CO 528 Week 3Attending and Listening Skills

Reading: Cheydleur 3 & 4; Collins pp. 37-48

• Three spirits exist in the counseling session: the spirit of the counselor, the spirit of the counselee, an the Holy Spirit

• Be aware of the distinctions between behavior, thinking, and emotions

• Note the 7 potential blockages to counseling described by Cheydleur

In Collins

• What are attending skills?• What are listening skills?• What are the five stages of discipleship?

S.O.L.E.R.

• Sit squarely• Open posture• Lean toward• Eye contact• Relax

Counseling Skills

• Genuineness- Being true, real, and authentic.

• Respect- To show esteem or honor to another person. Whether it is deserved or not!

• Empathy- Mentally entering into the feeling or spirit of another person.

• Concreteness- Actual substantive realities as opposed to abstract ideas.

• Content- The substance of spoken words.

• Feelings- The emotions behind the spoken words.

• Confrontation (Challenging) - To bring together for examination or comparison.

• Self-disclosure- The revelation of something personal by the counselor in order to establish rapport or credibility with the counselee.

• Immediacy- Direct presence.