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Developing Emotional Intelligence

Chapter Eight

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Developing Emotional Intelligence


Emotional Intelligence, Journal 27

Focus Questions– What is emotional intelligence? – How can you use your emotions as a

compass to stay on course to a rich, fulfilling life?


Emotional Intelligence

• describes an ability, capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of one's self, of others, and of groups.

• It is a relatively new area of psychological research. The definition of EI is constantly changing.

• Daniel Goleman, is the leading psychologist that has identified four components that contribute to emotional effectiveness.


Components of Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Self-Awareness: Knowing your feelings in the moment.

Emotional Self-Management: Managing strong feelings.

Social Awareness: Empathizing accurately with other people’s emotions.

Relationship Management: Handling emotions in relationships with skill and harmony.


Right Now I Feel

1. Right now I feel…

2. I feel angry when…

3. I feel sad when…

4. I feel afraid when…


6. I feel calm when…

7. I feel peaceful when…

8. I feel contented when…


10. I feel loved when…

11. I feel happy when…

12. I feel joyful when…

13.Right now I feel…


Knowing your own Emotions

• Build a vocabulary of feelings.

• Be mindful of emotions as they are happening.

• Understand what is causing your emotion.

• Recognize the difference between a feeling and resulting actions.


Reducing Stress, Journal 28

Focus Question– How can you soothe stressful feelings that

make life unpleasant and threaten to get you off course?


What is Stress?

• It is any interference that disturbs a person’s mental or physical well-being.

• Most of us simply know that it’s the wear and tear that our minds and bodies experience as we attempt to cope with the changes and challenges of life.


Stress in Modern Life

Focuses mostly on:

• Worrying about past events

• Agonizing about present challenges

• Fretting about future changes


Creating Flow, Journal 29

Focus Questions– What are you doing when you feel most

happy to be alive—when you become so absorbed that time seems to disappear?

– How can you create more of these peak experiences in your life?


Creating Flow

• Flow states – are highly enjoyable periods of time, characterized by a total absorption in what one is doing, by a loss of thoughts or concerns about oneself, and by a distorted sense of time.


Two Factors that contribute to Flow

• The challenge a person perceives himself to be facing and

• The related skills he perceives himself to possess.


Develop Self-Love, Journal 30

Focus Questions– How much do you love yourself? – What can you do to love yourself even

more?


Self Love

• Is the core belief that

“ I AM LOVABLE”

It’s the unwavering trust that , no matter

what, I will always love myself and other

people will love me as well.

Self-love is vital to success.


Creating a Self-Care Plan

1. I can nurture myself physically by…

2. I can nurture myself mentally by…

3. I can nurture myself emotionally by…

4. I can nurture myself spiritually by…

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