dealing with difficult patrons workshop
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DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PATRONS:Safety & Security at Our Libraries
Dr. Steve Albrecht, PHR, CPP, BCCSan Diego, CA
(619) [email protected]
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Your Personal Safety
Consistent approaches to
challenging people
Customer Service
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Our Motto
We can accept the person without having to accept his or her
inappropriate behavior.
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Some Themes . . .Profiles or behaviors?Peace or justice?What should asking for help mean?Chain of command or not?How do we align with patrons?If there are no consequences . . .Acting skills . . . Do your job or do your job safely?
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What is the“New”
Workplace?Entitled or angry patrons (who miss the “old” library).Patrons who don’t know or ignore our rules.Uncertain times, more stress, less money, for all.Employees who must do more, with less, and faster than ever before.Our “72 / 7” world mirrors their world.
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Who is Responsible for Safety and Security Here?
Every employee.Every supervisor.
Every department head.Even our elected officials.
Not just our law enforcement partners.Our patrons too.
We all share in these responsibilities.
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Your Secrets to a Safe Workplace
Self-Protection: You can’t take care of others if you’re not safe from harm.
Stress and Anger Management: You can’t take care of others or yourself if you’re losing it.
Working Smart: Know what to say, what to do, when to stay or go, who to call, and how to get help.
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Tough SituationsEntitled, angry, threatening, or eccentric patrons.Unruly children and teenagers (and animals).Stalking behaviors by patrons.Domestic violence comes to the library.No security and missing police.Door dashers, gate crashers, and thieves.The homeless and the mentally ill.Criminals, substance abusers, gang members.Internet hogs and Internet creeps.Stinkers, talkers, smokers, bathers, eaters, and
sleepers.
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When Do I Do What I Know I Should Do?
When it hurts our business.When my intuition kicks in.When other co-workers or patrons are afraid.When other co-workers or patrons complain.When I know I need to set limits and boundaries.When it fails the “reasonable employee” test.Be firm, fair, consistent, and assertive to deal with
people and protect yourself and your co-workers.
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I’m probably overreacting. . .I’ll stop it if he or she does “X”. . .They’ll go away soon. . .Maybe if I just wait her out. . .It’s not really that bad. . .It’s not my job to handle that. . .I’m not a cop, psychologist, or a social worker. . .Asking for help means I can’t do my job . . .
Don’t Rationalize Irrational Behavior
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Our Rules of ConductSmoking.Soliciting for money.Interfering with the safe use of the library.Bikes or skateboards.Theft or vandalism.Misuse of restrooms.Shirts and shoes.Unattended children.
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Our Rules of ConductAnimals.Sleeping.Food and drink.Electronic devices.Hygiene.Unattended belongings.Blocking aisles and exits.
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Our Security PlanPrioritizing incidents by severity.
Do you have to be “in charge” to call the Police?
Spirit of the security plan versus letter of the plan?
The need for consistency of message.
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Introduce / Ask / ExplainIntroduce yourself. Try to get the person’s
name.
Explain:
“I noticed that . . . ““The reason I’m here is . . .”“I’m sure you already know this, but . . .”
Ask: “I need to ask you to . . .”“I need to ask you to . . .”
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What is Workplace Violence?As defined by the media:
“a disgruntled ex-employee with a gun.…”
For our purposes, it’s any incident that:makes it hard for you to come to work, stay at work, or do your work, because you are afraid; threatens the safety of any employee or visitor.causes damage to facility or personal property.starts at home and crosses over to work.
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Perpetrators of Workplace Violence per OSHA
Type 1: Criminals.
Type 2: Taxpayers, customers, students, patients, passengers, vendors, etc.
Type 3: Current or former employees.
Type 4: Current or former spouse/partner of an employee.
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Troubled or Troubling Employees?
Angry?Depressed?“Injustice Collector”?Substance abuse?Bully or bullied?Significant off-the-job problems?Facing discipline or termination?Talks of using violence or workplace violence cases?Other people are concerned?Hunter or Howler?
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Safe and Secure WorkplacesIf you see something, say something.Make it a habit to scan your environment.Think of possible scenarios.Look for security weaknesses and security
equipment failures (doors, locks, lights).Make sure all facility doors and windows are
locked at the end of the day.
