Chpt 3Chpt 3

Outline Building Strong Outline Building Strong Families p70Families p70

Lesson 1Lesson 1 The Context for The Context for Parentingp71Parentingp71

Objectives:Objectives: Describe the functions of the familyDescribe the functions of the family Identify the basic needs of children and how Identify the basic needs of children and how

parents meet those needs.parents meet those needs. Compare different types of family structures.Compare different types of family structures. List the stages of the family life cycle.List the stages of the family life cycle. Describe trends that affect families.Describe trends that affect families. List sources of support that are available to List sources of support that are available to

families.families. Identify ways people can help build strong Identify ways people can help build strong

families.families.

Lesson 1Lesson 1 The Context for The Context for Parentingp71Parentingp71

TermsTerms Nuclear familyNuclear family Single-parent familySingle-parent family Custodial parentCustodial parent Blended familyBlended family Extended familyExtended family Legal guardianLegal guardian Foster childrenFoster children IntergenerationalIntergenerational

Functions of the Family p71Functions of the Family p71

Meeting the Basic NeedsMeeting the Basic Needs Physical Needs: Physical Needs: Food, clothing, shelter, health, safetyFood, clothing, shelter, health, safety Social and Emotional needsSocial and Emotional needs Living in a family teaches how to share, Living in a family teaches how to share,

take turns, work toward common goals, take turns, work toward common goals, love, and be loved.love, and be loved.

Meeting the Basic Needs contMeeting the Basic Needs cont

Intellectual needsIntellectual needs

Teach children, helps schools teach Teach children, helps schools teach children, provide expectations re children, provide expectations re education, provide support, help get education, provide support, help get students involved in school and students involved in school and educational activities.educational activities.

Preparing Children to Live in Preparing Children to Live in Society p71Society p71

““All I Really Need to Know I Learned in All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten.” Kindergarten.”

By Robert FulghumBy Robert Fulghum

The basic rules of life are learned in The basic rules of life are learned in kindergarten such as:kindergarten such as:

““share everything,”share everything,”

““play fair,” and play fair,” and

““don’t hit people.”don’t hit people.”

Adults pass the basic rules of Adults pass the basic rules of life to us in 3 ways:life to us in 3 ways:

Through example.Through example. Through communication.Through communication. Through religious training. Through religious training.

Learn the principles of what is right and Learn the principles of what is right and wrongwrong

Other things adults teach us:Other things adults teach us:

Art, music, cooking, clothing styles, views Art, music, cooking, clothing styles, views about work and play also about society.about work and play also about society.

Traditions such as holidaysTraditions such as holidays Demonstrate appropriate behavior and Demonstrate appropriate behavior and

language as well as how we talk to adults.language as well as how we talk to adults.

Family Structure p73Family Structure p73

Nuclear Family=2 parents and at least 1 childNuclear Family=2 parents and at least 1 child Single-Parent Family=one parent and child(ren)Single-Parent Family=one parent and child(ren)

D/T - Never married, divorce, deathD/T - Never married, divorce, deathChallengesChallenges

• Little free timeLittle free time• No one to share chores, responsibilitiesNo one to share chores, responsibilities• Less incomeLess income• Rely on family, friendsRely on family, friends• Stressful, challengingStressful, challenging• Custodial Parent (one with primary custody) shares children Custodial Parent (one with primary custody) shares children

with the non-custodial parent.with the non-custodial parent.

Family Structure p73 contFamily Structure p73 cont..

Blended Families=someone with children Blended Families=someone with children remarriesremarries

Extended Families=parent(s), child, and other Extended Families=parent(s), child, and other relatives such as grandparents, aunts, uncles relatives such as grandparents, aunts, uncles etc.etc.

Some cultures like the Japanese find Some cultures like the Japanese find this this very common. 70% of the grandparents very common. 70% of the grandparents

live with their children.live with their children.

In our country the Amish practice this a lot.In our country the Amish practice this a lot.

