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Coaches With Clients presents... The Rapid Coaching Academy: Professional Coach Training System Session #2: Creating Safety & Connection Slide 2 www.CoachesWithClients.com What Well Be Covering Clients = Anyone you would coach Make clients feel totally safe so they can open up How to build and maintain rapport The science of momentum The psychology of performance Creating well formed outcomes, goals and setting direction for yourself & for your clients Slide 3 www.CoachesWithClients.com Homework Check Did everyone get their homework done? Its OK to do whatever homework you can. Its your life and with your client, its their life (Pushing clients can put you out of rapport with your client) No judgments Slide 4 www.CoachesWithClients.com Emotional Awareness A lot of times we are very unaware of how we feel The more aware we can be, the better As you notice how youre feeling, you will start noticing where it is coming from A lot of what holds us back is internal stuff Knowing how to do things is not always enough Slide 5 www.CoachesWithClients.com Creating A Safe Place... There is a willingness for people to open to you as a coach just because they dont know you (anonymity) Being on the phone One of the biggest things you bring to the table as a coach is your presence Biggest mistake = Going on autopilot or jumping in too soon The power of coaching begins the moment the client hires you Slide 6 www.CoachesWithClients.com Creating A Safe Place The client paying you actually creates value for them Second biggest mistake = Making it all about you Its OK to share a little bit about yourself Be honest & vulnerable Let them know that what theyre going through is common I want to let you know that this does happen a lot and that there is a way to resolve this. Listen, listen, listen Be comfortable with silence Slide 7 www.CoachesWithClients.com Q&A: Talk, Talk, Talk What do you do if the client just wants to talk and talk and talk? Sometimes people get caught up in their story If you could put this in a nutshell what would it be? Sometimes clients need to tell their story Just listening to people has a lot of power Slide 8 www.CoachesWithClients.com Getting And Maintaining Rapport... 1.The more someone is like us, the more we like them 2.Matching speaking rate and speed 3.Match their tonality 4.Match key words 5.Use sounds of reassurance 6.Never make the client wrong 7.Another mistake = just giving advice (whats right for you isnt necessarily whats right for your client) Slide 9 www.CoachesWithClients.com Q&A Q: What if the clients behavior is detrimental to themselves? A: If that is a problem with the client, check in with them. If it is, help them with it. Is that something that youd like to change? Sometimes you have to help the client run towards the cliff, but talk to them about it Our job as the coach is to support the client in what they want with themselves Slide 10 www.CoachesWithClients.com Momentum Momentum is energy moving in a direction When you set goals, you have energy moving towards that goal An object in motion tends to stay in motion; an object at rest tends stay at rest. Building momentum is like a snowball going down a hill: gets bigger and bigger Youll become like a magnet, attracting what you need to you Slide 11 www.CoachesWithClients.com Creating Momentum 1.Dreaming up you goals 2.Writing down your goals 3.Making a dream board 4.Creating an action plan 5.Being at peace 6.Taking action on your plans 7.Consistently taking action on your plans (Start up can be the hardest part.) Slide 12 www.CoachesWithClients.com Things That Slow Momentum Procrastination Waiting until tomorrow can become a habit. Procrastination comes from fear, overwhelm, confusion, and self- doubt Lazy is a judgment Distraction New goals New strategies New ideas Other pleasures Slide 13 www.CoachesWithClients.com Creating Momentum Recap 1.Dreaming up you goals 2.Writing down your goals 3.Making a dream board 4.Creating an action plan 5.Taking action on your plans 6.Being at peace 7.Consistently taking action on your plans Slide 14 www.CoachesWithClients.com Peace... Peace is one of the most powerful feelings Peace is very calm Its very hard to go from fear to peace Its easier to go from fear to feeling powerful, confident, or excited Change your body; your body and mind work together Knowing how to go from nervous to confident is a powerful skill Wherever you want to go, you can take yourself Slide 15 www.CoachesWithClients.com Technique: Shift How You Feel In Any Given Moment... Put an angry expression on your face Think about a time when you felt angry Notice if you feel more angry now Jump up and down, let go of the anger, and put smile on your face Stand up and stand as if you have absolute confidence If you find yourself feeling anything you dont want to feel, you can change how you feel by changing your body Slide 16 www.CoachesWithClients.com Long Term... You can change your body, but if there are lots of underlying things going on, this technique might not resolve it But when you need it, its great to have Slide 17 www.CoachesWithClients.com Homework... 1.Practice creating a safe place 2.Notice how you feel throughout the week, and if you dont want to feel it, practice moving your body 3.Create a two week plan for what you need to do to move closer to your goals 4.Follow through on your action plan and notice how you feel 5.Join the Yahoo! Group Slide 18 Coaches With Clients presents... The Rapid Coaching Academy: Professional Coach Training System Session #2: Creating Safety & Connection