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Mehow,   Inc.  Confidential   and  Proprietary   -­‐  Copyright  2008  Mehow™,   Inc.  www.mehow.tv   and  http://www.mehowgetthegirl.com      and      http://www.10secondattraction.com  

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Mehow,   Inc.  Confidential   and  Proprietary   -­‐  Copyright  2008  Mehow™,   Inc.  www.mehow.tv   and  http://www.mehowgetthegirl.com      and      http://www.10secondattraction.com  

 

 The  7   Jealously  7Guarded  Secrets  For  Destroying  Your  Approach  Anxiety"  by  Mehow    Copyright  2008,  Mehow,  Inc.  All  rights  reserved.  

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Contents  Contents ......................................................................................................................................... 1  What                                                                                   is                                                                                   Approach                                                                                   Anxiety? ......................................................................................................................................................... 1  The                                                                                                                                           Seven                                                                                                                                           Secrets ......................................................................................................................................................... 2  No#  1:  Talk  to  Women  as  Soon  as  Possible ............................................................................... 2  No#  2:  Get  in  the  Moment ......................................................................................................... 3  No#  3:  This  is  All  a  Simulation  and  You  Don’t  Give  a  Shit .......................................................... 4  No#  4:  Think  of  All  the  Women  as  Fat  Seals .............................................................................. 5  No#  5:  The  Seven  Points  of  Attention ........................................................................................ 5  No#  6:    The  Green  Ball  Meditation ............................................................................................ 5  No#  7:  “The  Social  Revolutionary”  Exercises ............................................................................. 7  The  Inner  Game  Test .................................................................................................................. 8  

       

What   is  Approach  Anxiety?  Approach  Anxiety  (AA)   is,  typically,  that  feeling  of  fear  you  get  when  you  are  about  to  approach  a  woman  you  don’t  know.  

 One   theory   traces   its  origins   to   primeval   days  when  we   lived   in   100  person   tribes.   In   that   time  period,  approaching   a  woman   that  might   have   belonged   to   someone   else  meant   possible   death.   Hence,   some  theorize  that  the  fear  of  approach  was  meant  to  protect  men  from  making  a  potentially   fatal  mistake.  

 These  days,  that   isn’t  true  at  all,  but  our  brains  haven’t  evolved  past   it.    Approach  Anxiety   is  something  that  any  and  every  man  feels  before  starting  an   interaction  with  a  woman  he  doesn’t  know.     As  we  practice,  this  decreases  somewhat  but   it  never  really  goes  away.  

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That  said,  the  feeling  of  euphoria  you  get  after  having  a  good  night  or  day   interacting  with  women  is  also  a  consequence  of  the  anxiety.     If   it  weren’t  so  difficult  to  do  this  sometimes,  the  victory  wouldn’t  taste      so   sweet.  

 Regardless  of  our  intellectual  understanding  of  AA,  it   is  simply  a  fact  of  dating  and  we  have  to  get  past  it.  

     

The  Seven  Secrets  Here  are  my  Seven  Secrets  for  dealing  with  AA  in  order  of   importance.    No#  1:  Talk  to  Women  as  Soon  as  Possible  After  years  of  dating   interactions,  and  consistently  watching  my  students  and  coaches,   the   thing   that  makes  the  biggest  difference   in  managing  AA   is   immediate   interaction,  regardless  of   the  situation.     In    the  daytime,  when  you  see  a  woman  you  are  attracted  to,   immediately  start  a  conversation  with  her  even  if   its  with  something   like,  “Heeeyy  …  do  you  have  the  time?”     If  you  are  out  practicing  deliberately  to  meet  women,  as  soon  as  you  get  to  or  near  the  area  you  are  sarging  immediately  open.     For  example,  I  will  start  a  conversation  with  women  on  the  street  as  I’m  walking  up  to  my  favorite  club.     I’ll  do  it  again  as  soon  as  I  reach  the  top  floor  where  I  typically  meet  women.     The  outcomes  of  the  initial   interactions  don’t  matter,  what  matters  are   that  they  took  place.  