Joining a Family p74Joining a Family p74

Children can join families in many waysChildren can join families in many ways.. Legal Guardian=appointed by the court to Legal Guardian=appointed by the court to

assume responsibility for raising the child.assume responsibility for raising the child. Adoption=The child would have the same Adoption=The child would have the same

rights as a biological child.rights as a biological child. Foster Children=people temporarily take Foster Children=people temporarily take

car of the child while parents solve their car of the child while parents solve their problems or until adoptive parents are problems or until adoptive parents are found.found.

Family Life Cycle p76Family Life Cycle p76

Beginning StageBeginning StageCouples establish a home and Couples establish a home and

relationshiprelationship Parental Stage 1 (Expanding Stage)Parental Stage 1 (Expanding Stage)

Prepares for and adjusts to parenthoodPrepares for and adjusts to parenthood Parental Stage 2 Developing Stage)Parental Stage 2 Developing Stage)

Parents work to support children’s Parents work to support children’s changing needs and help children dev changing needs and help children dev independence.independence.

Family Life Cycle p76 cont.Family Life Cycle p76 cont.

Parental Stage 3 (Launching Stage)Parental Stage 3 (Launching Stage)Children gradually leave home and Children gradually leave home and

parents help them get established.parents help them get established. Middle AgeMiddle Age

Couple renews their relationships Couple renews their relationships and and prepares for retirement.prepares for retirement.

RetirementRetirementCouple stops working and adjusts to Couple stops working and adjusts to spending more time together spending more time together

Trends Affecting Families p77Trends Affecting Families p77

MobilityMobilityPeople don’t always live near where People don’t always live near where they grew up.they grew up.They rely on themselves, friends, and They rely on themselves, friends, and neighbors.neighbors.

Aging PopulationAging PopulationAdvances in medicine, nutrition, Advances in medicine, nutrition, Intergenerational=relationships Intergenerational=relationships

between younger and older peoplebetween younger and older people

Trends Affecting Families Trends Affecting Families p77cont.p77cont.

Fluctuations in the EconomyFluctuations in the EconomyBoth parents work, smaller families, Both parents work, smaller families,

starting starting families later in life, the demand for families later in life, the demand for child child care has risen.care has risen.

Workplace changes Workplace changes Manufacturing jobs declinedManufacturing jobs declinedJobs in technology and healthcare have Jobs in technology and healthcare have

increasedincreasedWorkers continue to need educationWorkers continue to need educationMore people working from homeMore people working from home

Trends Affecting Families Trends Affecting Families p77cont.p77cont.

TechnologyTechnologyMake family life easier and more Make family life easier and more

complicatedcomplicatedCellular phones, internet, Cellular phones, internet, Need to protect children from these Need to protect children from these itemsitemsTend to isolate people – children sit Tend to isolate people – children sit and do this rather than talk and playand do this rather than talk and play

Mobility Assignment Mobility Assignment Mobility Research 30 ptsMobility Research 30 pts

1. Research trends in mobility during the last three decades (30 1. Research trends in mobility during the last three decades (30 yrs).yrs).2. Which areas of the country have been experiencing an influx in 2. Which areas of the country have been experiencing an influx in

population?population?3. Draw conclusions as to why individuals are moving to these 3. Draw conclusions as to why individuals are moving to these locations.locations.**Attach internet resources used or assignment not accepted.**Attach internet resources used or assignment not accepted.Scoring GuideScoring GuideQuestion answeredQuestion answered15 pts15 ptsConclusions drawnConclusions drawn15 pts15 ptsMechanics (capitalization, spelling, grammar all correct) Mechanics (capitalization, spelling, grammar all correct) -1/2 pt -1/2 pt each erroreach errorTotal PointsTotal Points 30 pts30 pts

Life Span AssignmentLife Span Assignment

Life Span 30 ptsLife Span 30 pts1. Research the average life span of 1. Research the average life span of

males and females in this country over males and females in this country over the past five decades (50 yrs).the past five decades (50 yrs).

2. Create a line graph to display this data. 2. Create a line graph to display this data. 3. Label the graph as well as the (x) and (y) axis 3. Label the graph as well as the (x) and (y) axis

appropriately. appropriately. 4. Indicate which line represents males and 4. Indicate which line represents males and

which represents females.which represents females.**Attach internet resources used or assignment not accepted.**Attach internet resources used or assignment not accepted. Scoring GuideScoring Guide Life graph created and labeled accurately Life graph created and labeled accurately 2020 Both males and females represented with their own lineBoth males and females represented with their own line 1010 Mechanics (capitalization, spelling, grammar all correct) Mechanics (capitalization, spelling, grammar all correct) -1/2 pt each -1/2 pt each

errorerror Total PointsTotal Points 3030

A Strong Family doesn’t “just” A Strong Family doesn’t “just” happen.happen.

Sources of Family Support p79Sources of Family Support p79 Relatives, friends, neighbors, co-workers, Relatives, friends, neighbors, co-workers,

doctors, counselors, social workers, doctors, counselors, social workers, ministers, support groups, social services, ministers, support groups, social services,

Building a Strong Family p 80Building a Strong Family p 80 It isn’t easy – it’s WORKIt isn’t easy – it’s WORK Just living and being together doesn’t Just living and being together doesn’t

make it happen.make it happen.

How do you build a strong How do you build a strong family?family?

Assignment – How do you build a strong family?Assignment – How do you build a strong family? Use the internet, magazines, your text, and other Use the internet, magazines, your text, and other

resources you like to answer this question. resources you like to answer this question. How do How do you build a strong family?you build a strong family?

Write a paper explaining your answer.Write a paper explaining your answer. Share your findings with the class.Share your findings with the class. When using the internet key in the following: “how to When using the internet key in the following: “how to

build a strong family” and “characteristics of a strong build a strong family” and “characteristics of a strong family.”family.”

A couple websites you can explore are: A couple websites you can explore are: http://uniforfamilies.unl.eduhttp://uniforfamilies.unl.edu www.ca.uky.edu/agc/pubs/fcs7www.ca.uky.edu/agc/pubs/fcs7

Assignment – How do you build Assignment – How do you build a strong family? conta strong family? cont

Top margin 1 ½ inches maximum Top margin 1 ½ inches maximum Side margins 1 inch Side margins 1 inch

Bottom margin 1 inch Font #14Bottom margin 1 inch Font #14

Scoring GuideScoring Guide Question adequately answered.Question adequately answered. 20 pts20 pts At least 6 factors to support your answer.At least 6 factors to support your answer. 60 pts60 pts Your paper should be at least 2 pages typedYour paper should be at least 2 pages typed 20 pts20 pts Mechanics (grammar, capitalization, Mechanics (grammar, capitalization,

punctuation correct) -1/2 pt each mistakepunctuation correct) -1/2 pt each mistake Total PointsTotal Points 100 pts100 pts

Assignment – How do you build Assignment – How do you build a strong family? conta strong family? cont

**Attach the assignment sheet with scoring **Attach the assignment sheet with scoring guide to your paper. Failure to attach it guide to your paper. Failure to attach it will result in a 10 pt deduction.will result in a 10 pt deduction.

**Site your resources by copying and **Site your resources by copying and pasting the url or include your MLA pasting the url or include your MLA documentation. Papers will not be documentation. Papers will not be accepted without it, resulting in a “zero” for accepted without it, resulting in a “zero” for your grade.your grade.

