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© 2008 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved
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Chapter
McGraw-Hill/Irwin
Dealing
with
Conflict
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Interpersonal Dynamics
Interpersonal dynamics – are the give and
take behavior between people during human
relations
Interpersonal dynamics grow increasingly
complex as more people interact
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Key Topics of Interpersonal
Dynamics
Transactional
Analysis
Assertiveness
Conflict
Management
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Transactional Analysis (TA)
Method for determining how people interact
When we interact, behavior can be:
passive
aggressive
assertive
Performance is greater with this behavior
TA is a method of understanding behavior in
interpersonal dynamics
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TA: Ego States
Major ego states that affect our behavior or
the way we transact through communication:
Parent Ego State (P)
Critical parent
Sympathetic parent
Child Ego State (C)
Natural child
Adapted child
Adult Ego State (A)
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TA: Types of Transactions
Within ego states there are three different
types of transactions:
Complementary Transactions
Crossed Transactions
Ulterior Transactions
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Complementary Transactions
Occur when the sender
of the message gets the
intended response from
the receiver
Generally result in more
effective communication
Supervisor
P
A
C
P
A
C
Employee
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Crossed Transactions
Occur when the sender
of a message does not
get the expected
response from the
receiver
These result in surprise,
disappointment, and hurt
feelings for the sender of
the message
P
A
C
P
A
C
Supervisor Employee
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Ulterior Transactions
Occur when the words seem to be coming from one ego state, but in reality the words or behaviors are coming from another
Sometimes when people don’t know what they want or how to ask for it in a direct way, they resort to ulterior transactions
Best to avoid ulterior transactions because they tend to waste time
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TA: Life Positions
I’m OK –
You’re not OK
I’m OK –
You’re OK
I’m not OK –
You’re not OK
I’m not OK –
You’re OK
Negative Positive
Attitude toward Others
Att
itu
de
tow
ard
On
esel
f
Negative
Positive
Exhibit 7.1
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TA: Stroking
Stroking – any behavior that implies
recognition of another’s presence
Positive – make people feel good about
themselves
Negative – can hurt people in some way
Giving praise (positive stroking) is a powerful
motivation technique
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Assertiveness
The process of expressing thoughts and feelings while asking for what one wants in an appropriate way
Present your message without falling into the traps of being: “too pushy” (aggressive)
“not tough enough” (nonassertive-passive)
Is becoming more global
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Behaviors when dealing with a
diversity of people:
Passive
Behavior
Aggressive
Behavior
Passive-Aggressive
Behavior
Assertive
Behavior
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Passive, Assertive, and Aggressive
Speakers:
Passive speakers: Use self-limiting qualifying expressions
without stating their position / needs
Assertive speakers: State their position / needs without violating
the rights of others
Aggressive speakers: State their position / needs while violating the
rights of others using “you-messages” and
absolutes
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Assertive Behavior
Generally the most productive behavior
Usually the most effective method of getting
what you want while not taking advantage of
others
Being assertive can create a win-win situation
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Assertiveness Steps
Step 1. Set an Objective:
Specify what you want to accomplish
Step 2. Determine how to create a win-win situation:
Assess the situation in terms of meeting your needs and the other person’s needs
Step 3. Develop an assertive phrase(s)
Step 4. Implement your plan persistently
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Anger and Violence in the
Workplace Human resources managers have reported
increased violence between employees
Women commit nearly 25 percent of all threats or attacks
Violence between outsiders and employees is increasing
1 million workers are assaulted every year
Anger can lead to violence
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Causes of Anger and Violence
Intrapersonal causes:
e.g., frustration, stress, and fear
Interpersonal unresolved conflicts
Physical work environment:
e.g., space to work, noise, odors, temperature,
ventilation, and color
Hostile work environment
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Dealing with Your Anger
Use rational thinking
Look for positives
Look for the humor in the situation to help defuse the anger
Use assertive behavior
Develop a positive attitude about how you deal with anger
Use an anger journal
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Dealing with Anger of Others (1 of 2)
Never make any type of putdown statement
Don’t respond to anger and threats with the
same behavior
Don’t give orders or ultimatums
Watch your nonverbal communication
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Dealing with Anger of Others (2 of 2)
Realize that anger is natural and encourage
