development of self
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Development of Self. Attachment, connectedness Autonomy, independence. Biological birth Psychological birth. Margaret Mahler Separation-Individuation Process. The psychological birth (the birth of the self) is a slowly unfolding intra-psychic process. Intra-psychic processes. - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
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Development of SelfDevelopment of Self
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• Attachment, connectedness
• Autonomy, independence
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• Biological birth
• Psychological birth
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Margaret MahlerMargaret MahlerSeparation-Individuation ProcessSeparation-Individuation Process
The psychological birth (the birth of the self)
is a slowly unfolding intra-psychic process
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Intra-psychic processes
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Separation - Individuation
1- symbiotic phase 0-3 months
2- differentiation phase 4-10 months
3- early practicing phase 10-12 months
4- practicing phase 12-18 months
5- rapprochement phase 18-24 months
6- consolidation phase 24-48 months
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Symbiotic Phase (0 - 3 months)
Infant cannot differentiate between “I” and “not I”
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Differentiation Phase (4 - 10 months)
Infants begins learning about own body and mother’s body
Infant begins making distinctions between:
– internal sensations and perceptions of the external world
– “I” and “not I”
Hatching
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Early Practicing PhaseEarly Practicing Phase (10 – 12 months)(10 – 12 months)
crawling - walking
• Can initiate separations from mom
• Increased body differentiation
• Special bond w/mom is formed
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Transitional ObjectsTransitional Objects
• It is not the object that is important
It is the nature of the child’s relationship to the object
• An intermediate station between the world of illusion and the world of reality
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Practicing Phase (12 – 18 months)
Walking
• Discovering the world, mastering
• Exhilaration, delight, thrill
• Focus on own expanding abilities
• “I am POWERFUL”
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Practicing Phase (12 - 18 months)
PARENTS’ job:
Allow and enjoy child’s increasing capacity to operate at a distance from them
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Self-RecognitionSelf-Recognition
Perception of self as a separate being, distinct from other people
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Self-RecognitionSelf-Recognition
It presupposes a basic sense of identity
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The Emerging Self in ToddlerhoodThe Emerging Self in Toddlerhood
• Recognize themselves in photographs
• Use their own name & personal pronouns
• Self-conscious emotions (e.g., shame, embarrassment, pride)
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The Emerging Self in ToddlerhoodThe Emerging Self in Toddlerhood
““MINE! MINE! MINE!”MINE! MINE! MINE!”
Establishing boundaries between self and other
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Towards end of practicing phase(15-18 months)
World expands + I can do it all =
= I’m great, life is great!
…but, oh my, I can’t really do it all, and where is my MOMMY??!!
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Rapprochement Phase (18-24 months)Rapprochement Phase (18-24 months)
Increased sense of separateness
Will my mom be here for me…?
• Reappearance of separation anxiety, clinginess• Need to consolidate separation & individuation• Ambivalence • Neediness and clinging- Escalating demands for autonomy- Screaming and tears
Rapprochement crisis
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Rapprochement Phase (18 - 24 months)
PARENTS’ JOB:
If parent gives in to clinginess stifles child’s need for independence
If parent rejects clinginess overlooks child’s need for connection and security
So what’s a parent to do…?
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Rapprochement Phase (18 - 24 months)
Tolerate ambivalence and negativism
Respond flexibly to conflicting demands
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GOOD ENOUGH MOTHER
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Consolidation of Individuation (2-4 yrs.)Consolidation of Individuation (2-4 yrs.)
• sense of separateness
• sense of individuality
• need to assert own will
• wish to please parent
Early separation anxiety Anxiety over losing mom’s love/approval
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PARENTING TODDLERS
The challenges of toddlerhood—negativism, defiance, temper tantrums, no-win situations—are not only inevitable but valuable experiences for toddlers, in the process of becoming individuals aware of their own needs and the needs of others
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NOOOOOO !!
Parents: • you can’t eat the dirt from the plants no matter
how yummy it tastes• you can’t fed pancakes to the VCR• you can’t pull the cat’s tail• you can’t hit me when I tell you “no”
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NOOOOOO !!
Toddlers:• I’m not your clone• I won’t relinquish my sense of myself to
do what you want me to do
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“I wannit, I needit”
• Toddlers desire things w/passion & urgency
• The world doesn’t always yield
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Temper Tantrums
Oh no, my will does not reign supreme!!!!
This realization is essential for living within a family
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Temper Tantrums
• Healthy development: help toddler learn that frustration, anger, and despair are part of the human experience and do not lead to lasting emotional collapse.
• Emotional cost: toddlers are scared of displeasing parents (losing their love & approval).
Parent as the secure base from which toddler explores not only “the world”, but also the wide range of feelings.
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““Even when I am angry with you, Even when I am angry with you, I still love you!I still love you!””
CYCLES OF DISAGREEMENT AND RECONCILIATION
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Consolidation of Individuation (2-4 yrs.)Consolidation of Individuation (2-4 yrs.)
PARENTS’ job:
Cycles of disagreement and reconciliation:
the cornerstone of the toddler’s psychological growth
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from “SECURE BASE”
to “PARTNERSHIP”
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PARTNERSHIP
• Partnership is unequal: the parent is raising the child.
• Parental firmness and boundaries give toddler the freedom to explore.
• Partnership results in more complex sense of security.
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Self Concept
A set of beliefs about
one’s own characteristics
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Self-ConceptSelf-Concept
LEVEL PHYSICAL ACTIVITY SOCIAL PSYCH
CATEGORICAL (4-7 YEARS)
I have blue eyes
I play baseball I’m her friend I am smart
COMPARATIVE (8-11 YEARS)
I’m bigger than most boys
I’m not so good at math
I’m a better friend than most
I’m not as smart as most kids
INTERPERSONAL IMPLICATIONS (12-15 YEARS)
I’m blond which is good cause most boys like me
I play well so all the teams want me
I’m honest so people trust me
I’m smart so kids come to me with their problems
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In sum…
Categorical
Comparative
Interpersonal Implications
• Make few generalizations• Unrealistically positive self-descriptions
• Use higher-order concepts that integrate more specific behavioral features
• Coordinate opposing self-representations
• Think about how they affect others and others affect them
• Focus on abstract characteristics• Conceive of multiple selves