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Communication Skills for Leaders
Keys to Effective Interpersonal Communication
Developing Connection Developing Energy Developing Credibility Developing Interaction
Believability
Key to success of any presentation We sell ourselves through
communication Communication skills: the greatest
investment we can make
Cues to Believability
Verbal: ____% Vocal: ____% Visual: ____% Total: 100 %
Cues to Believability
Verbal: 7 % Vocal: 38 % Visual: 55 % Total: 100 %
Believability
Consistency = Believability– When verbal, vocal, and visual
messages are inconsistent, visual cues are dominant
Consistency + Energy = Impact– When words, voice, and delivery are
integrated, they deliver a consistent message
Emotional Connection– Connect with listeners’ emotions
First Brain, New Brain
First Brain, New Brain
First Brain: Limbic System– Instinctual, primitive– Emotional– Hunger, thirst, danger, sex, parenting– Common to animals
New Brain: Cerebral Cortex– Intellectual, advanced– Rational– Thought, memory, language, creativity,
planning, decision-making– Uniquely human
Believing what we like
Likeability: a major component of trust Personality factor: a consistent
predictor of presidential races Stanford study: three personal
qualities can affect careers:– Outgoing, ascendant personality– Desire to persuade, talk, work– Need for power
Behavioral skills
1. Eye communication
2. Posture and movement
3. Gestures and facial expressions
4. Voice and vocal variety
5. Dress and appearance
6. Language, nonwords, and pauses
7. Listener involvement
8. Humor
9. The natural self
Four stages of learning
1. Unconscious incompetence
2. Conscious incompetence
3. Conscious competence
4. Unconscious competence
4L
Four stages of speaking
1. The nonspeaker
2. The occasional speaker
3. The willing speaker
4. The leader
4S
Reduces nervousness Increases confidence Focuses thoughts Motivates movement Hones ability to read audience
Good Eye Communication
Eye Communication
Objective: Connect with your listener Behavioral Objective: Look sincerely
and steadily at another person
Keys to Eye Communication
Five seconds Eye dart Slow blink Large groups Television
Improving Eye Communication
Where Do You Look? Reinforce Five-Second Habit Increase Sensitivity Relieve Intimidation Analyze Yourself and Others Video Feedback Watch News Programs Practice One-on-One Practice with Paper Audience
Developing Energy
Posture and Movement
Gestures and Facial Expressions
Voice and Vocal Variety
Posture and Movement
Objective: Be aware of how you hold yourself physically
Behavioral Objective: Stand tall and move naturally and easily
Correct the tendency to slump
Keys to Effective Posture & Movement
Stand Tall Watch Lower Body Ready Position Move
Improving Posture & Movement
1. See Yourself
2. Walk Away from the Wall
3. Do the Two-Step
4. Stand at Meetings
Gestures & Facial Expressions
Objective: Be aware of what gestures and expressions communicate
Behavioral Objective: Be relaxed and natural when you speak
Keys to Effectiveness
Habits Nervous Gestures Over-exaggerate Smile Personality Factor Muscles No Phony Smiles
Improving Gestures & Expressions
1. Practice Gesturing
2. Count Nervous Gestures
3. Role-Playing
4. TV with No Sound
5. Test Smiles
Voice & Vocal Variety
Objective: Command attention Behavioral Objective: Use your voice
as a rich, resonant instrument
Effective Voice & Vocal Variety
Energy 84% One Word Four Aspects Vocal Variety Don’t Read
Improving Voice & Vocal Variety
1. The Right Word
2. Voice of the Company
3. Good & Bad
4. Record Yourself
Developing Credibility
Dress & Appearance Language, Nonwords, & Pauses
Dress & Appearance
Objective: Make a good first impression
Behavioral Objective: Look appropriate to the environment
Effective Dress & Appearance
90% body covered by clothing Face and hair are where people look Most of us dress based on past habits
Improving Dress & Appearance
1. First TwoSeconds
2. Pick Five People
3. Nobody Will Tell You
4. Pick a New Outfit
5. See a Consultant
6. Research, Research, Research
7. Ask How You Look
Language, Nonwords, & Pauses
Objective: Use language and pauses effectively
Behavioral Objective: Use appropriate and clear language for your listeners
Effective Use of Language & Pauses
Direct Language Vocabulary Jargon Pauses Replace Nonwords
Improving Language & Pauses
1. A New Word a Day
2. Dictionary
3. Jargon
4. Pauses
5. Eliminate Nonwords
Developing Interaction
Listener involvement Humor The Natural Self
Listener Involvement
Objective: Cultivate listener involvement in many ways
Behavioral Objective: Maintain the active interest of each person
Effective Listener Involvement
Engage listeners with swirls:– Style
Drama Eye Communication Movement Visuals
– Interaction Questions Demos Samples/Gimmicks
– Content Interest Humor
Humor
Objective: Develop your humor skills Behavioral Objective: Create a bond
between yourself and your listeners
Effective Use of Humor
No Jokes Stories & Anecdotes Humanization Personality Factor Smile
Improving Your Use of Humor
1. What Makes You Laugh
2. Make Someone Laugh
3. Think Funny
4. Gain through Feedback
5. Watch Others
6. Humor Journal
The Natural Self
Objective: Work to be yourself in all circumstances
Behavioral Objective: Be authentic
Keys to Being Your Natural Self
Learn Like a Juggler– Master one skill at a time– Start by acknowledging natural strengths– Work on your weaknesses
Make It a Lifetime Process– New habits, old habits: good and bad– New behavioral skills
Discovering Your Natural Self
Ask Five People to Rank You on the Nine Behavioral Skills
Ask Three People to Fill Out the Coaching Feedback Sheet