copyright © ocean consulting group 2009 – all rights reserved welcome to…

Copyright © Ocean Consulting Group 2009 – All Rights Reserved

Welcome to…


Agenda

Part 1: Leadership as a Journey

Part 2: Discovery of your Authentic Self

Part 3: The Empowering of Others


True North - Fundamentals

True North

Positional North

TN = Our individual life (Spiritually connected) purposes, motives & values standards

PN = Where personal/societal sin, individual vices, ignorance are pulling us

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* Authenticity = The least variation between TN and PN



Session 1 - Summary Points

• An Authentic leader is one who has a passion for their purpose, practices their values, leads from their heart, develops connected accountable relationships and builds the self discipline to get results.

• It is a journey (yours alone) following your unique path

• Keeping your “Positional North” aligned closely with your “True North” insures the journey is a success



Session 1 - Summary Points

• We go through the journey in stages – some planned – some unplanned- all intended for growth

• All of us have crucibles – whether they are positive growth experiences or obstacles that hold us back is dependent on our view of them

• Many leaders start out well and then loose their way – be vigilant! – avoid the 5 derailment archtypes


Derailment Archetypes

Imposters – unconsciously lack self awareness and self esteem

Rationalizers – consciously deviate from their values

Glory Seekers – motivated by seeking the world’s acclaim

Loners – Fail to build personal support structures (arrogance/insecurity/narcissism)

Shooting Stars – lack the grounding of an integrated life


Using The “Compass”

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Self Awareness

Values

Motivations

Support Team

Integrated Life

What's my story? What are my Strengths and Developmental Needs?

What are my most deeply held Values? What Principles guide my leadership?

What motivates me? How do I balance my internal and external motivations?

Who are the people I can count on to guide and support me along the way?

How can I integrate all aspects of my life and find fulfillment?



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Self Awareness

What's my story? What are my Strengths and Developmental Needs?


The Fundamental Principle

“Gnothi Seauton”

(Know Thyself)- Inscribed on the wall of the

temple of Apollo at Delphi in Greece during the 6th Century B.C.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Gnothi_Sauton_Reichert-Haus_in_Ludwigshafen.jpg


“To Thine own Self…”

“Being true to yourself is the most important thing. If you are ambitious – that’s great… If not, that’s also fine. Just be true to what you want. Not everyone can be at the top of the class. If they try to be – they may not get there. If they did get there they may not be happy. Know who you are and you can overcome

almost any obstacle, unless you are the obstacle…”

- Lynn Forester CEO of Firstmark


Your Self Awareness

What is that? – Individual/Group Activity

Take 5 minutes and answer the questions 1 & 2 on worksheet page 5 individually, Then…

In your group discuss and share answers to question # 3 & 4.

“Perfection is not the goal of leadership…but to be true to who you are while continuing to develop yourself…” - Peter Drucker


So You Can:

Find your best role

Increase your self confidence

Become consistent (Authentic)

Continually connect with others

Identify/utilize the complimentary skills of others


What Drives your Leadership is What

Drives You…(Peeling Back the Onion)

Authentic Self

Shadow side

Vulnerabilities

Life Story Understanding

Blind Spots

Values MotivationsStrengths Weaknesses

Needs

Desires

Appearance

Leadership Style

Body Language

Presence

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Reading to learn

Introspective (non critical) Thinking

Sampling Opinions of others

Prayer

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Therapeutic Work


Helping Professionals

Business/Life Coaches – guide, nudge, provoke, advise, structure improvements

Consultants/Advisors – provide knowledge, specialized expertise

Christian Counselors – provide Spiritual guidance and insight and suggestions

Psycho-Therapists – provide clinical emotional/cognitive insight, support, clarification, and perspective (Licensed)


“Getting & Sharing”

Public

Hidden

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Ideal Window – The “Authentic You”

How you know yourself

How others know you Get Honest

Feedback from others (whose opinion you

respect)

Give Honest Sharing of

your Knowledge, insight and Feedback

The “Authentic

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Self Awareness

Values

What are my most deeply held Values? What Principles guide my leadership?


What Guides our Leadership?

“Core” of the onion Stuff

Life Goals Beliefs and Convictions

Values that form the basis for Leadership

Leadership Principles/ Standards & Ethical Boundaries

Who we are/where we come from

Who we want to

be

What is Important to us

How/why we want to lead


Values, Principles & Boundaries

Values: The relative importance of the things that matter in your life

Leadership Principles: A set of standards used in leading others (derived from values) which are translated into actions.

