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Dealing with Difficult People Series

No, I’ve Never Met Anyone Who Was Difficult

By Dr Judy Esmond

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Delightfully Difficult People

In my ‘dealing with delightfully difficult people’ conference presentations and workshops I always ask the attendees to...




Difficult Person in Your Life

Raise their hand if they

have ever met, dealt with or

escaped from a difficult person

in their life.


Without hesitation all hands shoot up into the air. After all, haven’t we all come across someone who we have found difficult at some time?

Except one day, one hand stayed down.

Have You Met A Difficult Person




There was silence from the rest of the audience in the conference hall.

“You have never found the behavior of someone else to be difficult?” I asked again.

Silence in The Conference Hall




“No never!”

“I’ve never met a difficult person”, she said firmly.

No I Never Have


“So what do you do when you disagree with someone?” I queried.

“I never disagree with anyone”, she said, “I just always walk away and I never argue, I never have conflict and…

What If You Disagree?


Hidden in There?

“I have never met a difficult person and I like everyone”.

And there - ‘hidden’ in the response was the answers to my questions.




When we avoid ever expressing a difference of opinion with others, we may avoid difficult situations but…

Avoiding Situations


We also devalue the importance of our own thoughts, ideas and opinions being heard.

Value Your Own Importance




Accept That This Happens

Just accept that this happens - you cannot like or be liked by everyone.





Do Not Blame or Shame

Your behavior can be difficult and other people’s behavior can be difficult.

Don’t blame, don’t shame!


Acceptance and Growth

For as Peter McWilliams explains:

“Acceptance is such an important commodity, some have called it the first law of personal growth”.




You may not get on with everyone you meet and they may not like you and that is alright. You may disagree with others and they with you – that’s alright too.

Not With Everyone




You may find that there are people who you meet in your life whose behavior you will find annoying, frustrating and difficult to deal with and that’s alright as well.

People Can Be Frustrating




Accept these differences. But most of all, make it your aim to focus your time and energy on…

Where to Focus Your Time?




Strategies for yourself on how to deal with those behaviors in others you find the most difficult.

Your Own Strategies


Would you like more ideas? Then I invite you to get my Free Book on ‘Dealing with Difficult People: 17 Ideas on How to Handle Difficult People’ at http://www.nodifficultpeople.com

See you there!

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Dealing with Difficult People!


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