conversational reframing acknowledgements. conversational reframing introduction
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... You and I belong to a species with a remarkable ability: we can shape events in each others brains with exquisite precision. Simply by making noises with our mouths, we can reliably cause precise new combinations of ideas to arise in each others minds.
Steven Pinker 
Cognitive-Behavior ManagementNeuro-Linguistic Programming
Neuro-linguistics holistically summarizes the body-mind connection between language [words, symbols, etc.] and neurology. It specifies how our neurology [i.e., nervous system and brain] process language and thereby respond to language.
Words, while totally powerless to effect and change external reality, have almost complete power to create, alter, change, destroy and invent internal reality.
...neuroscientists have learned that thoughts are electrical impulses that trigger electrical and chemical switches in the brain. Thoughts are not just psychological in nature, they are physiological - electrochemical triggers that direct and affect the chemical activity.
When given an electrical command - a thought - the brain immediately does several things: It responds to the thought by releasing appropriate control chemicals into the body, and it alerts the central nervous system to any required response or action. Shad Helmstetter
Perception differs qualitatively from the physical properties of the stimulus.
The Soul Illusion
"I want you to realize that there exists no color in the natural world, and no sound - nothing of this kind; no textures, no patterns, no beauty, no scent." Sounds, colors, patterns, etc., appear to have an independent reality, yet are, in fact, constructed by the mind. All our experience of the natural world is our minds interpretation of the input it receives. Sir John Eccles
NLP talks about various modes of awareness
VAK CodingVisual [pictures, sights, images]A [sounds, noise, music, tones]Kinesthetic [sensations, physical feelings of the body]Olfactory [smells]Gustatory [tastes]
We experience the phenomenon of sight, sounds and sensations.
Above and beyond the sensory level representation we have sensory-based words.
Non-sensory based language refers to all language that becomes more abstract as we delete more of the specific sensory words and generalize to a higher level.
When we go meta to a higher logical level of symbolization and use more abstract words, we use a different kind of representational system, a non-sensory based modality.
In any social environment, we have to use language which then influences and effects the life of the system: enhancing and/or limiting, creating and/or destroying.
Our language both reflects and describes our model of the world.
Words influence because they evoke us to create representations within our minds at multiple levels.
The magic is in the code.
Cross Mapping Submodalities
Modeling consists of using tools that have their origins in Artificial Intelligence [AI], linguistics and cognitive science research with the goal of making a model of excellent behavior, for transfer to other persons.
Language & Change
Language so fills our world that we move through it as a fish swims through water.
Some Universals of the Human Linguistic ProcessI. Well-formednessII. Constiuent StructureIII. Logical Semantic RelationsA. CompletenessB. AmbiguityC. Synonymy
A transformation is an explicit statement of one kind of pattern that native speakers recognize among the sentences of their language.
When a persons model has pieces missing, it is impoverished.
Impoverished models imply limited options.
Physical constraints that are atypical of the species.
Species specific biological constraints common to all typical species representatives.
Social Constraints [continued]
Social Constraints [continued]
Social Constraints [continued]
Individual constraints [continued]
Generalization is the process by which elements or pieces of a persons model become detached from their original experience and come to represent this entire category of which the experience is an example. Our ability to generalize is essential to coping with the world.
Deletion is a process by which we selectively pay attention to certain dimensions of our experiences and exclude others. An example would be the ability that people have to filter out or exclude all other sound in a room full of people talking in order to listen to one particular persons voice.
Distortion is a process that allows us to make shifts in our experience of sensory data. Fantasy, for example, allows us to prepare for experiences that we may have before they occur. All the great novels, all the revolutionary discoveries of the sciences involve the ability to distort and misrepresent reality.
Every Belief is a limit to be examined.
John C. Lily
The most fundamental goal of applying verbal patterns is to help people shift their perspective:1) from a problem to an outcome, 2) from a failure to feedback, and3) from an impossibility to an as if.
The Language of Specificity
For precision and clarity or to deframe.
The Language of Evaluation
To construct new realities & frames
Meaning [semantics] exists only, and exclusively, in the mind.
This doesnt mean this ---> It means this!
Not X --------> but Y
The language of evaluation-of-evaluation
Allows you to outframe all meanings and frames
Language describes how we code, in various symbol formats, information.
Information is the difference that makes a difference.
Creation of Meaning
Giving or attributing meaning to something [to anything] involves and associative process.
To identify meaning we have to find the associations.
Fire means what the frame of reference tells us it means.
External Behavior --> Internal State [EB] = [IS]
S/he who controls the frame, controls the meaning.
The directions of influence.
The Meaning of Magic
But, but, thats manipulation!
Dont believe everything you think!
Prevention, development & remediation
Nothing in and of itself means anything.It takes a Meaning Maker to construct an association, set a frame, link events and marry concepts.
There is a Taoist story of an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit. "Such bad luck," they said sympathetically. "May be," the farmer replied. The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses. "How wonderful," the neighbors exclaimed. "May be," replied the old man. The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune. "May be," answered the farmer. The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son's leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out. " May be," said the farmer.
This external behavior is/ equals(leads to or causes) --> this internal state.
causation statements: how we model the way the world works, functions, relates to itself, etc.
equations statements: how we decide and model regarding meaning, what abstractions equate with behaviors, our paradigms of significance
value words & ideas: the ideas, events, experiences, etc., that we deem important and significant
identifications: what things equal other things, that we identify as the same
presuppositions: unquestioned assumptions that we simply operationalize as true
Make a distinction between the behavior and the intention.
#1. Chunking Down
To elicit this conversational reframing pattern, use the elicitation questions that move a person down the scale of abstraction/specificity.How specifically?What specifically?When specifically?With whom specifically?At what place specifically?
#2 Detailing the sequence of the Strategy
#2 strategy continued
To elicit this reframing pattern, use the strategy elicitation questions:
How do you represent that belief?How will you know if and when it does not hold true?What comes first? What comes next?How do you have each piece coded?And youre absolutely sure you dont have that in this other format?