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STEPS to a high
EQ!
DEVELOPING A HEALTHY SELF-ESTEEM
Self-Image • How you picture
yourself Self-Esteem • How you feel about
that picture
SELF-IMAGE VS. SELF-ESTEEM
If you like the picture and it
makes you feel strong,
powerful, or capable, then you probably have high self-
esteem.
If you don’t like the picture and
it makes you feel inferior,
powerless, and capable then you probably have low self-
esteem.
HOW DOES THAT PICTURE (the Total Person, not just a photo or Image in the Mi r ror)
MAKE YOU FEEL?
When you feel good about yourself , you
project confidence and people
treat you differently than they do when you feel poorly about yourself.
Because you are treated well, your positive
believes about yourself are
reinforced and validated and
you project even greater confidence.
Thus perpetuating a Positive cycle!
SELF-ESTEEM IS SELF-PERPETUATING
A negative cycle occurs when you expect and project negative things about yourself.
CHARACTERISTICS OF A HIGH SELF-ESTEEM
Experience a broad range of emotions & feelings
Tolerate frustrations as
they come along
Take responsibility
for your actions
Approach new challenges with
enthusiasm
Are proud of your accomplishments
CHARACTERISTICS OF LOW SELF-ESTEEM
Avoids situations and
experiences that involve risk
Blame others for your failings
Are easily influenced by
others
Feel powerless and are often
defensive
Are easily frustrated
Downplay or belittle talents as not good
enough
Whether or not you open your mouth to speak, you
actually “talk” to yourself all day long.
• I shouldn’t have said that . . . • That was an awesome movie . . . • I really like her . . . • He’s so rude . . . • I hate this class . . . • This tastes awful . . . • I wonder what they think about me . . .
The inner voice sending these
messages affects how you feel
about yourself
BUILDING SELF-ESTEEM: AFFIRMATION
The Brain will believe what we tell it most
We will become what we tell ourselves we
are
Thoughts lead to action
We have to reprogram what
we say to ourselves
SELF-TALK
Self Affirmation:
Replace Negative self-
talk with Positive self
talk
BUILDING SELF ESTEEM
What do you love about yourself? Think of five messages YOU can send yourself
to help create a healthy self-esteem!
Say the message
out loud in front of a
mirror
Send yourself
the message in
a text
Put the message
on a sticky note
where you see it
frequently.
Send yourself
the message
on a social networking
site.
Leave yourself
the message on your
voice mail.
Write yourself
the message in
a letter and mail it
back to yourself.
SELF-AFFIRMATION
LEARN TO
LAUGH!
BUILDING SELF ESTEEM
BUILDING SELF-‐ESTEEM
Learn to take Compliments
DONT . . .
Argue Point out the
negative instead!
Shift the attention or feel like you have to
compliment them back!
DO . . .
Practice accepting
them!
Especially if you have a habit of
rejecting compliments
Believe them!
Stand up tall, look the giver in the eye and say
Thank you!
SETTING & ACHIEVING GOALS:
Find satisfaction in al l of your
accomplishments!
LEARN TO TAKE RISKS: Don’t be afraid of fai lure!
BUILDING SELF ESTEEM
Every person’s story is unique. Even if you life in the same town, go to the same school, or are in the same family. You all have
traveled a unique path to get to where you are today.
Every event in your life, every person you’ve met, and every experience you’ve had has helped contribute to who you are
right now!
You are who you are today as a result of everything that has happened to you!
YOUR STORY
Your unique story carries information about what has happened to you.
It also carries your feelings, both positive and negative. Telling your story is a way to explore, recognize and honor your life. It gives you a
chance to start becoming comfortable looking inside yourself
and seeing who you are.
YOUR STORY
List a minimum of 15 significant memories from your life. Next to each event write the age that it occurred.
• Starting or changing schools • Meeting or losing a friend • Achievements or losses • Family Events like births, marriages, divorces • Travels • Happy or difficult times • Starting school • Moving • Sports Events • Musical Recitals • Joining a Team
CREATE A TIMELINE FOR YOUR STORY
• Timeline requirements:
• One full page • Include color,
pictures/drawings, and/or text
• Include a minimum of 15 life events
When you are done look back over your
timeline. On the back of the paper write a paragraph
describing any observations or
feelings you have about your timeline.
YOUR TIMELINE SHOULD BE:
