CHRISTIAN HOME 4CHRISTIAN HOME 4

Nirmal NathanNirmal Nathan

SEX IN MARRIAGESEX IN MARRIAGE ‘‘Song of songs’ Song of songs’

celebrates physical and celebrates physical and emotional intimacy emotional intimacy between the couple.between the couple.

SEX IN MARRIAGESEX IN MARRIAGE

Biblical term - ‘KNOWING’- Biblical term - ‘KNOWING’-

trusting oneself to another produces trusting oneself to another produces

irreversible change.irreversible change.

KEY QUESTION KEY QUESTION How strong is our commitment to God and How strong is our commitment to God and to our spouse in the areas of faithfulness and purity?to our spouse in the areas of faithfulness and purity?

MARITAL SEXUALITY MARITAL SEXUALITY ““The man and his wife were both naked, and The man and his wife were both naked, and

they felt no shame” (Gen 2:25). they felt no shame” (Gen 2:25). The sexual relationship is the “soul” of your The sexual relationship is the “soul” of your

marriage – marriage – your transparency to each other is a measure of your transparency to each other is a measure of

your transparency with God.your transparency with God. Recognise you are different from your partner. Recognise you are different from your partner.

We respond to different things, at different We respond to different things, at different rates.rates.

MARITAL SEXUALITYMARITAL SEXUALITY

Do not separate sex from Do not separate sex from warm and loving warm and loving relationship. relationship.

It is not something that takes It is not something that takes place only in the bedroom, place only in the bedroom, but throughout the day as but throughout the day as husband and wife relate with husband and wife relate with each other.each other.

MARITAL SEXUALITYMARITAL SEXUALITY Always seek your partner’s interest first (Phil 2:4). Be satisfied through your partner’s satisfaction. Jealously value and guard this realm of your

marriage. It is a most precious possession which no one but

the two of you share. Watch out for anything that threatens it.

MARITAL SEXUALITYMARITAL SEXUALITY There is no limitations within the frame work There is no limitations within the frame work

of covenant married relationship.of covenant married relationship. No inhibitions. No guilt.No inhibitions. No guilt. Husband has to meet the physical needs of Husband has to meet the physical needs of

wife and vice versa (I Cor 7).wife and vice versa (I Cor 7).

Understand the physical nature of each person – Understand the physical nature of each person – Men like gas stove – as soon as the gas is Men like gas stove – as soon as the gas is

switched off it no more is warm. switched off it no more is warm. Women are like electric stove- even after the Women are like electric stove- even after the

electric supply is switched off it continues to electric supply is switched off it continues to be warm. be warm.

Men react immediately to touch. Men react immediately to touch. Women love to talk and be listened to and Women love to talk and be listened to and

warm up. warm up.

LOOK GOOD ! FEEL GOOD !LOOK GOOD ! FEEL GOOD ! Appreciation and gifts once in a while is necessary Appreciation and gifts once in a while is necessary

to continue to confirm “I love you and care for you”to continue to confirm “I love you and care for you” Spend time together but alone once in a while. Spend time together but alone once in a while. Dinner, outstation visits once in a while necessary.Dinner, outstation visits once in a while necessary. Men spend more time in office. When he returns Men spend more time in office. When he returns

home wife should be better dressed and not in home wife should be better dressed and not in ‘wrinkled, dirty nightie, oily face’ to make him feel ‘wrinkled, dirty nightie, oily face’ to make him feel that office was better. Don’t drive him away.that office was better. Don’t drive him away.

AND…AND… Physical exercise necessary to keep yourself fit Physical exercise necessary to keep yourself fit

and attractive. and attractive. Dress neat and smart to look good to your Dress neat and smart to look good to your

spouse. spouse. Birth control is not wrong in the current setting Birth control is not wrong in the current setting

of population explosion.of population explosion. Abortion is murder and hence, prohibited.Abortion is murder and hence, prohibited.

A WORD FOR SINGLESA WORD FOR SINGLES ““Better to marry than to burn” (with desire)Better to marry than to burn” (with desire)

Voluntary celibacy for the Kingdom of God is Voluntary celibacy for the Kingdom of God is praised. (Mat 19:12)praised. (Mat 19:12)

Those unmarried are better able to attend to Those unmarried are better able to attend to the Lord and His ministry because they are the Lord and His ministry because they are free from family and household cares.(1 Cor 7)free from family and household cares.(1 Cor 7)

ENJOY ENJOY ABUNDANT ABUNDANT

LIFELIFEConclusion:Conclusion: Make God’s Make God’s goals your goals your own. This own. This

helps promote helps promote the Gospel.the Gospel.

Pastors FamiliesPastors FamiliesLet’s Let’s

Walk the TalkWalk the Talk

THANKS !THANKS ! RajasekaranRajasekaran, Saudi Arabia, Saudi Arabia

Richard Bowie - Richard Bowie - Haggai InstituteHaggai Institute

Wilfred & Shanthi Davidar - Wilfred & Shanthi Davidar - Haggai InstituteHaggai Institute

DavidDavid Wong Wong - Haggai Institute - Haggai Institute