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ANSWERS

1. FALSE—differences in values and personality are significant issues to consider when dating someone.

2. FALSE—in every situation in life each individual has choices. There are ways to avoid the pressures of becoming sexually active.

3. TRUE

4. TRUE

5. TRUE


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RelationshipsRelationshipsContentsSection 1 Responsible Relationships

Section 2 Benefits of Abstinence

Section 3 Coping with Pressures

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Building Responsible RelationshipsBuilding Responsible Relationships

Section 1Section 1

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Section 1 Responsible Relationships

Bellringer

1. List five positive characteristics to look for in a dating partner.

2. Identify two of these five characteristics that are most important to you, and explain why.

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Objectives

• State why teen relationships are important.

• List positive characteristics to look for in a dating partner.

• Describe appropriate dating behavior.

• State two things you can do to maintain a healthy relationship with your partner.

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Teen Relationships Are Important

• Developing relationships with others of your age is an important part of forming your identity.

• Dating provides friendship, companionship, and support, and allows you to explore characteristics you might want in a future spouse.

• Engaging in sexual activity poses risks to your emotional and physical health. Refraining from sexual activity helps create and sustain a healthy relationship.

• Mutual respect is of key importance in dating.

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Finding the Right Person

A. A good friend or dating partner:

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•is unselfish•treats others well•is tolerant and respectful•has morals and values similar to yours•is fun to be with•respects himself or herself



Finding the Right Person

B. When choosing a friend or a dating partner, you should try to avoid people who:

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• are selfish• are abusive• are inconsiderate• are jealous• hurt you physically or emotionally• don’t respect your morals and values• make you feel badly about yourself



After a Break Up:

1. Be aware of the 5 stages of grief:

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•Denial•Anger•Bargaining (trying to regain someone you lost)•Depression•Acceptance

2. Focus your emotional energy on finding ways to be happy again.

3. Stay involved with your friends4. Do things you enjoy doing



Section 2Section 2

Benefits of AbstinenceBenefits of Abstinence

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Bellringer

What are some risks of being sexually active?

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Objectives

• Define the term abstinence.• Describe the health benefits of teen sexual

abstinence.• Describe the emotional and social benefits of teen

sexual abstinence.• Name two ways abstinence can help teens achieve

their goals.

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What Is Abstinence?

• Abstinence is:• the conscious decision not to participate in sexual

activity, AND… • the skills to support and maintain that decision

• A sexually transmitted disease (STD) is an infectious disease that is spread by sexual contact.

• Avoiding the risk of STDs is just one of the many benefits of abstinence.

• For long term happiness & stability, teen relationships should focus on emotional intimacy, not sexual intimacy.

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Section 3Section 3

Coping with PressuresCoping with Pressures

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Bellringer

Name different ways that teens are pressured into becoming sexually active?

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Objectives

• Describe the two types of pressure to become sexually active.

• Discuss how to verbally and nonverbally refuse sexual advances.

• Describe protective factors that help teens remain abstinent.

• List risk factors that can cause teens to become sexually active.

• Discuss nonsexual ways to show someone that you care.

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Pressures to Be Sexually Active

A. Internal pressure: • an impulse a person feels, within

themself, to engage in a behavior.

B.External pressure: • pressure a person feels from

another person, or from a group, to engage in a behavior.

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Setting Personal Limits

A. Helps you stay true to your commitment (morals) to be abstinent

B. When setting personal limits, you can commit to:• being abstinent• avoiding situations that could lead to

unwanted sexual activity

C. Tell your partner when you begin dating what your boundaries and limits are

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Avoiding Pressure Situations

A. Identify, ahead of time, situations that could lead to sexual activity.

B. Avoid drinking alcohol or using psychoactive drugs. They will lower or eliminate:• inhibitions• ability to defend yourself

C. Look for dating partners who share and respect your values.

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Refusing Verbally and Nonverbally

To get out of a pressure situation:

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1. Identify the problem.2. State your thoughts and feelings.3. Say what you would like to happen instead.4. Explain the results if the change is not made.5. Your body language should match what you

say.6. If your date keeps pressuring you, they do not

respect your feelings and you should consider not dating that person.


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Group ActivityGroup Activity

Refusal skills—knowing what to say



Protective Factors for unwanted sexual activity

PROTECTIVE FACTOR:

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• Anything that decreases the likelihood of someone engaging in a risky behavior.

• Protective factors include:

1. a good relationship with parents2. being involved in school and the community3. having a commitment to abstinence



Risk Factors for sexual activity:

• Alcohol• Drugs• Having sexually active friends• Dating older people

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Building Self Esteem

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•A healthy self-esteem helps you resist pressure to do things you know are unhealthy.

•The next slide has tips for building self esteem.


Saying No

• Practicing your refusal skills makes it easier to remain abstinent, or avoid unwanted sexual activity.

• The next slide suggests some refusal skills

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Use the “Making GREAT Decisions” model to help you make good choices:


Building Resiliency

• Feeling pressure from someone you trust can be very stressful.

• Resilient people continue to be optimistic when life gets tough.

• The next slide provides eight skills to help you build your resiliency.

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