to at-

t e n d o u r

“Lunch (or

Dinner) and a

Movie” event on June 15.

This event is for those

children currently in the

3rd-6th grade. The cost

will be $12 which includes

the cost of the movie and

a meal at CiCi’s pizza.

Right now we are plan-

ning to see the movie

‘Epic’.

If you would like to see

the reviews on the movie

go to:

http://

www.pluggedin.com/

movies/intheaters/

epic.aspx

Your child will have to

sign up by Wednesday,

June 12 through the

church office. We will

know exact details by

Wednesday, June 12.

Discipleship 1

Durham Bulls Game 2

Meal and a Movie 1

Media Madness

5

Stats and Culture

5

Root of Misbehavior 2

Upward Info 3,4

Summer at a Glance 6

Inside this issue:

A Fresh Perspective On Discipleship June

Through

August

Children’s Activities

On Friday, July 12 children and

families at Piney Grove Baptist

are invited to go to the ball

game! We will leave the church

at 5:30 pm and travel by bus.

We will return approximately

around 11 pm. We are asking

that parents attend this event

with their children. Parents will

be responsible for chaperoning

their own children. This event is

for children of all ages. The cost

is $9 per ticket and any food will

be on your own at the stadium.

Bus space is limited to the first

40 that sign up so don’t delay in

paying for your tickets as early

as you can. You can sign up for

this event through the church

office or by contacting Alex Gon-

zalez.

LET’S PLAY BALL!!!LET’S PLAY BALL!!!LET’S PLAY BALL!!!LET’S PLAY BALL!!!

Children & Families Durham Bulls

Baseball Game July 12

move on. Proactively give at-tention to positive behaviors verbally and with nods and smiles.

2. BOREDOM: Children not involved in an engaging activ-ity will find something interest-ing to do—which can often resu l t in misbehavior .

Solution: Plan ahead and provide your kids with options for activities that engage all five senses. Tapping into all the senses is a quick way to captivate kids’ attention while providing an effective learning environment—kids learn best when all their senses are in-volved. This does mean extra planning on your part, but the upside is you can always re-peat some of your kids’ favor-ite activities as you discover them together. Safe, interest-ing activities for your kids

frees you to get some to do’s crossed off your list without needing to turn on the TV.

3. CONFUSION: Fuzzy rules, lax or inconsistent enforce-ment, and no consequences are guaranteed to spark mis-behavior. Kids get confused: Do the rules matter or not?

Solution: Establish clear household rules and expecta-tions for your kids (and the adults, too) in your household. Remember, you set an exam-ple with your behavior. Con-sistency and fairness are your greatest allies.

The Root of

Misbehavior

All children misbehave; it’s a natural part of their develop-ment. As you lovingly correct their behavior, kids learn how to conduct themselves appro-priately—with or without you there to keep watch. Here are three common reasons chil-dren misbehave (and solu-tions for each), adapted from Group’s Children’s Ministry

Pocket Guide to Discipline.

1. ATTENTION: Kids crave attention—and not just yours. If acting up earns friends’ or siblings’ attention and ap-plause, kids won’t mind risking y o u r d i s p l e a s u r e .

Solution: Don’t reinforce mis-behavior with too much atten-tion; briefly address it, and

Whoever heeds discipline shows the way to life, but whoever ignores correction leads others astray.”—Proverbs 10:17

“Kids crave

attention and not

just yours.”

Quick Stat A recent study conducted in

Great Britain reveals that

kids ask their mothers

nearly 3,000 questions—per

day! (childrensministry.com)

SOCCER 2013

June 23-27 6:30-8:30 pm

Closing Celebration Service on June 30 @ 11am

TEACHABLE MOMENT

Now I See: In your house, backyard, or at a local park, set up an obstacle course with ob-jects of various sizes without your kids seeing it. After the course is ready, explain to your kids that the goal is to get through the obsta-cle course without running into any of the ob-jects—while blindfolded. You’ll guide them with these directions:

• Tap on the left shoulder = a left turn

• Tap on the right shoulder = a right turn

• Tap on the knees = crawl on hands and knees

• Tap on both shoulders = a BIG step over an object

After blindfolding your kids, take them one at a time through the course. Once they’re through, ask:

• Why was paying attention to what I told you important to get through the course? • How was this experience like or unlike

when I ask you to behave or follow rules?

Discuss how your rules in their lives are meant to keep them safe.

MEDIA MADNESS

QUICK STATS

• 73% of kids ages 6 to 11 say learning to share, be kind, and help others is just as important for life success as learning to read, write, and do math. (prnewswire.com)

• 85% of kids say they’ve lis-tened to music with parents in the last week. (Youthbeat, C+R Research)

• One in 10 new fathers ex-periences postpartum de-pression. The risk peaks when babies are between 3 and 6 months old. (online.wsj.com)

* More dads-to-be are be ing toasted at “Dadchelor” parties, for one last male-bonding hurrah before diaper duty begins. (ABC News) * Bike helmets are be-

coming so trendy that kids won’t argue about wearing them. New “lids” look like brains,

CULTURE & TRENDS

disco balls, unicorns, and more. Accessories such as mohawk strips also make head protec-tion look extra cool.

GAMES, SITES & APPS

Title Content Rating & Platform

Scribblenauts

Unlimited

Kids problem-solve their way through the game by

spelling out the objects they need to complete each

challenge.

E for everyone by the ESRB. Ages 10 and up. Prices vary for Nintendo WiiU, 3Ds, PC.

National Geographic for Kids

A great place for kids to explore the world from home and find inspiration for science projects, recipes, and more.

Content for ages 3 to 14. kids.nationalgeographic.com

Swapsies Occupations

A fun game that boosts cognitive learning for your little ones as they mix and match items from 10 occupations.

Best for ages 4 to 6. Winner of Parents’ Choice Award. $2.99 at iTunes, for iPad, iPhone.

This page is designed to help educate parents and isn’t meant to endorse any movie, music, or product. Our prayer is that you’ll make

informed decisions about what your children watch, listen to, and play.

MUSIC

Artist: Jason Dunn Album: Abandon Progress (Releases 5/14/2013)

Artist Info: Dunn was lead vocalist and founding member of the Christian rock band, Hawk Nelson, and has recently turned his focus to his first solo album.

Summary: The album features songs with the fun pop/punk sound Hawk Nelson fans love, mixed with contemplative, soul-ful tunes like the single, “Second Chances”—currently available on iTunes. Our Take: The musical style and Dunn’s voice offer a sound that many kids enjoy—particularly preteen boys. Dunn is a young, influential man singing with a positive Christian message. This is “punk” music—minus the punk.

2013 Children’s Summer Schedule at a Glance

June 2

RA’s and GA’s recognition service @ 6 pm

June 9

Children’s Musical @ 6 pm

June 15 (3rd- 6th grade)

Lunch and a Movie! Or dinner and a movie

12-4? 2-6? $12 per person

June 23-27

Vacation Bible School

June 30

VBS Celebration Service @ 11 am

July 12 (All Children)

Children and Families

Durham Bulls Game

5:30-11pm $9 per person

August 3, 8, 10

Upward Soccer Evaluations

August 19

Upward Soccer practices begin

Jam Worship

Practice Begins Sept. 8

Begins again September 22 @ 11 am service

3217 Piney Grove Wilbon Rd. Fuquay Varina, NC 27526 * 919-552-3522

www. pineygrovebc.org