 Allow  me  to  explain  how  this  works  with  an  analogy.    Many  years  ago  I  was  a  stereotypical  rescue  jockey.     I  was  on  both  the  rescue  squad  and  the  local  search  and  rescue  team.    One  day  we  were  called  to  a  plane  crash.     I  happened  to  be  the  first  responder  and    we,  along  with  a  lot  of  luck  on  his  part,  saved  the  pilot.     But  I  very  clearly  remember  the  crashed  aircraft.  After  that  experience   I  was  mortally  afraid  of  flying.     Regardless,   in  this  society,  you  can’t  exist  without  flying.    So  I  had  to.     I  flew  a  lot.    And  as  I  flew  more  and  more,  my  fear  of  flying  went  away  pretty  much  completely.     The  reason  was  that  over  and  over,  the  plane  didn’t  crash.     After   loads  of  positive  interactions  my  brain’s  bad  programming  was   replaced  by  good  programming.     Now   I’m  actually   training  to  be  a  pilot.  

 When  we  are  meeting  women,  the  same  thing  will  happen.    We  want  to  give  our  brain  feedback      contrary   to   its   irrational   impulses  of  Armageddon  when  we  talk   to   that  21-­‐year-­‐old  woman.     Obviously,  every  time  we  start  any  conversation  nothing  actually  bad  or  harmful  ever  happens.     With   this   technique  we  simply  give  our  brains  that  feedback  as  soon  as  possible.  

 This  technique  has  proven  over  and  over  again  to  radically  reduce  approach  anxiety.     After  you  have  your  first   few   interactions,  the  rest  go  way  easier.  

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No#  2:  Get  in  the  Moment  Most  of  the  time,  most  humans,  aren’t  in  the  moment.     They  are  lost  in  their  thoughts  or  emotions.     The  truth   is  that  you  are  not  your  thoughts  or  emotions.     You  are  something  far  greater  and  more  special  than  any  of  that.     You  are  your  consciousness,  that  which  guides  and  observes  your  thoughts  and  emotions.     Being   in  the  moment,  means  being  fully  present  with  all  your  senses   in  a  particular  environment  and  not   letting  your   thoughts  or  emotions  run  you.  

 Being   fully  present   is   invaluable   in  dating.    Here  is  the  latest  rendition  of  the  drill  I  use  to  get  in  the  moment  (this  is  excerpted  from  the  Group  Attraction  Manifesto  Vol.  1).   I  perform  this  drill  at  the  beginning  of  every  practice  session:  

 “If  you  haven’t  read  Eckhart  Tolle’s  excellent  book,   ‘The  Power  of  Now,’  you  should  go  to  your  nearest  bookstore  and  purchase  a   copy.  

 The  following  is  a  brief  meditation  exercise  that  I  use  to  ‘get  in  the  moment’  in  a  club.  It’s  based  on  Eckhart’s   work.  

 Stand  someplace  where  there   is  no  traffic   in  the  venue  so  you  don’t’  get   interrupted  for  30  seconds  and  then  perform   the   following  meditation  with  your  eyes  closed:  

 “I  want  you  to  listen  to  all  sounds  in  the  environment  …  pay  particular  attention  to  the  music,  the  sounds  of   laughter,  the  sounds  of  everyone  talking,  the  sounds  of  people’s   footsteps  …  really  notice  all  of  the  sounds  in  the  environment  …  if  any  thoughts  or  feelings  pop  into  your  mind,  I  want  you  to  simply  let  them  go.  …  keep  paying  attention  to  the  sounds  in  the  environment  …  note  that  you  are  not  your  thoughts  or  emotions.  Note  that  your  consciousness  …  The  True  You  …  is  the  observer  of  the  sounds,  your  own  thoughts  and  emotions.  Keep  paying  attention  to  the  sounds   in  the  environment.  …   if  any  thoughts  or  feelings  pop  into  your  mind  I  want  you  to  simply  let  them  go  …  now  as  you  pay  attention  to  the  sounds  you  will  notice  a  very  warm  feeling  of  positive  energy  well  up  within  you.  It  will  come  from  inside.  This   is  you  feeling  the   joy  of  your  own  being  accessed  through  your  presence.  Now  keep  paying  attention  to  the  sounds  in  the  environment  and  the  joy  of  your  own  being  and  when  you  have  fully  accessed  the  joy  of  your  own  being  …  slowly  open  your  eyes  …  remain  present  and  open  the  nearest  set.”  

 You  can  also  record  yourself  doing  this  and  play  it  back  on  an  mp3  player  or  listen  to  me  doing  it  in  the  audio   book.  

 I  go  through  this  exercise  at  least  once  a  night  and  it  alters  my  state  to  a  more  positive  one  every  time.”  

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No#  3:  This  is  All  a  Simulation  and  You  Don’t  Give  a  Shit  Not  caring  about  outcomes   is  not  only   important  tactically   in  every  romantic   interaction  but   it’s  also  insanely   important  to  keep  a  happy  state.  