Building A Strong FamilyBuilding A Strong Family

Involve such things as:Involve such things as: TraditionsTraditions Shared valuesShared values Handling family conflictsHandling family conflicts

Forming Traditions p80Forming Traditions p80

Time together - special and everyday activities vacation, meals, Time together - special and everyday activities vacation, meals,

Provide a sense of continuity, understanding and appreciation Provide a sense of continuity, understanding and appreciation

Opportunities for families to have funOpportunities for families to have fun

Establish good memories that carry them through rough timesEstablish good memories that carry them through rough times

Provide a family with time together to Provide a family with time together to communicate, heal from loss, communicate, heal from loss,

adapt to new events adapt to new events affirm family values, affirm family values, celebratecelebrateconnect to the pastconnect to the past

Forming Traditions p80Forming Traditions p80

3 types of traditions3 types of traditions

1.1. Celebrations (special events, holidays, Celebrations (special events, holidays, birthdays)birthdays)

2.2. Family traditions (special activities, Family traditions (special activities, vacations, reunions)vacations, reunions)

3.3. Patterned family interactions (centered Patterned family interactions (centered around daily routines – meals, bedtime)around daily routines – meals, bedtime)

ValuesValues Beliefs held by individuals, families, communities Beliefs held by individuals, families, communities

or societiesor societies Include feelings about the importance of Include feelings about the importance of

acceptable behavior in terms of:acceptable behavior in terms of:HonestyHonestyRespectRespectResponsibilityResponsibilityFriendlinessFriendlinessKindness Kindness ToleranceTolerance

Values cont.Values cont.

Values that parents pass to children are Values that parents pass to children are those of their parents and based on their those of their parents and based on their life experiences and religious beliefs.life experiences and religious beliefs.

Society also helps shape family valuesSociety also helps shape family values

Assignment p82Assignment p82 Review the Section Questions 1-7Review the Section Questions 1-7

Handling Family Conflict p81Handling Family Conflict p81

Keep Cool Keep Cool Be an active listenerBe an active listener Use positive body language.Use positive body language.

Section 2 Effective Parenting Section 2 Effective Parenting Skills p83Skills p83

Objectives:Objectives: Identify the basic types of children’s needs.Identify the basic types of children’s needs. Describe the three parenting styles and some Describe the three parenting styles and some

characteristics each.characteristics each. Give examples of effective techniques for encouraging Give examples of effective techniques for encouraging

appropriate behavior.appropriate behavior. Explain how to set limits and why they are importantExplain how to set limits and why they are important Identify ways of dealing with inappropriate behavior.Identify ways of dealing with inappropriate behavior. Explain the importance of consistency when guiding Explain the importance of consistency when guiding

children.children.

Section 2 Effective Parenting Section 2 Effective Parenting Skills p83Skills p83

TermsTerms DeprivationDeprivation Parenting styleParenting style GuidanceGuidance Self-disciplineSelf-discipline ConscienceConscience Positive reinforcementPositive reinforcement Negative reinforcementNegative reinforcement Time outTime out

Meeting Children’s Needs p83Meeting Children’s Needs p83 Physical NeedsPhysical Needs

Food, shelter, clothing, safetyFood, shelter, clothing, safety Emotional and Social NeedsEmotional and Social Needs

Safe, loved, cared forSafe, loved, cared for Intellectual NeedsIntellectual Needs

Opportunity to learnOpportunity to learn

DeprivationDeprivation=failure to meet critical needs and =failure to meet critical needs and failure to provide an environment where the failure to provide an environment where the physical, emotional and intellectual needs are physical, emotional and intellectual needs are met.met.

Parenting Styles p87Parenting Styles p87

Parenting styleParenting style=how parents care for and =how parents care for and discipline childrendiscipline children

3 main styles3 main styles AuthoritarianAuthoritarian Assertive-DemocraticAssertive-Democratic PassivePassive

1.Authoritarian

Parenting Styles p87 contParenting Styles p87 cont

AuthoritarianAuthoritarian Believes children should obey without Believes children should obey without

questions.questions. Parents tell child what to do.Parents tell child what to do. When rules are broken, the parent When rules are broken, the parent

typically responds quickly and firmly.typically responds quickly and firmly.