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Suspicious ActivitiesLook for people:
loitering in unauthorized or restricted areas;not wearing ID, uniforms, or safety gear;who act like they are lost;who seem too interested in our employees;who scare others with threatening or irrational behavior;who leave quickly after abandoning a package;taking photos or videos;who seem too interested in our activities;who seem like “vendors,” but are in the wrong place;who leave cars in odd locations, or overloaded cars.
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Our Service ThemesGood service is about good feelings.
It’s more than just smiling or being friendly; it’s an attitude that comes from wanting to help our patrons from the moment they arrive.
Feelings are contagious.
Even if you do the same tasks over and over (and over), it’s new to our patrons.
Word-of-mouth plays a huge part in our success.
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Beating BurnoutService jobs can be challenging. If you have high human
contact and low control over the work you do, it’s easy to get or look bored, go home tired, or even quit.
Sometimes it can help to see yourself as an actor or an actress in a play. Same performance for you; new performance for our guests.
So give them a good show each time.
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Service Sins and GracesSeven Sins and Seven Graces
1. Apathy2. The Brush-off3. Coldness4. Condescension5. Robotism6. The Rulebook7. The Runaround
1. Empathy2. Attentive 3. Warmth4. Respect5. Engaging6. Flexibility7. Responsive
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Keeping it Special 1. Greet each patron immediately or when passing by.
2. Give each patron you meet your complete attention.
3. Make the first 30 seconds count for our patrons.
4. Play your part to be real, not phony or bored.
5. Show your energy with sincere friendliness.
6. Be the patron’s problem-solver.
7. Use your common sense.
8. Bend the rules when the situation calls for it.
9. Make the last 30 seconds count for our patrons.
10. Take good care of yourself.
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Challenging “Customers”Angry or entitled patronsVandalsGang membersMentally illSubstance abusersInternet hogs and weirdosThievesAngry or entitled parents
TransientsPedophiles and deviantsObnoxious regularsNon-English speakersTeenagersUnattached small childrenElderly or disabled Co-workers with “issues”
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““I’ve never had a I’ve never had a problem with problem with drugs. I’ve had drugs. I’ve had problems with the problems with the police.” police.”
Keith RichardsKeith RichardsThe Rolling StonesThe Rolling Stones
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S.H.O.C.A.D.I.DsStimulants cocaine, meth, Ritalin, AdderallHallucinogens LSD, Ecstasy, mushroomsOpiates heroin, pain pills, MethadoneCannabis marijuana, hashish, hash oilAlcohol beer, wine, distilled spiritsDepressants anti-anxiety, tranquilizers, ValiumInhalants solvents, aerosols, gasesDissociative Anesthetics PCP, Ketamine, DXMSource: California Narcotics Officers Association
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Face-to-Face or Over-the-Counter
Assess people. Read the body language signs of anger versus cooperation.Think about past encounters.Move closer to build rapport. Stay back if they are angry.Use space and distance and proxemic barriers.Practice venting and validation.Use physical movement and the Assertive Whisper.
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Telephone Skills
Over the phone, body language is missing, so tone is all we have.Neutral, friendly, polite.Get permission to put them on hold.Get a callback number.Under-promise and over-perform.Set boundaries for their bad behavior.
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What Not to Say:Here’s What Usually Doesn’t
Work“You need to calm down, sir!”“That’s not our policy.” “What you need to understand is . . .”“I can’t help you. I don’t know who can.”“I’m going on my break. You’ll have to
call or come back later.”“You didn’t read the instructions or
directions.”
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Phrases That May Work“You can’t do that if you want to stay here . . .”“I can see you’re upset . . .”“I’m sorry. I’m not trying to make you mad.”“You could be right . . .”“It’s not me, it’s the computer . . .”“Please help me do my job for you. . .”“I can take your name and cell number for my supervisor if you’d like . . .”
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Safe Rooms and the“Run, Hide, Fight” Response
Why?Where?Knowing the Outs: Figure OutGet OutHide OutKeep OutSpread OutTake Out
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Top Ten Tips1. Trust your intuition. 2. Be “assertively polite.”
3. Try a lighter touch first. 4. Know when to change the ratios of
confrontation. 5. Stay in Condition Yellow around the public.
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Top Ten Tips
6. Change your position; use space and barriers.
7. Practice “If-Then” thinking.
8. Report every incident where you or others felt afraid.
9. Work as a team. 10. Be a shepherd.
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Be willing to do whatever it takes to solve the patron’s problem, safely and effectively.
Think on your feet at the same time as you follow our policies.
Results, Not Just Rules
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