Ethical Boundaries: The limits you place on your actions based on your standards of ethical behavior


Your Values

What do you really value? – Individual/Group Activity

Take 10 minutes - Fill out the values inventory on Page 6/7 – Then - Answer all of the questions (2 -4) on worksheet page 8 individually. Then…

In your group discuss and share some of your answers with each other

“When you are in trouble and all your defenses get stripped away, you realize what matters and who matters. That’s when you need to get back to your roots and your values - David Gergan


Leadership Principles


Help in Holding Boundaries

Don’t take first step!

If you do… confess, repent, reform

Peer support – “stay in the herd”

Accountability – open to feedback

Look at values often

Open to feedback



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Self Awareness

Values

Motivations

What motivates me? How do I balance my internal and external motivations?


Your Motivations

What Motivates us? – Individual/Group Activity

Take 5 minutes and read the excerpt on page 8 individually, Then…

In your group discuss and share some of observations and insights on the reading

“Only a few of us can do great things, but all of us can do small things with great love”

- Mother Teresa


Motivators

IntrinsicDerived from your True NorthExamples:

Personal GrowthSatisfaction of doing good workHelping othersFinding meaning from effortsBeing true to beliefsMaking a difference in the world

ExtrinsicDerived from the external worldExamples:

WealthWinning competitions/public recognitionHaving power, title, position or social statusSymbols such as cars, jewelry, and “stuff”


Motivated Capabilities

Motivations

Capabilities

Sweet Spot

Intrinsic

Motivation

Extrinsic

Motivation

Strengths

Weaknesses

“Find out what you are good at and what you like to do”

- Dr. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi


Your Motivators

What Motivates us? – Individual/Group Activity

Now – Answer individually the questions on worksheet Pg 10



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Support Team

Who are the people I can count on to guide and support me along the way?


Building a Support Team Your “MIP”

Family Mentors Close Friends Personal Support Group Professional Support Network Personal BOD


Your Support Team

Who can we count on? – Individual/Group Activity

Take 5 minutes and do the checklist on page 10 individually, Then…

In your group discuss and share some of observations and insights on the three questions about friendships

“Always have some people around you who will tell you the truth…” - Warren Bennis


Building Enduring Friendships

“Getting a great relationship is not so much a matter of finding the right

person but of being the right person”

- Josh McDowell

How to make Friends

How to keep Friends

How to be a Friend


Making & Keeping Friends

Ask people for “their story” & listen

Spend time

Be intentional – reach out

Have fun together (laugh/play/engage)

Find “common threads” to your lives

Share/support common values


Being a Friend

Be the friend you want others to be

Keep Pursuing (before being pursued)

Support people verbally

Give and receive (feedback & disclosure)

Reminders of their value (notes/calls/thoughtful remembrances)



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Self Awareness

Values

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Support Team

Integrated Life

How can I integrate all aspects of my life and find fulfillment?


The “Buckets” of Life

Work and career

Family

Friends and Important Relationships

Community

Ministry

World at large

The same person

(Authentic You) in

each environment

Personal Pursuits


Integrating Life

How do we stay grounded and Integrate all the aspects of life? – Individual/Group Activity

In your group brainstorm, discuss and share observations, ideas and insights on these questions about Integration

“The hardest choices you and the people you counsel will have to make will not be between good and evil, but between good and good”

- Dr. Howard Hendricks


Integration – the Biggest Challenge

Keeping Grounded

Balancing our Choices

Measures of Success


The Balanced Scorecard

Vision &

Strategy

Financial To succeed financially, how should we appear to our shareholders?

Internal Processes To satisfy customers and shareholders, what business processes must we excel at?

Learning & Growth To achieve our vision how will we sustain our ability to change and improve?

Customer To achieve our vision, how should we appear to our customers?

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Kaplan & Norton


Balanced Scorecard (Life)

Personal Mission, Vision, Goals

Personal To succeed & have satisfaction in all life dimensions what must I do, change, improve

Family & Friends To have the quality of family & relationships that I desire what must I do, change, improveCommunity &

Ministry To make my unique contribution, add value & make a difference what must I do, change, improve

Career & Finance To do work I love & to have the resources needed for life what must I do, change, improve

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Moving Toward Integration

What we Expect: I know what I want

I have what I want


Moving Toward Integration

What we Expect: I know what I want

I have what I want

What Usually Happens:I know what I want

I have what I want

Setback

Difficulty

Problem

Pressure

Conflict

Fatigue

Upset

Meltdown

Progress Progress

Progress

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derailment archtypes

self discipline

individual life

self esteem rationalizers