Communication

Is it possible to not communicate?

In what ways do we communicate?

Communication Is..

• The process of exchanging thoughts, messages, or information between 2 or more people.

How is communication altered?• 1 person stops paying attention.

• Speaker is unclear in their delivery.

• “I can do those dishes”

• What about through telephone, e-mail, or texting?

I = capableCan = give me a chanceDo = can complete itThose = particular ideaDishes = defines what is being done

Good Communication Must Have…..

• Looking

• Listening

• Responding

• Or else we get…..Am I a Good Communicator?

Levels of Communication (SPV)

“You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him.”

--Leo Aikman• Event

Superficial• Influence

Personal

• Personal Quality

Validating

• Compliment

Levels of Communication1. Make a small circle with the groups

I have organized.2. Everyone must participate.3. No talking with other groups.4. Everyone must listen with their

eyes.5. When I call time you must stop

where you are.6. If you have not finished the

previous round, finish it and then move on.

Round #1• Share an event

you have experienced.

• Example:

Round #2• Describe a

situation that has proven to be a good INFLUENCE on your life.

• Example:

Round #3• Describe a quality

you already have that will make you a better parent or spouse.

• Example:

Round #4• You must give a

compliment to one other person in your group.

• Example

Levels of Communication

Questions1. Which was more difficult to share in group?

Events, Influences, Personal qualities, Compliments. Why?

2. What are some reactions that occurred in your group? Explain why these occurred.

3. Why is it more difficult to share personal qualities and compliments.

Validating

PersonalSuperficial

Levels of Communication “SPV”

Communication reinforcing people’s feelings about themselves by 1st accepting their feelings,

2nd understanding them, and 3rd to nurturing them.

Shows an understanding and strengthens relationship.

Communication involving opening up and talking

about feelings, beliefs and opinions that mean something to you.

Strengthens relationships

Small Talk (weather, home, school, food, etc.) Communication making up the majority of our communication. Weakens Relationships. WHY USE?

1. Which Round (levels of communication) must a relationship strive for in order to grow? Why?

2. Why can’t a relationship remain stable for an extended period of time if they communicate in a Round 1 (superficial state)?

Video Clips

• ______________

• Dumb and Dumber

• David Letterman

• Goonies

• Pacifier

• Geezer Club

•Validating

•Superficial

•Personal