 You  want  to  be   in  the  moment  and  nothing  will  mess  that  up  quicker  than  your  subconscious  spinning  endless  thoughts  of,  “OMG!     She’s  soo  hot,  what  if  she  rejects  me?”  or  “What  if   I  have  nothing  to  say?”  

 The  answer  to  this  is  simple.     Really  truly  don’t  care.     You  will  have  loads  of  attractive  women  soon  enough.     One  more  or   less  doesn’t  matter.  

 Social   interactions  are  best  thought  of  as  a  video  game.     These  women  don’t  know  you.     Until  you  get  good  at  this,  most  of  the  women,  most  of  the  time  will  have  no  idea  of  who  you  really  are  because  the  interaction  won’t   last   long  enough  for  them  to  know.     They  aren’t  evaluating  you;  they  are  evaluating  your  performance.     Just   like  a  computer  that  decides  whether  you  moved  the  mouse  fast  enough  to  avoid  that   incoming  bullet   in  your  favorite  3D  shooter  (but  I  don’t  know  anything  about  that  J).     The  entire  interaction  is  a  very  logarithmic  evaluation  of  who  you  appear  to  be,  not  you.     It  really   is  just  a  computer   game.  

 Do  you  really  give  a  shit  when  you  die  in  a  computer  game?  

Probably   not.  

Some  people  positively  get  off  on  dying   in  a  computer  game.  

As  so  should  you   in  any  social  environment.  

I  remind  myself  of  this  by  saying  to  myself  “I  don’t  give  a  shit!”  right  before  I  open  a  set.    You  can  take  this  even  further  and  deliberately  blow  sets  up  in  all  sorts  of  crazy  ways.  Try  taking  any  of  the  techniques  I  gave  you  in  my  other  works  and   just  overflow  them  with  harsh  teasing  and   indicators  of  disinterest   like  …  

 “You  guys  look  like  the  hottest  …  homeless  girls   in  this  entire  club.     Do  you  guys  always  shop  at  Salvation  Army?    …  Oh,  I  see  …  you  guys  love  me  …  ok  …  I’m  going  to  borrow  your  friend  here  and  take  her      outback  where  were  going  to  drink  some  20/20  and  after   I’m  hammered  enough  to  think  she’s  hot,  we’ll  have  hot  unprotected  homeless  sex   in  my  shopping  cart  …  we’ll  make   little  homeless  babies  that  we’ll  then  give  to  celebrities  to  adopt  for  money.”  

 If  you  say  that  to  a  group  of  girls  and  they  like  you,  stay  in  the  group.     If  you  say  that  to  a  group  of  girls  and  they  hate  you  then  congrats!  …  you  just  proved  to  yourself  that  you  don’t  care.  

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NOTE  of  CAUTION:    When  using  insane  material   like  the  above,  don’t  go  so  over  the  top  that  you  get  thrown  out  of  the  club.     Then  again,  if  you  get  thrown  out,  who  cares?  

 

No#  4:  Think  of  All  the  Women  as  Fat  Seals  Sometimes  I  walk  into  the  club  or  see  a  woman  I  want  to  talk  to  in  the  daytime  and  I  think  of  her  as  a  fat,  helpless  seal  stuck  on   land.  

 Sometimes,  I’ll  actually  tease  with,  “If  we  were  seals  …  this  one  would  be  going  ‘ARF,  ARF,  ARF.’”    This  just  straight  erases  a  lot  of  fear.     You  can  use  any  other  image  you  want  as  long  as  it  erases  your  fear.  

 For  example,  think  of  them  as  Twinkie   loving  fatties  that  are  so  fat  they  can  barely  breathe.     “MMMM  …  oh  yea  …  did  you  hear  that  Hostess  is  coming  out  …  with  a  new  Twinkie  next  week  …  its  double    chocolate  fudge  on  the  inside  …  MMM    …  oh  yea  …  can’t  you  just  taste  that  warm  creamy  filling  in  your  mouth?”     I  wouldn’t  say  that  to  most  girls,  I’m  just  getting  you   in  the  mood.  

 Or  think  of  them  as  smurfs,  Etc.    No#  5:  The  Seven  Points  of  Attention1  It  turns  out  that  if  you  try  to  pay  attention  to  too  many  things  at  once  your  mind  can’t  process  that  and  you  enter  a  blessed  out  state  of  trance.     These  types  of  techniques  can  go  pretty  deep  (more  on  that  later)  but  for  now  let  me  give  you  a  simple  version.  

