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Dispute Resolution
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Do you experience anger, anxiety or stress
because of a difficult person in your Region?
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Have you met this person?
4/10/09 Dealing with Difficult People 3
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What are the factors that make people difficult?
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Difficult People Usually:• Know it all• Want it done their way or else• Are irrational • Think they are special or want special treatment• Only work alone and are controlling• Are disrespectful to AYSO and its philosophies• Want to be in charge• Always find something to complain about • Are verbally abusive, intimidating ,or bullying• Deal with gossip or politics rather than facts
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Activity
•Give examples of how these different groups can be difficult.
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Parents on the sideline of games
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Referees/Coaches
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Regional Board Members
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My Area Directorand
Section Director
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What can you do?
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These tips will help……• Keep it in perspective• Don’t be defensive• Look for the lesson you can learn• Make sure the right person is
handling the problem• Use the tools that AYSO provides in
these difficult situations
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More Tips• Be positive and patient• Focus on the problem, NOT the person • Keep an open mind • Try to understand the other person’s
point of view • Seek the other person’s ideas • End on a positive note
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Don’t …..
• React immediately; on emotional high
• Take it personally• Cut the other person off• Disrespect the other person • Raise your voice• Pre-judge people
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Regions should seek to resolve all disputes
involving people in an amicable fashion.
Compromise is preferable to more severe forms of
resolution.
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Remember that volunteers need to be approved each year. Your
Region can choose not to appoint a Coach or a Referee without having to go through
due process.
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Almost all problems in the Region
can be addressed without the need for a formal process.
However, for severe problems that cannot be resolved without
implementation of formal discipline,
a formalized due process procedure
should be followed.
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Lower level remedies may bring many day-to-day problems to a happier end if they are identified early and handled fairly. These remedies include:
EvaluationAdditional education/trainingAdditional supervisionMentoringCounselingBehavioral and performance contractsRestitution (financial and in-kind service)Warnings
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When it is determined that a non-executive member involved in the Region needs to be disciplined or that his or her participation in the Region should be limited, suspended or terminated, the Regional Commissioner should ensure that the procedures used provide for appropriate fairness and due process.
Due process requires that the person who is the subject of the potential discipline be provided with:
(1) notice and (2) an opportunity to be heard.
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AYSO provides all sorts of support to help you with
Due Process.
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Study the Flow Chart
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Go to ayso.org and read through the Due Process
procedures
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Contact your Area Director and get advice about the
process.
Don’t give specifics.
(The AD might have to be involved in the appeal
process)
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Run a quality AYSO program and your problems will be
few.
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