Parenting Styles p87 contParenting Styles p87 cont

Assertive-DemocraticAssertive-Democratic Children have more input in the rules.Children have more input in the rules. Children are given a certain amount of Children are given a certain amount of

independence and freedom of choice.independence and freedom of choice. Believe children learn best from Believe children learn best from

accepting results of their actions Children accepting results of their actions Children work together to find accept discipline.work together to find accept discipline.

Parenting Styles p87 contParenting Styles p87 cont

PermissivePermissive Children are given a lot of freedom Children are given a lot of freedom Children may set their own rules.Children may set their own rules. Children encouraged to think for themselves Children encouraged to think for themselves

and not follow trends.and not follow trends. Parents ignore rule breakingParents ignore rule breaking

Parents often use more than one style of Parents often use more than one style of parenting.parenting.

Guiding Children’s Behavior p88Guiding Children’s Behavior p88

Guidance = using Guidance = using firmness and understanding to firmness and understanding to help children learn and behave.help children learn and behave.If done correctly, they will have self-discipline If done correctly, they will have self-discipline and a conscience.and a conscience.

Self-disciplineSelf-discipline = the ability to control their own = the ability to control their own behavior, get along with others and express behavior, get along with others and express themselves appropriately.themselves appropriately.

Conscience Conscience = an inner sense of what is right.= an inner sense of what is right.

Effective Directions:Effective Directions:

Be sure you have their attention.Be sure you have their attention. Be polite.Be polite. Use positive statements. Use positive statements.

Please walk, rather than Don’t run.Please walk, rather than Don’t run. Use specific words that they can Use specific words that they can

understand. understand.

Be sure to keep the paint on the Be sure to keep the paint on the paper, paper, rather than, Don’t be sloppy.rather than, Don’t be sloppy.

Effective Directions: contEffective Directions: cont

Begin with an action word.Begin with an action word.

Pick up your socks.Pick up your socks.

Get ready for bed.Get ready for bed.

Sit still.Sit still. Give as limited number of directions at a time.Give as limited number of directions at a time. Be clear instead of vague.Be clear instead of vague.

Stop screaming and hitting, rather than I Stop screaming and hitting, rather than I don’t like your behavior.don’t like your behavior.

Effective Directions: contEffective Directions: cont

Use appropriate tone of voice.Use appropriate tone of voice. Give praise and love.Give praise and love.

ActivityActivity How would you give directions in the How would you give directions in the

following situation?following situation?AA four-year old is playing with finger paints. You four-year old is playing with finger paints. You need her to finish paining and clean up, but you need her to finish paining and clean up, but you don’t want her to get pain on herself or the don’t want her to get pain on herself or the furniture.furniture.

Effective Directions: contEffective Directions: cont

How would you word the following How would you word the following differently?differently?

Go upstairs, get undressed, take a bathe and Go upstairs, get undressed, take a bathe and don’t waste time.don’t waste time.

Suggestions on next slideSuggestions on next slide

Effective Directions: contEffective Directions: cont

You should be polite.You should be polite. Use positive statements.Use positive statements. Give limited number of directions at one Give limited number of directions at one

timetime Give praise and love.Give praise and love. I’ll bet you could go upstairs and get I’ll bet you could go upstairs and get

undressed all by yourself. I will go run undressed all by yourself. I will go run your bath, and we will be done in no time!your bath, and we will be done in no time!

Be a role model.Be a role model.

Your children will model you language, Your children will model you language, behavior, bad habits – smoking, cursing, behavior, bad habits – smoking, cursing, etc, good habits – neat, polite, etc.etc, good habits – neat, polite, etc.

Setting Limits p90Setting Limits p90

Physical limits – Don’t cross the street. Physical limits – Don’t cross the street. Rule of behavior – We don’t hit. We don’t Rule of behavior – We don’t hit. We don’t

use that word.use that word.