 Focus  on  any  object  in  the  space  around  you.     Now  as  you  are  focusing  on  that  object  also  pay  attention  to  what  is  going  on  in  the  periphery  of  your  vision.     As  you  are  focusing  on  the  object  and  paying  attention  to  the  periphery  pick  out  3  more  objects   in  your  field  of  view  that  you  can  see  without  shifting  your  focus.    Now  pick  one  more.    Note  that  when  you  do  that  your  mind  tends  to  get  all  normal  feeling  and  anxiety  decreases.     Do  the  exercise  for  30  seconds  and  then  turn  around  and  go  talk  to  the  nearest  girl.  

 No#  6:   The  Green  Ball  Meditation  This   is  another  exercise  employing  Neuro  Linguistic  Programming,  particularly   synesthesia.     We  use   this  one  when  coaching  guys  that  have  really   intense  anxiety.     You  can  do  it  on  yourself  by  recording  the  monologue  and  then  listening  to   it  when  you  need  to  (MP3  playing  cell  phones  are   ideal  for  this   infield).  This  version   is  courtesy  of  our  Chief   Instructor,  DJFuji.  

 “Close   your  eyes.  

   1     credit  Steve  Piccus  and  Hypnotica.  

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Take  a  deep  breath.  Feel  your  heart  racing.  Feel  the  blood  rushing  through  your  veins  and  the  pounding  of   your   heartbeat.  

 Feel  the  raw  approach  anxiety  run  through  your  body.  Now  envision   it  as  a  glowing,  green,  neon  energy  flowing   through   your   body.  

 Where  do  you  feel  it?    Feel  it  in  your  toes.  Feel  it  tingling  in  your  finger  tips.  In  the  stiffness  of  your  neck.  In  the  tightness  of  your   shoulders.  

 And  probably  most  of  all,  feel  it  in  the  pit  of  your  stomach  and  in  your  core  –  your  solar  plexus.    The  more  concentrated  the  emotion   is,  the  brighter   it  glows  neon  green.  Watch  and  feel   it   flow  freely  through   your   body.  

 Now  imagine  a  sphere  of  white  energy  surrounding  you  but  not  touching  you.  Your  arms  and   legs  are  stretched  out   in  an  “X”  shape.  

 Now  imagine  the  white  sphere  getting  smaller  and  smaller.  As  it  shrinks,   it  begins  to  touch  your  outstretched  fingertips  and  toes.  As   it  does,  your  body  passes  right  through   it  but  the  white  sphere  drags  that  bright  green  approach  anxiety  with   it  as   it  gets  smaller  and  smaller.  

 The  sphere   is  now  passing  through  your  forearms  and  legs,  collecting  the  neon  glow  of  AA  as  it  continues  to  shrink.  Your  hands  and  feet  are  now  outside  of  the  sphere  and  completely  void  of  any  approach    anxiety.  

 As  the  sphere  continues  to  shrink,   the  approach  anxiety  gets  more  and  more  concentrated  and  glows  brighter  and  hotter.  You  start  to  feel  it  build   in  your  mid  section  as  it  condenses  and  is  collected      together   like  dirt  swept  by  a  broom.  The  sphere  continues  to  shrink,  now  passing  completely   through  your  arms  and  legs  and  collecting  that  AA  in  your  torso  and  stomach  as  it  further  condenses  into  the  size  of  a  basketball   in  your  chest.  

 A   glowing,  green  basketball  of   approach  anxiety.    And   it  shrinks  even  more,  now  so  bright  and  focused  that   it’s  glowing  with  pure,  white-­‐hot  approach  anxiety  energy.  It’s  the  size  of  a  golf  ball  now  and  it  contains  the  focused  energy  of  every  ounce  of  AA  in  your   body.  

 Now  you  reach  up  with  your  hand  and  grab  this  ball  of  energy  from  your  chest  and  hold  it  in  your  hand.  You  have  dragged  this  entire  emotion  from  your  body  and  you  now  hold  it  in  its  entirety  in  the  palm  of  

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your  hand.  It’s  so  focused  that  it  feels  hot  to  the  touch  and  shakes  rapidly  in  your  hand,  as  if  it  were  alive  and  trying  to  get  out.  

 Now  drop  it  on  the  ground,  watch  it  shatter   into  a  million  pieces,  and  approach  the  set.”    No#  7:  “The  Social  Revolutionary”  Exercises  Recall  that  in  #3  I  taught  you  to  “not  give  a  shit,”  i.e.  don’t  care  about  outcomes.     Some  guys  need  a  little  more  help  getting  caring  too  much  out  of  their  system.  