people to vent in appropriate ways
Acknowledge the person’s feelings
Get away from the person if necessary
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Signs of Potential Violence
Take verbal threats
seriously
Watch nonverbal
communication
Watch for stalking and
harassment
Watch for damage to
property
• Watch for indications
of alcohol and drug
use
• Include the isolated
employee
• Look for the presence
of weapons or objects
that might be used as
weapons
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Organizational Prevention of
Violence (1 of 2)
Train all employees to deal with anger and
prevent violence
A written policy addressing workplace violence
Best preventive policy is a zero-tolerance policy
Quick disciplinary action against employees
who are violent at work
Managers need to avoid using aggression at
work
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Organizational Prevention of
Violence (2 of 2)
Organizations can screen job applicants for
past or potential violence
Develop a good work environment that
addresses the issues as causes of violence
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Individual Prevention of Violence
Look for escalating frustration and anger to
defuse the situation before it becomes violent
Never be alone with a potentially violent
person
Never stand between the person and the exit
Know when to get away from the person
Be aware of the organization’s policy for
calling in security help
Report any troubling incidents to security staff
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Conflict
Exists whenever two or more parties are in
disagreement
Is inherent in an organizational system
Can increase as the workforce becomes
more diverse
Dealing with it is part of emotional
intelligence
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Reasons for Conflict
Communications problems or conflicts arise
for three primary reasons:
1. We fail to make our expectations known to
other parties
2. We fail to find out the expectations of other
parties
3. We assume that the other parties have the
same expectations that we have
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Conflict Has Benefits
Conflict can be beneficial
A balance of conflict is essential to all organizations
Too little or too much conflict is usually considered a sign of management’s unwillingness or inability to adapt to a diversified environment
Conflict can lead to improved performance, for example: Challenging present methods
Presenting innovative change
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Conflict Management Styles
Exhibit 7.4
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Summary of Conflict Management
Styles
Forcing Conflict Style: User attempts to resolve conflict by using aggressive
behavior
Avoiding Conflict Style: User attempts to passively ignore the conflict rather
than resolve it
Accommodating Conflict
Style:
User attempts to resolve conflict by passively giving
in to the other party
Compromising Conflict
Style:
User attempts to resolve the conflict through
assertive give-and-take concessions
Collaborating Conflict
Style:
User assertively attempts to jointly resolve the
conflict with the best solution agreeable to all parties.
The problem-solving style
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Roles in Conflict Resolution
Initiator
Responder
Mediator
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Initiating Conflict Resolution
Step 1. Plan to maintain ownership of the
problem using the XYZ model
Step 2. Implement your plan persistently
Step 3. Make an agreement for change
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The XYZ Model
The XYZ model describes a problem in
terms of behavior, consequences, and
feelings:
“When you do X (behavior),
Y (consequences) happens,
and I have Z (feelings).”
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Responding to Conflict Resolution
Step 1. Listen to and paraphrase the problem
using the XYZ model
Step 2. Agree with some aspect of the
complaint
Step 3. Ask for, and / or give, alternative
solutions
Step 4. Make an agreement for change
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Mediating Conflict Resolution
Step 1. Have each party state his or her
complaint using the XYZ model
Step 2. Agree on the problem(s)
Step 3. Develop alternative solutions
Step 4. Make an agreement for change and
follow up
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Interpersonal Dynamics Styles
Exhibit 7.6
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Your Personality and Interpersonal
Dynamics (1 of 3)
People with the same personality type tend to
get along better and have less conflict than
those with different personality types
If you have a high surgency personality –
watch your use of the critical parent ego state
be sure to give lots of positive strokes to help
human relations
be careful not to use aggressive behavior to get
what you want
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Your Personality and Interpersonal
Dynamics (2 of 3)
If you have a high agreeableness personality,
you tend to get along well with others
be careful not to use the sympathetic parent ego
state
watch the appropriate use of the child ego state
Adjustment – is about how well you deal
with your emotions
especially anger
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Your Personality and Interpersonal
Dynamics (3 of 3)
There is a relationship between adjustment
and openness to experience
If you are not well adjusted, you are probably not
open to experience
If you are a high conscientious personality,
you can still transact from the parent or child
ego state