Setting Limits p90Setting Limits p90

Ask yourself:Ask yourself: Does the limit allow the child to learn, explore, & grow?Does the limit allow the child to learn, explore, & grow? Is the limit fair and age appropriate?Is the limit fair and age appropriate?

Toddlers need a fenced in yard.Toddlers need a fenced in yard.Elementary kids may be allowed to play at the Elementary kids may be allowed to play at the

neighbors.neighbors. Does the limit benefit the child or is it for your convenience?Does the limit benefit the child or is it for your convenience? Limits need to be clear. Limits need to be clear.

You can have a snack is not clear.You can have a snack is not clear.You can have an apple is clear.You can have an apple is clear.

Will need to be repeated often.Will need to be repeated often. Young children don’t need an explanation. Older ones Young children don’t need an explanation. Older ones

might.might.

Positive Reinforcement p92Positive Reinforcement p92

Positive ReinforcementPositive Reinforcement = a response that = a response that encourages a particular behavior.encourages a particular behavior.

Children are more likely to do the right thing and Children are more likely to do the right thing and

change inappropriate behavior with positive change inappropriate behavior with positive reinforcement.reinforcement.

If a behavior gets a positive result they are likely If a behavior gets a positive result they are likely repeat it.repeat it.

..

Guidelines to encourage Guidelines to encourage appropriate behavior.appropriate behavior.

Be specificBe specificYou did a great job picking up your You did a great job picking up your

toys.toys. Comment on the behavior as soon as Comment on the behavior as soon as

possible.possible. Recognize small stepsRecognize small steps

If they got part of a good behavior If they got part of a good behavior accomplished, praise it so they will accomplished, praise it so they will continue to work on it.continue to work on it.

Guidelines to encourage Guidelines to encourage appropriate behavior. Cont.appropriate behavior. Cont.

Help children take pride in their actions,Help children take pride in their actions,

Make what they do seem great. Make what they do seem great.

Dressing themselves, go to the potty, Dressing themselves, go to the potty, helping helping around the house without asking, etc.around the house without asking, etc.

Tailor the encouragement to the needs of the Tailor the encouragement to the needs of the child.child.

Use positive reinforcement wisely.Use positive reinforcement wisely. If they are praised for everything they do, it no If they are praised for everything they do, it no

longer motivates them.longer motivates them.

Dealing with inappropriate Dealing with inappropriate behavior. p93behavior. p93

As yourself.As yourself. Is the expected behavior appropriate, Is the expected behavior appropriate,

given their age and development?given their age and development? Does the child understand the behavior is Does the child understand the behavior is

wrong?wrong? Did the child do the behavior knowingly Did the child do the behavior knowingly

and deliberately, or was it beyond the and deliberately, or was it beyond the child’s control?child’s control?

Unintentional MisbehaviorUnintentional Misbehavior

Some behaviors may not need to be Some behaviors may not need to be punished.punished.

Spilling milk.Spilling milk.

Picking flowers in the park when Picking flowers in the park when didn’t didn’t know is was prohibited.know is was prohibited.

Using Punishment Effectively Using Punishment Effectively p93p93

PurposePurpose Remind children that appropriate behavior Remind children that appropriate behavior

is important.is important. Teach there are consequences.Teach there are consequences. Change a behavior from negative to Change a behavior from negative to

positive.positive.

Negative Reinforcement p94Negative Reinforcement p94

Negative reinforcementNegative reinforcement = a response = a response aimed at discouraging children from aimed at discouraging children from repeating an inappropriate unacceptable repeating an inappropriate unacceptable behavior.behavior.

Types of negative reinforcement.:Types of negative reinforcement.:

Natural consequencesNatural consequences

If your child loses his new coat, he as If your child loses his new coat, he as to wear his old one.to wear his old one.

Doesn’t need a lecture.Doesn’t need a lecture. Logical consequencesLogical consequences

Child colors on table, put colors away Child colors on table, put colors away for a day.for a day.