 If  you  do  anything  extreme  that  is  unusual,  but  not  illegal,  this  shows  you  how  much  you  can  get  away  with  without  getting  in  any  real  trouble.     This  shows  your  brain,  for  example,   if  doing  snow  angels  on  the  dance  floor   is  harmless,   then  talking   to  women  must  be  totally  harmless.  

 The  most  extreme  example  I’ve  ever  seen  of  this  type  of  exercise  was  from  a  friend  of  mine  from  Australia.  He  went  to  a  club  he  doesn’t  go  to  very  often  and  just  dropped  his  pants  in  the  middle  of  the  dance  floor.     He  straight  stood  there   in  his  underwear  until  the  bouncers  asked  him  to   leave.     Nothing  else   happened.  

 You  don’t  have  to  always  go  that  extreme  …  you  can  try  one  of  the  following  two  exercises:    Dance  Floor  Snow  Angels  –  go  in  the  middle  of  the  dance  floor,  lay  down  and  do  some  snow  angels  for  20  seconds  then  get  up  and  grind  the  nearest  girl  you  can  find.  

 Ridiculous  Hat  Exercise  –  go  to  a  costume  shop  and  buy  the  most  ridiculous  hat  you  can  find.     Then  go  to  the  mall  and  wear  it  all  day  and  talk  to  every  girl  you  see.     You  are  not  allowed  to  talk  about  the  hat.     If  she  asks  about  the  hat  just  say,  “What  hat?”  and  continue  as  if  the  hat  doesn’t  exist.     If  she  brings  it  up  again  then  say,  “L-­‐aaa-­‐dy!  I  have  no  idea  what  hat  you  are  talking  about.”  

 This  exercise   teaches  your  brain   that   the  actual   limits  of  society’s  behavioral   tolerance  are  way  beyond  what  you  thought  they  were  and  just  about  any  behavior  is  totally  safe.     You  also   learn  to  be   impervious  to   social   pressure.  

 Social  pressure  occurs  when  people  try  to  tool  you  or  stare  at  you  or  react  in  some  non-­‐positive  way  to  something  you  are  doing.     When  doing   these  exercises  we’re  deliberately  doing   things  to  provoke  frequently  non-­‐positive   reactions   from  other  people.     This   teaches  us   that  not  only   is   ridiculous  behavior  on  our  part  ok,  but  that  even  when  people  think  of  us  negatively,   it  still  doesn’t  matter.  

 The  intention  of  this  list  isn’t  for  you  to  use  all  of  the  secrets  at  once.    The  first  3,  I  do  all  the  time.    Try  the  other  exercises,  see  how  they  help  you  and  then  stick  with  the  ones  that  help  you  the  most.  

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For  many  of  you  this  exercise  list  will  be  enough.  For  others  you  will  need  more  work  of  the  inner  game  variety.  Here   is  how  you  can  tell.  

 

The  Inner  Game  Test  If  you  have  2  minutes  without  distractions  perform  the  above  “Get   in  the  Moment”  exercise   (#2).    If  you  get   in  the  moment  and  your  mind  produces   loads  of  anxious  or  distracting  thoughts  and/or  emotions  then  you  need  to  do  more  inner  game  work.  If  you  get  in  the  moment  and  you  don’t  have  a  lot  of  thought  trains  or  emotional  noise   then  your   inner  game   is  probably   largely  complete.  

 How  does  the  test  work?    Well,  when  we   free  our  mind  of  conscious  control,  our  subconscious  will  generally  produce  whatever  the  baseline   thoughts  or  emotions  of  your  existence  are.  

 If  your  baseline  thoughts  are,  “I’m  afraid  of  that  girl  …  I’m  not  good  enough.”  or  “I’m  too  bald  and  old    and  ugly  to  do  this.”  and/or  your  emotions  are  at  all  fear  or  anxiety  based  then  all  that  is  coming  straight  from  your   subconscious.  There   is   an   infinite  quantity  of   subconscious  output  possibilities.  

 The  acid  test  is  whether  that  output  is  useful  to  you.    If  your  subconscious  is  not  producing  useful  output  then  you  need  to  clean  it  up.    There  are  number  of  ways  to  do  that  but  they  all   involve  NLP,  exercises  or   loads  of  successful   infield  time.   If  you  have  negative  subconscious  output,   I  highly   recommend  any   inner  game  product   from  Hypnotica  and  myself.     You  can  get  more   info  on  that  at  www.mehow.tv.  

 Now  you  know  the  Seven  Secrets  to  handling  Approach  Anxiety.      

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