Types of negative reinforcement.: Types of negative reinforcement.: contcont

Loss of privilegesLoss of privilegesIf child keeps running into the street, take away a If child keeps running into the street, take away a privilege.privilege.If child won’t study, take away a privilege.If child won’t study, take away a privilege.

Time-outTime-out = short period of tie in which a child sits away = short period of tie in which a child sits away from other people and the center of activity.from other people and the center of activity.

Gives them time to calm down and get self-controlGives them time to calm down and get self-controlGood for when emotions are running high and the Good for when emotions are running high and the child needs a break.child needs a break.If a child keeps taking toys away from another, If a child keeps taking toys away from another,

give give time-out.time-out.

Time-out TipsTime-out Tips

One minute for each year of age is One minute for each year of age is appropriate.appropriate.

Don’t go over 10 minutes or they forget Don’t go over 10 minutes or they forget what they’re there for.what they’re there for.

Make sure they understand that the Make sure they understand that the behavior is inappropriate before time-out behavior is inappropriate before time-out starts.starts.

Don’t overuse. Don’t overuse.

DisciplineDiscipline

You have to find out what negative You have to find out what negative reinforcement works for your child. reinforcement works for your child.

What works for one, doesn’t always work What works for one, doesn’t always work for another.for another.

What works one time, may not work What works one time, may not work another.another.

Poor Disciplinary Measures p96Poor Disciplinary Measures p96

BribingBribing

Bribing a child to stops misbehaving only Bribing a child to stops misbehaving only encourages them to encourages them to do so for the reward. do so for the reward.

They don’t learn self control.They don’t learn self control.

Use rewards when the do positive things.Use rewards when the do positive things. Making children promise to behave.Making children promise to behave.

They will naturally misbehave at times. If they They will naturally misbehave at times. If they do, rather than disappoint their parents, they lie.do, rather than disappoint their parents, they lie.

Poor Disciplinary Measures p96 Poor Disciplinary Measures p96 contcont

Shouting or yellingShouting or yelling

You may frighten them.You may frighten them.

They eventually learn to tune you out.They eventually learn to tune you out.

They start exhibiting this behavior.They start exhibiting this behavior. Shaming or belittlingShaming or belittling

If you continue to chew with your mouth If you continue to chew with your mouth open, no one will want to sit with you at open, no one will want to sit with you at lunch.lunch.

Poor Disciplinary Measures p96 Poor Disciplinary Measures p96 contcont

Threatening to withhold loveThreatening to withhold love Exaggerating the consequencesExaggerating the consequences

If you don’t come with me now, I am going If you don’t come with me now, I am going to leave you here in the store.to leave you here in the store.

Consistency in Guidance p98Consistency in Guidance p98

Make rules and apply them the same way.Make rules and apply them the same way. Don’t punish one time and not the other.Don’t punish one time and not the other.

If something is wrong today, it is wrong If something is wrong today, it is wrong tomorrow.tomorrow.

Be the same at home, at someone else’s Be the same at home, at someone else’s home, in town, etchome, in town, etc

Helps them know what is expected and Helps them know what is expected and what the responses they will get from what the responses they will get from parents.parents.

Consistency in Guidance p98 Consistency in Guidance p98 contcont

When not consistent and rules changeWhen not consistent and rules change

Children lose trust in you.Children lose trust in you.

They may become confused and They may become confused and insecureinsecure

They will pay little attention the next They will pay little attention the next time you make rulestime you make rules

Follow through or lose credibility.Follow through or lose credibility. All adult caregivers need to be on the same page All adult caregivers need to be on the same page

or children play one adult against the other.or children play one adult against the other.

AssignmentAssignment

Create poster that stresses good Create poster that stresses good strategies, tips, and advice for guiding strategies, tips, and advice for guiding children. children.

Be creative and attractive.Be creative and attractive. Provide substantial information for parents Provide substantial information for parents

and caregivers.and caregivers.

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